Re: Need help/advice to Regain Control
Without a doubt, freeze outs are the most improperly utilized technique in all of pua. Most guys have no idea when it's proper to use them and when it's not proper.
Here's a quick primer: A Freeze Out is a technique that is used to recapture status in a relationship. If a girl is still showing significant interest in you, it likely means that you are still in a good position status wise. Alternatively, if a girl has stopped showing interest in you, but has previously showed high levels of attraction towards you, you're probably having status problems and you're likely a good candidate for a freeze out. The only other time that a freeze out is appropriate is to correct behavior you don't like. However, if you are using a freeze out to correct behavior it should usually be a mini freeze out and it should be used sparingly.
In this case, the girl is still showing interest in you, but is displaying negative behaviors. You could have done a mini freeze out, which means around a day, but a week and a half is too much. However, a freeze out conveys a very strong message of disinterest.
Instead, you would have been better to just set boundaries by stating that you value your time and if she's going to keep flaking on you, you aren't interested. This sounds beta, but it's only beta if you aren't sincere in your threat to continue the relationship. The alternative is to continue being her bitch and letting her flake on you continuously until she's no longer responding to you.
Your time is important. If a girl is flaking on you she's disrespecting you and you should next her.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."