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Thread: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

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    Default I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Hi. I'm 36 and look like I'm 30. In very good shape and have been told that I'm very good looking. Last night a girl told me that I had an unfriendly arrogant look always on my face and that most girls would view me as unapproachable? I am by no means arrogant! How can I come off as more approachable??? I feel like I've been c-blocking myself!!

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Just smile more, like you're having a good time. Everyone I know who is good with girls always is smiling and just enjoying the conversation.

    By the way, you could have totally used that to your advantage. Like go with what she said and take it to the extreme and she would find it funny... Honestly it could not even be true too, just some dumb b!tch saying shit

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Two things here...

    If you act like youre having a great time they will see it as such. It took me a while to get used to this but after enough experimenting with my own body language in college i dont come off as that unapproachable way any more. If it feels like you're acting its cuz you are. The only time its disingenuous is when the act doesn't fit the situation. Match your body language to to the situation you want to present. If you want to talk to a lot of people you have to go and talk to them--they aren't going to come to you.

    2nd thing...
    When someone says that about you--don't get defensive, acknowledge it and tell them that there was no one interesting to be excited about. This is really cocky--so make it funny when you say it so they get thrown off their high horse for DLVing you. Most people are quick to judge and last to admit. Its not youre fault how they think of you--its only your fault for letting it effect you.

    Everything you say or do should be filled with intent and composure unless you are being honest in showcasing your vulnerability to work towards something.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Don't let her words get to you. How should a complete stranger who just met you, and doesn't know anything about you, claim to know all of that?

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    YOU NEED TO SMILE MORE ...... Cant tell you how many girls I opened with just a good smile on my face and a simple "HI"

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Hey OP find a laughter yoga club near your house and attend it at least ten weeks in a row. Your problem will be solved!

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Quote Originally Posted by routine View Post
    Hi. I'm 36 and look like I'm 30. In very good shape and have been told that I'm very good looking. Last night a girl told me that I had an unfriendly arrogant look always on my face and that most girls would view me as unapproachable? I am by no means arrogant! How can I come off as more approachable??? I feel like I've been c-blocking myself!!
    One BIG question to ask yourself here: are you genuinely happy of your life?

    If you are you will certainly seem more approach-able even you are not that good looking.

    If you are not, smilling more or keep an open body language or relax your face muscle ...are not going to help you much

    Choose happinenss, choose to look at the bright side of things. You will naturally look approachable.

    Every succesful seducer I have meet have make an important decision to choose happiness. Now it's your time to make this decision, routine.

    {This might sound no-relevant, but it's actually is. I am just talk to you guys about the big picture and the truth that lies behind.]


    Hope this help,
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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    It's all in the body language! A confidant persona is key & will overcome any kind of arrogance. The other fellas are right, smiling more will help. I've always been told like I have this "up to no good smile" on my face (never told in a negative perspective).... & I'm well aware of that because it's something I developed.
    I wish I was little bit taller
    I wish I was a baller
    I wish I had a girl who looked good
    I would call her - Skee Lo, the OG AFC

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    That's just one person's opinion. Different peope could perceive you in completely different ways, don't put too much weight on one one person says.

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    Default Re: I was told that I looked arrogant and unapproachable!

    Also as much as these things are very good points to improve your game you should look at her words as an oppurtunity to turn a steaming pile of a turd compliment to a golden oppurtunity. Its kind of a harsh sh!ttest and i think that you can change the situation pretty easily if you are good in conversation by preloading and qualifying the situation and her actions.

    In the end its her perception that she has a problem with. If everyone else thinks otherwise then its pretty clear she's got a bit of a sour perspective.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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