I've seen a lot of guys questioning when & how often to text a girl after setting a date.
My friend Hydro wrote a blog entry that explains it perfectly.
Sooooo, here it is:
So you chatted with a little cutie at the club, you got her number and you finally set up the date… BOOM! You’re done, right?
Hahaha! I wish! After you set up the date you must keep in touch with her daily, if not… every other day!
Whether it’s just a simple text saying something like, “Man, if I knew today was going to be this hot I would have NOT worn all black.” You’re not talking about the date; you’re not talking about anything really, just making a statement about something that’s happening about your or your day.
This is what you do to keep her in the loop and letting her know you didn’t forget about her without flat out saying you didn’t forget.
In every relationship, whether it’s friendships or girls you’re dating, communication is key. Everybody says they know this but rarely do it. You must communicate with the girl after you set up the date so you don’t lose it. If you don’t stay in contact with her YOU WILL LOSE THE DATE. The whole goal of getting a girls number is to either date her, hook up with her or make her your girlfriend and all this stuff takes some effort so shooting a few texts or calls isn’t much.
If you set up the date on a Thursday for next Tuesday and don’t text or call her until Monday night or Tuesday (the day of the date) you may have lost the date to her setting something up with someone else or to her hanging out with her friends.
You can flirt through texts, you can hold as long of a conversation as you want with her, but do not go days without pinging her.
A lot of guys think, “Well I set it up she should know I’m not going to cancel.” Imagine if a girl you thought was cute wanted to hang out with you next week and set something up right and then didn’t communicate with you at all until the day of hanging out you’d flip right?
I know I would, I’d be ripping out whatever hair I have left in my head thinking a million things on why she’s not going to call, text or why she’s going to cancel/flake.
Same thing goes for them, if they’re into you and you don’t ping you’re going to throw them through a loop and they’ll either cancel themselves out or set something else up.
Like I said earlier, PING DAILY! If your texting isn’t all that great and you’re a better talker then shoot her a quick text and then call her. If you’re not that great on the phone, text all you want, I recommend mastering both.
I can’t stress it enough… ping her daily. You may be thinking to yourself, “That’s too much work.” well guess what, that little extra bit of work goes a long way. Dating is not easy and if it were we’d all be surrounded by beautiful women. So keep it fun when you do this stuff.
A couple examples of random texts to ping her:
You: I need a coffee!!!
You: If I had a quarter for every unhappy person I’ve ran into today… let me tell ya! lol
You: I think I’m going to get sushi after work today… Yup, sushi it is!
That’s all it takes to keep her in the loop so you can have yourself a date, sir!
So here’s what to do so you can practice all this since practicing makes everyone better at what they do.
Text or call every girl you have in your phone that you’re interested in right now and set up a date. After you set it up have a conversation with her AT LEAST once a day until the day of the date.
You can make it as simple as this…
You: I need a coffee!!!
Her: Looks like somebody had a late night.
You: Nooooooo, I didn’t sleep good last night, I kept tossing and turning… UGH!
You can leave it like that and then text her the next day with something new. See, it only takes TWO TEXTS at a minimum to keep yourself a date. I’m not saying do this every day because leaving her hanging isn’t cool but I’m saying that it’s not that hard to text a girl so you don’t lose out on whatever it is you want from her.
Stay up, playboy!