Re: So, do I initiate texting from now on or do I let her do it?
I'm tired of being played for a sucker so I am upping the ante a bit here. My homegirl texts me and initiates every freaking day and it gets annoying. Then she texts me all day and when I ignore her she'll send 2-3 more. She broke up with her BF for me and hung out with her at her house. Next time going for some play time. Anyway I normally over text like I said so I am freezing this other 10 out from the bar till Friday when I get my tattoo and inviting her over cuz I got the place to myself this weekend which is rare.
So anyway I sent the 10 5 texts the day after and put her on a freeze since I got no response. Because her interest level is low over texting will only make it way worse. This is why I am waiting till Friday. But I ain't just going to throw it all on the table. To play "Hot & Cold" I choose to blow up her phone the other day put her on a freeze for like a week and blow up her phone again this Friday. I will have to try calling her which sucks cuz that will be nerve wrecking. But at least I got a plan to hang out and her to spend the night. But more of lead into that. Now anyway even if she ignores me Friday just to be a bit of a d!ck I will send her pics of my tattoo just to show I don't care because that's what I want.
The reason being is largely outcome independence. I think women feel that way because when they feel you are attached to the outcome they often reject you flat on your face. "Sorry I have a BF." "There is nothing going on between us." "I am going back to my EX". "This is not her." I am sick of all the lies and BS so I am just playing them a bit by my outcome independence. After dating and texting a couple chicks at work I found out outcome independence and freeze outs can be very effective. The longer I can freeze the more I prolong rejection. The more I text them everyday the more I am seeing fallout. This is why I try to stay along as long as possible so they have some investment and it is harder to let go for them. Even by not texting them and them not texting me they are investing in me because they are wondering what happened to "the guy I met at the bar?" Rather than "oh another daily text from king douchebag".
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