I have come to realize that my text game needs some improvements: I can't calibrate how often I should write, how long my texts should be and I suspect my texts come off as too generic. Online guides are not enough and I could really use some practical advice.
So, I met this chick last Sunday at a meetup (we all met to watch some movie and we hanged out for some drinks later on). We sat next to each other and started chatting almost exclusively between us 2. She then asked me if I wanted to walk with her until the metro station and I accepted. She chatted some more and things were going pretty smooth between us, so I asked for her phone number.
2 days later, I sent her a text suggesting that we meet for lunch (she was talking about a nice Japanese place, so that was my cue) and she readily agreed. So, we met yesterday and had a really good time. I even pulled out the cube routine and she loved it I know this goes against PUA doctrine, but I did pay for the lunch (we are both 30 and have comfortable jobs, I really wanted to behave like a gentleman). She seemed a bit embarrassed and she kept saying "thank you". Whatever...
Before parting ways, I suggested that we meet again for cycling or a walk in the woods during the week-end if the weather was good. She said ok but with a reservation as she already had some other plans.
Now, that's when things started getting complicated. I looked at the weather forecast and I saw it would pour this week-end. This was also a good excuse for me to stay inside to study a bit as I have a big exam coming up. I initially intended to write her on Friday but I sent her a text today instead. I mentioned a change of plans and suggested that we meet for drinks on Friday eve instead.
Question: Is it ok to text a girl to ask her out while I just met her the day before? I just wonder if that makes me look desperate...
So, she replies a bit later with the following text:
"Hi xxx, thanks again for the lunch! I am pretty packed with stuff this weekend but how about a lunch/drink next week, maybe Thursday? In the meantime, I hope you are enjoying the good weather!!!"
I decided to reply before posting here, just to see how I can manage by myself. I also tried to cut the generic crap and get a tiny bit more personal (I don't know if I managed this). We had a first date and I have to increase the flirting from now on.
I replied the following:
"haha, quite busy I see! I hope it isn't anything work related
I actually wanted to take you somewhere "special", but I guess it will have to wait until next week
Enjoy the w-e and let's stay in touch! x"
I don't know how this looks, but I tried to do things by the book:
1st line: commenting on something she said + small neg (kind of implying she is a workaholic)
2nd line: keep her interesting by building up anticipation
3rd line: ending on a positive note
Maybe I am over-analazing all this, but I am making baby steps at the moment. I need to step up my skills and I can only do so with experimentation. If it doesn't work out with this chick, well so be it.
It's just that I don't know anybody who could give me any objective feedback and make concrete suggestions. I have a female wingman but she keeps making fun of my style and keeps saying that I suck at this. I don't trust her too much though. She completely rewrote some of my draft texts in the past and the results were not particularly better.
Would you also have some general advice about how to handle text game? I was never a big fan of texting, so I never really learned how to handle this shit. You don't go far in gaming girls without it though...
Thanks in advance, mates