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    Default Re: closed on first date, now she's giving me the cold shoulder

    I agree that perhaps not enough comfort after sex and texting a few days later saying wanna meet up again implies you just want to get laid again.

    A better way would have been to text her the next day with something harmless like a funny GIF or just positive normal conversation. It takes attention away from any possible sexual complexity.

    Also if she is going to europe she is not going to invest much towards a LTR so you have to position yourself somewhere between a ONS and a LTR if you want to see her again. That's not always easy but if you want her as a summer girlfriend you may have to communicate that at some point. I wouldn't neccessarily give up. Text her again but don't put any pressure on it. Just send some harmless fun stuff that makes her day. Women are moody, if you keep in touch she might be more responsive when she's in a better mood.

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    Default Re: closed on first date, now she's giving me the cold shoulder

    I should've been clearer, when I texted her a couple days later it was innocuous--she told me she was going to the zoo with her family and I think I texted, hey how're the wolves, or something to that effect. She was less enthused than she had been prior to our meeting.

    ... yeah, I think she's just avoiding getting attached to anyone. She's twenty and in a sorority and moving to Europe soon. I bet she threw up some kind of mental block after we had sex, saying don't let that happen again. Fuck. Can't win em all.

    Thanks everyone for your input and support.

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    Default Re: closed on first date, now she's giving me the cold shoulder

    Quote Originally Posted by Omega 3 snake oil View Post
    I should've been clearer, when I texted her a couple days later it was innocuous--she told me she was going to the zoo with her family and I think I texted, hey how're the wolves, or something to that effect. She was less enthused than she had been prior to our meeting.

    ... yeah, I think she's just avoiding getting attached to anyone. She's twenty and in a sorority and moving to Europe soon. I bet she threw up some kind of mental block after we had sex, saying don't let that happen again. fark. Can't win em all.

    Thanks everyone for your input and support.
    Here are some wild card options:

    1) Communicate openly why a casual relationship would be suitable for you both. Lead it to what can at least be a 'special' relationship. She can take it or leave it but at least you are honest, mature, decisive and that is male strength.
    2) Guilt trip her about it like 'Well I see you have loved me and left me. Have fun in europe. Nice to know you anyway...' Most girls don't necessarily need a LTR for sex, they just want to feel 'loved'. You can turn the tables around on her and try get her empathy going. She will at least realise she is not innocent in this.
    3) Tell her you forgot to film it last time, she needs to come over again so you can remember her properly haha
    4) Keep in touch, as I mentioned in my last post, without putting any heavy duty commitments down. Just write things to her that she cannot help laugh at or smile about. As a matter of course you are doing this to everyone naturally. You are a positive popular guy and she has to be a fool to not have you in her life in some way. Build a stronger connection as a matter of course. Women are moody, somewhere along the line she may need you again and you are stable and have not dissapeared.
    5) Start dating other girls and tell her about it or post it on Instagram. She's in control, perhaps because of europe, but you should be in control and she is not going to affect your love life.
    6) Talk about sex. Discuss intimate details of your night together. Don't discuss it like you 'need' it again or how great she was...just be candid and sexy. Like other animals, but not as obvious, women are particularly horny at certain times of the month. Just because she's going to europe doesn't mean she won't have sex again or with you. If she gets really horny again you will have positioned yourself as the one she will seek. You might have slept with her right before her period and now she's cold because she's on her rags?
    7) Delete all her numbers and accounts from your life. Never speak to her again.


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