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    Default Transitioning from the opener...

    So I've recently gained a ton of confidence opening girls online but conversation always seems to fizzle out after the initial opener. I just don't know how to smoothly transition into a new topic and go for the number. Here's an example convo from POF that I'm currently stuck with...

    Opening a girl that is dressed up as a pirate in one of her pictures...
    Me: So you're a crafty teacher that loves cuddling. You really are the girl you take home to mom. My name's Corey but my pirate name is Cap'n Jelly Legs Jimbo...

    Her: Woah I want a pirate name!!!

    Me: Hmmm I'm not sure you're ready. You'll have to work your way through the ranks to captain.

    For now you're Shakira the Periwinkle...but I'm willing to promote you if you prove yourself trustworthy.

    Let's try a cheesy pirate joke. Why does it take so long for a pirate to learn the alphabet?

    Her: Deal. Ummm they get stuck on Arrrrgh?

    Me: Haha that's actually a great guess. Correct answer is because they spend years at C!

    You've earned an upgrade. You are now Fancypants Shakira the Periwinkle.

    Let's hear your cheesiest joke...

    Her: How do you make a jellyfish laugh?

    Me: I'm drawing a blank...

    Her: ten tickles!

    Me: Hahaha I underestimated you. Congrats on making the rank of First Mate (no pun intended haha)!

    So tell me, what kind of pirate are you? The kind who pillages when needed or the kind that sails around with a cute little monkey going on adventures?

    Something tells me your plans always include a cuddly animal...

    Her: You missed the part about me liking taffy banana laffy taffy included! Most of my pirating is on land, painting the faces if preschoolers :P

    Me: Ah so that answers that question then...Laffy taffy over saltwater taffy? Glad I'm not the only one that doesn't hate banana!

    So you prepare the preschoolers for battle by giving them war paint. Is it mostly of the butterfly and tiger variety?

    Her: I actually only eat banana laffy taffy.. and then i like to guess the flavors when i get salt water from special places as souvenirs!

    Oh no no no, for Pirate Day only piratey things allowed! Ya know useful things like a Jolly Roger Flag, parrot, treasure, telescope, map, ship...

    Me: Dang you take your pirate business seriously. I guess since I'm captain I better prepare myself for a mutiny. You and your preschoolers sound like a formidable bunch...

    My dog and I will prepare for the worst. (Not gonna lie, I'm seriously contemplating making my dog an eye patch and pirate hat...this might be the greatest idea ever haha)

    Her: They're my mons preschoolers. I usually just join for the important stuff :P

    What kind of dog!?

    Me: Gotcha. You get to handle important preschool business. Negotiate juice boxes and length of nap time. That's actually really cool of you though!

    I've got the sweetest, most devious English bulldog ever. He's keeps it classy by wearing a bowtie but a little bad-assy by destroying stuffed animals...

    Any pets for you?

    Her: I meant my mom's preschoolers.

    I'm teaching 1st grade this year!

    Oh cute! I have a schnauzer poodle mix (pictured)

    Me: Oh I was so close. My money was on you teaching 2nd grade! Guess now I know you're up to date with all your cootie shots

    Nice! I had a schnauzer named Squeakers...what's his name?

    Her: Hahs nice! Colbie



    No idea how to respond...the conversation has died and I don't know how to get it going again...

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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    You're doing fine.
    Just don't stay stuck in the "pirate" topic for too long.

    And don't worry about a "conversation" just yet... keep up the playful vibe. Just throw out random topics & make little "cold reads" about her.
    Things like: "You really seem to have an adventurous spirit, I like that!"

    or "So, I get the impression that you're more fun than most people, we could totally be besties!"

    or

    "I'm digging your spunky, energetic attitude! We should definitely get together & cause some controlled chaos soon!"

    Save "conversations" for a little later when it's time to build rapport. But for now, keep building attraction by being fun & flirty.



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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    Thanks T-Mal! I've been bouncing from topic to topic and actually had a couple good cold reads...my problem is that most girls seem to simply just answer my questions or give me a short comment and that's it.

    It seems to happen that way almost every time. Does that mean the girl just isn't interested or are they just all horrible conversationalists?

    I mean, if they aren't interested I assume they would just stop replying... Online game is frustrating...

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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    SOme girls in online game are not look for exchanging text, they prefer you to ask her out directly.

    For those who give you short answer and those you are about to give up on them, try ask them out..

    Use something you might know about her, such as her favourite food / hobby, and invite her to that place which will suit her favourie.

    When you are sarging online,always remember your goal is ask the girl out on date.

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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    Lead the interaction... Be persistent (but not needy) & keep making comments, or start telling her random tidbits about something that happened in your day.

    Little, insignificant things that you think are totally irrelevant can get a girl to open up more & start engaging you more frequently.


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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    Quote Originally Posted by shakobe33 View Post
    Thanks T-Mal! I've been bouncing from topic to topic and actually had a couple good cold reads...my problem is that most girls seem to simply just answer my questions or give me a short comment and that's it.

    It seems to happen that way almost every time. Does that mean the girl just isn't interested or are they just all horrible conversationalists?

    I mean, if they aren't interested I assume they would just stop replying... Online game is frustrating...
    This is very common. The goal is to get them to ask you out. Or at least have them imply that they want to go out with you. You are in control. Be in control. Smoothly steer the conversation where you want it to go. If she's not that interested in you yet, it means you haven't demonstrated enough high value.

    I had a girl doing the same thing to me (I'll post it in a separate thread later) she was responding to my questions but not asking any.

    I eventually told her a story about how I hung out with a couple of twins in the back of a limo and one of them puked on me (true story - but it also preapproves me and is a dhv). She said somethign like "eww girls these days" or something silly. I said something like "Yeah, wish there was a girl that was actually cool to hang out with and won't puke on me". She then replied "I can hold my alcohol." ... she's getting closer but I still have to make her validate herself to me. I say "That's what they said! But I'm sure you could hang. You seem like a fun person, but I have to see it to believe it." ... she then says "I'm down!" and I got her number.

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    Default Re: Transitioning from the opener...

    I like to focus on activity threads and try to set up a date ASAP. I always transition to this type of thread by saying "lol what are you up to ?"
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