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    Default Bad Habit, texting over sexual escalating.

    Started noticing that Everytime I get a girl's number I always do too much sexual escalation and jokes, and less of building rapport. When I first started I got this bad habit started in me that you shouldn't ask questions like "what do you like to do?" And " when's your birthday?" And other Fluff like that to build rapport because that doesn't differentiate you from all the other guys that talk to her so now I got this bad habit of over sexual escalating and always looking for the end result. Lol now I've finally targeted what's been messing me up and decided I needed help so any advice would be very helpful, thanks guys.
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    Default Re: Bad Habit, texting over sexual escalating.

    I ALWAYS escalate over text & messaging.
    But, you're right about over-doing it & being too goal focused. You can definitely go overboard if you're not careful.

    The trick is to learn balance. Once you build attraction & escalate a bit, dial it back & start with rapport. Then release rapport & go back to flirting/escalating.

    Repeat process as often as needed.


    Rapport build comfort. And you DO need some degree of comfort to continue moving things forward. But too much can be disastrous, and land you in the friend zone, if there's not enough attraction.

    Most of the time a guy will be too result oriented because he's focusing solely on one particular girl, instead of communicating with multiple girls at once.

    That creates a scarcity mentality, & causes us to go overboard on one girl, or push too far too soon.

    When you're chatting with multiple girls, you realize that you have plenty of options, so you don't get in a big rush.



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    Default Re: Bad Habit, texting over sexual escalating.

    I see what you're talking about, it's not like a oneitis or anything like that. I get your point though. I stopped texting the girls for a couple of days now to let things calm down, do you think that's a good strategy?
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    Default Re: Bad Habit, texting over sexual escalating.

    I wouldn't totally stop texting them... I would just dial back the sexual nature of them a bit & focus more on just having fun.

    Send little random texts that don't have a whole lot of purpose, other than keeping the line of communication open.

    Going total dead air on a girl can cause her to lose interest or make her think YOU have.

    Even little messages like these can help keep her interest level up & prevent her from forgetting about you:

    "Summertime, hot & humid... thank God for air conditioning! "

    "I don't know about you, but I smile every time I see a mother duck walking her baby chicks across a street. "

    "I just had THE BEST cup of coffee in the history of EVER! I just had to tell someone! "

    "Why does a good pizza seem to make everything just perfect in the world? I'm happier than a kid on Christmas right now! "


    Or whatever..

    They don't really require a response, but they usually get one... and they show you're not afraid to open up & share something personal about yourself... which totally builds connections with girls.


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    Default Re: Bad Habit, texting over sexual escalating.

    Hmm got it!! Lol with me it's all about having convos. Got it now, thanks a lot!
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