I've been having some mild success on POF lately. Pulled 7 numbers, had 3 dates, a 4th next week, and a day 2 tomorrow. However, I'm slowly learning that I'm not as good as I thought I was, and I've completely hit a point where I want to dive into this head first instead of dipping my toe in the water to hope it might be warm. My text game needs work, and my day 1's are forced, comfort is a slight problem for me, and I'm not escalating in matters I should.
Was chatting up a HB9.5 last week. Started out rocky but I saved it with a humbling move (for lack of a better term). The conversation started sliding into comfort, but I think I may have indulged too much. It's a little long, I apologize in advance.
Me: You seem sweet and possibly quite fun with a hint of a dorky side You might be a girl I could get along with, just as long as you don't mind staying in a night or two for a hardcore game of rock paper scissors...
Her: Haha thank you ;p
Not a problem I'll stay in with u
Me: Haha, is that an admission of interest or a challenge? If it's a challenge, I'm not quite sure you know what your getting yourself into...
Her: Hmm challenge
Me: I'll pretend like it's not both... I gotta warn you, I'm really good
Her: Pretend all u want.
Me: You don't have to play hard to get... It'd be so much easier if you just told me you wanted to grab coffee
Her: Yes one day I would
Me: Well why don't you give me your number and we can just text like normal people...
Me (a few hours later, my humbling move): Actually, you know what, don't give it to me. I feel like we didn't really get a chance to get to know each other at all... it's just a little less time consuming texting, but I had a few dates from here that actually went terrible because I didn't get to know their sense of humor... I am curious to know a little bit more about this sassy side you have tho
Her: Thank u! Whenever I give out my number guys stop talking within the first day or a couple like its rediculous and a waste of time then I'm back on here like fml lol
Ask me anything I'll tell u. I'm a big goof ball and a big kid at heart at the right times lol I do have my blonde moments not gonna lie but it's not dumb it's funny when it happens I've heard cute also and my sassiness comes from my Italian side lol what about u?
Me: Haha, that's so weird, usually if I get someone’s number I'm trying to talk to them too much in the first day and then I'm back on here like fml lol... I love it. I can be so cheesy, I literally can't control it. I can't even tell you how many times I've said a joke in the middle of a group of people and heard crickets because nobody got it. Of course I explain it and they're all like "oh yeah, not really that funny now, but we get it." lol. I keep trucking though and eventually get one that sticks. But I’ll call someone up from my family and tell them later and they’ll always be like “hahaha that’s hilarious!” Guess my whole family is goofy haha.
Her: Haha that's awesome!! My dad will tell jokes and everyone will laugh and 5 minutes later I'm like hahaha omg that's so funny! And of course they laugh at that. That's just how it goes sometimes for me lol. I like that ur a funny guy .. U kno.. That's the way to a girls heart! Well mine at least lol
Me: Well it DEFINITELY sounds like you have some blonde in you than That's so the opposite of my family, my mom definitely has the wit, my dad is just so funny because he's really corny and he never realizes it. He'll tell a joke and be the only one laughing, and then the rest of us have to laugh cause he thought it was so hysterical lol... I like that you have a sense of humor, it makes a girl so much cuter. Though I gotta warn you I'm pretty sarcastic and dry, I'm not sure you'll be able to keep up... ;o)
Thought I was on the right track. In fact, the last one I wrote, I did so without checking or reconstructing. Which may have been my problem, got a little too comfortable with the situation... For her last comment, should I have gone back into attraction and suggested a meet up? Not sure if I offended or pushed to hard, but I haven't heard back in 5 days. I might try one more "humbling" message to re-engage but I think I'll chalk it up as a loss and take it as a learning experience... with your guy's advice that is.