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Thread: To text or not text - again....

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    Default To text or not text - again....

    So I approached this girl down at the lake when we had a couple of beers last weekend. We had a good chat and talked for dunno 10 to 15 minutes maybe. She was single and I felt like we had a good connection. However before I asked her for her number her brother interrupted our little talk quite fiercely and both left almost immediatley .... you know what I mean I guess

    Next day she added me on facebook so I thought "what the hell just send her a quick message" and wrote something along the lines "hey no idea what happend yesterday you were suddenly gone, still it was fun talking to you, we should hang out someday, what do you think?"

    That was 3 days ago but so far there was no reply. I find this whole behaviour a little contradictory so now I am wondering wether to NEXT her immediately or to send her just one litte tongue-in-cheek reminder like "hey just for the record my invitations have a strict expiration date of 7 days ".

    Gimme your opinion on this! Cheers!

    fancy

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    Default Re: To text or not text - again....

    "A good chat" doesn't build attraction. It builds rapport.
    And your message "...we should hang out, what do you think?" doesn't convey any confidence.

    If you want to text her, that's totally OK... but don't send THAT text. (hey just for the record my invitations have a strict expiration date of 7 days)

    It will put her on the spot & pressure her, which she's likely going to ignore.

    Instead, send something just to get her interacting with you.
    Check my "List of magic texts" for some examples.

    You need to spark curiosity by standing out from every other dude who also happens to be hitting on her.

    Right now, you haven't done anything to get her attention. But it's still early in the process & you have a chance to turn things around.


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    Default Re: To text or not text - again....

    hi T-Mal

    First of all sorry for my very late reply and thanks for your great examples! So I tried to give the conversation a new approach and tried to do it in a more fun way f course.

    Used one of your openers and then let her know that my job takes me to her town on monday and that she could be my perfect little excuse for a coffee brake.

    Guess what, it worked. So far. She replied almost immediately "Hey sure lets do that where do you want me to meet you??"

    So I suggested a place and a time. That has been 24hrs ago. Since then it is silence again.

    I don't get it what's wrong now ?

    cheers
    fancy

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    Default Re: To text or not text - again....

    Quote Originally Posted by fancy View Post
    hi T-Mal

    First of all sorry for my very late reply and thanks for your great examples! So I tried to give the conversation a new approach and tried to do it in a more fun way f course.

    Used one of your openers and then let her know that my job takes me to her town on monday and that she could be my perfect little excuse for a coffee brake.

    Guess what, it worked. So far. She replied almost immediately "Hey sure lets do that where do you want me to meet you??"

    So I suggested a place and a time. That has been 24hrs ago. Since then it is silence again.

    I don't get it what's wrong now ?

    cheers
    fancy
    You can simply just re-confirm 'I'm about to travel, see you at ____ at___o'clock'. If she doesn't respond or flakes it's her loss and you found out she's flighty without wasting too much time. Ultimately you are going out of your way and if she does not recognise that she is being a rude person.

    Some girls are really good with setting up a date time, others are completely hopeless and don't want to deal with such 'factual details'. Perhaps some kind of emotional statement could work in that she's not agreeing to meet at a static time and place but agreeing to meet for a fun 'purpose'. Something she wants and can look forward to.

    A wildcard could be 'I have a suprise for you' or 'I have a funny story to tell you'. Make sure it's not an expensive present or anything like that. Perhaps the suprise could be that you're going to kiss her (kiss her later when she asks what the suprise is) or take her somewhere interesting that she might not expect or bring some tasty unusual snack food or ensure you have an interesting story to share with her. I wouldn't normally recommend that but it once worked on a girl that was not responding back to me as I wanted.

    When travelling you can really use time constraints to your advantage.

    If you do meet up remember to Kino!


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