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    Default First date-where?what?

    Hi artists !

    As you probably know (and I found out not so far ago...), you don't spend a big buck on a girl before you go to bed. But if you can't go in a resto for a supper, what can you do? Go for a coffe at Starbucks? For a walk? Something else?

    Some ideas, please!

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    -Coffee
    -Ice cream
    -Animal shelter
    -Beach
    -Walk in the park
    -Disc golf
    -Fishing
    -Paddle boarding
    -Kayaking
    -Biking
    -Sculpture garden
    -Art exhibit
    -Bowling

    The possibilities are endless.

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    The main point about a first date for me is to a) have awesome conversation b) have an opportunity for Kino (or more). Creating an emotional and physical connection.

    In this regard it can come down to age. The majority of my dates revolve around casual bars/lounge bars. 'Lets catch up for a quick drink'.

    From my perspective I have to judge whether this girl is worth my time so I like organizing a quick meet up first and often use time constraints or sponteneity. At a bar its usually very easy to talk, its usually more dimly lit or has nice ambient lighting, there is background music, noise, action, other people conversing, things to inspire conversation subjects etc and that makes it easier for girls to open up about many things. There is also alcohol. While I dont go and get drunk, a wine or two opens both of us up.

    It is also great for kino because its much easier to touch a girl at a bar than it may be in other locations. Choose a bar near a nice kiss location and you can 'go for a walk' after.

    I avoid anything to do with recreational pursuits, outdoors, movies etc because they can limit the first two parts of my post: conversation and kino. A girl is also far more likely to invest in a quick drink or quick coffee than a planned hike in the mountains or wandering around an art gallery for hours. They are much better dates down the line once you already have your target and you want to strengthen the actual relationship.

    If you invest too much time in a first date she will see you thinking too much about her already and it takes away possibilities of her chasing you. Too much investment is too much investment whether someone invests in money and buys a gift for a girl or organises an adventurous recreational date. If you meet with the attitude of 'I'm not 100% sure about this girl yet' she will hopefully sense that and have to try harder to have you attracted to her.

    If something comes up in conversation like 'oh yeah that band is awesome!' and then you both decide to see the band, thats fine but again preferably you want a situation to make great conversation between the two of you. Rather than great conversation after the fact about seeing the band. You want her returning home thinking about you - not a band, or a gallery or a putt putt course. Naturally special things might happen on those kinds of dates that make her attracted to you, but ultimately you want to have her falling for you simply based on your mind - how you articulate yourself.

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    These two posts above mine are all you need. Directisbest gave you infinite ideas for first date fun. Whitedragon gave you all the composure you need. All my first dates have consisted of coffee and a walk, or a drink and a walk. It's all you need. You have all the information you need already.

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    If you want good date and banter idea, you can download the Art of charm app for the iphone. It's a good app

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    Thanks, guys! I realy appreciate it !

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    P.S. And a first kiss? Do you go for it on a first date? T-Mal was talking in one post about a power of touch (as much as possible ), but a kiss... I imagine you don't wait to much or even for a second date, but I could be wrong...

    Experts, please !

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    The kiss isn't as big a deal as a lot of guys think.
    Girls are looking for that "spark" too... so kissing her is one way to make sure there's a spark.

    If you kiss her on the first "date" you're pretty much guaranteed a second date. (Unless you totally go AFC & blow it)
    But don't make the kiss seem like it's such a big deal.

    The key is to build attraction first... not rapport.
    If a girl is attracted, she'll kiss you.

    If you build rapport without attraction, you're making a "friend"... and friends don't kiss.

    You have to express interest in her, but don't come off as being too eager. You need to exercise some patience & self control, but you definitely need to let her know you're interested in her as more than just friends.

    Combining touch with flirting will do that.


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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    Hey, thanks, men ! Yes, I need some practice lol... Finished reading Tao Of Badass system, but it had littlebit too much informations for a first timer like me and I started reading for a second time, this time slower with notes. I'll try to apply some principals from that book on my game.

    Everything comes with practice. Started talking with girls in my bus and I'm not as bad as I was thinking... And my confidence is higher than I was thinking... First few times are hard, after that is easy. My biggest problem now, as I see it, is a fear of rejection. I had my share of rejections and I am fed up of it, but I didn't know The Game... I'm gonna apply everything I learned here and in the books and we'll see how it will go...

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    Default Re: First date-where?what?

    I would like to ask whether dhv routines should be used on the first date? Like do cold reading or stuff like that? And what would be the best way to go for the kiss?


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