Re: Recovery help please!
you're getting stuck in banter.. you need to switch things up and just pull the trigger to meet up. your next reopner should be more direct and less baloney to build comfort. she already thinks you're an ok person and can hold a conversation. she's more than likely willing to meet you up for something to get to know you more. honestly i'd stay away from food or coffee or beer for meeting each other--you both do that for work. be more interesting--see about something like a hobby you haven't done in a while and see if she'd wanna join... nothing too crazy but something kind of social--like going to a thrift shop to buy some weird lamp for your room or going bowling (treat it like a game with your guy friends where all you guys are doing is entertaining yourselves by being stupid, talking about whatever but trying to bowl awkwardly so you can have inside jokes later with when you walk out of the bowling alley) or something... pick something where you can pick her brain outside of food / jobs so it doesn't seem like an interview and more of getting to know who she is emotionally through her goals, dreams, and expectations to build beyond where most guys would start with at a typical date. i'd really avoid dinner and a movie... you want to make it feel like you both have already been dating so then she feels comfortable around you should you just want to continue to date her or escalate more for kiss and maybe some sex. its up to you really, you gotta decide what you want but what i'm trying to say is that you're getting really close to losing her interest if you keep bantering.
also if you guys do get hungry--plan your logistics right... if you go shopping or bowling or something make it close to your house--this way if she loses bowling she can buy groceries and you guys can cook a meal together which feels like boyfriend / girlfriend things. you'll have the options to escalate further if you want too. as for shopping you can suggest stopping by the store to pick up a few things and you're gonna make dinner--if she comes over you'll have plenty to share with if shes hungry. so yeah... work it out.
Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.