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    Mguy36 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Doesn't want to date

    Been with the same girl for the last 6 months. It evolved from FWB for the first 3 months, to being "exclusive" for the last 3 months. In my mind we are "dating", sleepovers, text every day, PDA hang out multiple times a week, etc...I really enjoy her company.

    For some reason she refuses to say that we are dating. Her mom called me her boyfriend yesterday and she told her mom I wasn't. Then we were at the bar last night and she made some comment, don't remember exactly what, but I teased her by saying "I wouldn't want to date someone like that!" and she responded "we aren't dating!"

    I guess I am just a little frustrated by it, I know labels don't mean everything but it makes me feel a little insecure. She wants me to take off of work Friday and hang out with her all day but at this point I may say screw it. I have brought up before that we should date and she says she "likes where things are now". How can I get her to commit?

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    Default Re: Doesn't want to date

    It sounds like you guys are already dating.

    you have two options as a man: state what you need and be willing to walk away, or figure out why you feel insecure about not having this label validated by her. I suggest you do the second.

    Trying to "make" her commit to the label is manipulative. It's also co-dependent behavior. So nip this at the bud.

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    Default Re: Doesn't want to date

    Snag up some interest in another girl. She doesn't want to be exclusive, fine, that simply means your free to do what you want.

    I don't want to put a dark turn on this for you, but if she doesn't want to date exclusively it may mean that she already enjoys hanging out with you along with hanging out with other guys.

    Don't push this one. It's clear that if you've already commented on your dating and she didn't reply positively, pushing the subject more is only going to make her back away. Meet another girl somewhere, hang out with her, whether it be platonic or sexual. You don't need to directly state it, but you don't need to hide it either. Eventually, your Mindset will start to shift and she'll see your sole interest in her fading away. If she doesn't want to lose it, she'll suggest you be exclusive.

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    daffyff is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Doesn't want to date

    But they are exclusive, and have been for the past 3 months. She just hates the term "dating."

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    whitedragon is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Doesn't want to date

    Awsome, then you can start dating other girls AND be with her as Bballking said. She how she reacts to that!

    Or tease her sarcastically and go the other extreme 'Hey wifey! Whats for dinner tonight?'


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