It's been a while since I've last been here. Things have been going great.
But as of now I'm puzzled. I would like to hear your view on the following, it may help me decide.
Next year I will be on the board of a students waterpolo & swimming association. There will also be a girl on the board whom I've had sex with a couple of times. But the last few months her and I have been trying to avoid anything sexual. However we did make out a few times while under the influence. Yesterday I was with her all day long, had a bbq with the association, and we ended up laying on her bed. We didn't make out or had sex, I think it's for the better.
This morning she sent me the following text: (I'm Dutch, trying my best translating)
Days like yesterday have to stop. Otherwise things will get really awkward. I don't feel any Tension
anymore but if you keep flirting the whole day I just can't resist. Nothing can happen anymore. Can you please try to avoid any tension? No more compliments, no more the two of us in a bedroom, and try to keep distance? Yesterday I almost kissed you. This can't happen again, we would both have regretted it.
On which I replied:
Glider001: I'm glad you didn't try to make out with me. I've only had few times I felt so attracted to someone, but we can't because I don't want to start really like you.
We've been saying this for a while now, but we keep winding up together. Which wasn't a real issue, until now. Since we will be on the board together next year, things will get awkward if this keeps on going.
Anyhow, I am starting to like her more. I must decide how to move on from now on, fast. Then sit with her and talk it over.
It seems like I've got three options:
- Stop it all and be just friends.
- Try to go for Friends with Benefits.
- Going for the relationship.
Still puzzling.. What's your view on this?