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Thread: Girlfriend lying to me!!

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    Default Girlfriend lying to me!!

    So I've been dating this girl for 9 months now, and we have gotten quite serious. We have had our hiccups, along the way, but generally, things have been good.

    Whenever there have been problems, they have been because of her closeness to her best friend, who is a guy. They have known each other for 2 years, and he is like a complete AFC. She calls him her brother, but he clearly has feelings for her, since she is seriously good looking.

    I eventually put my foot down, and told her that I was not going to tolerate their closeness anymore, as he constantly tries to brainwash her against me, and this one time, when the three of us met, she was spending all her time with him, and I felt alienated and pathetic.

    She eventually agreed to maintain a distance from the guy. However, recently, she has been meeting him behind my back. I know, because they have been seen together by some of my friends. She denies it completely and puts the blame on me for not trusting her. On top of that, she is constantly chatting with him, despite my annoyance at this behaviour. Now, I do not know what to do. She has hidden from me in the past as well as she did not want to cause a fight. However, even when I sweetly tell her, that it is alright, you can meet him if you want to, just do not lie to me, she is still hiding their meetings from me.

    I do not mean to act needy or beta, but this really hurts, as I have genuine feelings for this girl, and want their to be honesty in our relationship. I would never hide from her, or make a close friend of the opposite gender, as I respect her and our relationship too much. Now, I have reached a point where I do not even mind their closeness, just as long as I can break this cycle of constant lies. Any idea how I should go about this from here? I ideally would not like to break up. By the way, we are both 21, if that helps.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend lying to me!!

    Honestly.... take out the hook & throw this one back in the pond!

    That's exactly like my ex was. I can relate 100%.
    It NEVER gets better. It never gets easier.... & she'll never let go of him or stop the interactions with him.

    You'll constantly be stressed & irritated with her & will never be able to fully trust her.

    I personally tried to hang in there as long as I could, with my ex... but it just wasn't worth it.

    You'll be better off (and MUCH happier) if you cut the cord & bid her farewell.
    Yeah, it's gonna suck for a couple weeks as ANY breakup does. But trust me, you don't wanna stay in this situation.


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    Default Re: Girlfriend lying to me!!

    @T-Mal could he not game other girls? this would make her feel like she has to compete for his attention in his case if he chooses to stay with her but in this case by gaming I mean have other girls chasing him so she would feel like she has competition...

    To OP I agree with T-Mal you're better off cutting your losses on this one and look for another
    "A man who stands for nothing, will fall for anything" - Malcom X

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    Default Re: Girlfriend lying to me!!

    well if you dont wanna play games end it--save yourself the headache.

    if you wanna play games, get even and start hanging out with girls you're not dating or flirting with.

    there's no reason for you to try to change her and tell her what to do. it'll just work in her friend's favor in leaving you. you have to act like you can walk away scott free. remember if she feels she can't have you she'll want you more.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Girlfriend lying to me!!

    Kylemc...
    Yes! He should Absolutely game other girls. (good additional point that I didn't mention)

    But, I would still recommend dropping this one like a rock!


    Artandale also added solid advice.
    Don't try to change her... but you have to be willing to walk, even if you stay for now.


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