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Thread: How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

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    Default How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

    Hi guys,

    I am new on here and basically, a girl that I met out at a bar actually approached me and gave me her number. We texted the next day and agreed to meet for lunch, however, she said that she was held up at work and thought she would be able to leave earlier than she was.

    She text me to let me know she had been held up and asked if we could reschedule so I gave her an option of either Saturday or Sunday. She chose Sunday and an hour before we were due to meet I text to confirm that she was going to meet me but she didn't even respond to the text. Not even a day later.

    I am not the type to let myself get devalued by a girl but I think that if I can reinitiate contact I will be able to get through to her. I think I made some mistakes in the way I phrased a couple of the later messages that I sent to her.

    Anyway, what I am asking is how can I contact her again and how long should I wait before attempting this? I don't want to lose control of the situation and I am only prepared to have one more attempt. How can I maximise my chance of her successfully responding so I can have one last good attempt?

    Sorry about the length of this post and thanks in advance guys.

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    Default Re: How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

    Quote Originally Posted by Ashton24 View Post
    She text me to let me know she had been held up and asked if we could reschedule so I gave her an option of either Saturday or Sunday. She chose Sunday and an hour before we were due to meet I text to confirm that she was going to meet me but she didn't even respond to the text. Not even a day later.
    I see two problems with this:
    1. You offered up Saturday AND Sunday. Straight away that tells me you don't have much of a life on a weekend. This is not always a deal breaker but try not to be so available for a girl. Tell her "I'm free this Saturday, otherwise we might have to leave it until later in the week "
    This tells her you have a life, you have value, you're not going to bend over backwards and give up your weekends to hang out with her and if you don't get to see her for a week it's no big deal (you have a life remember )
    2. You waited til an hour before your date to text her. You have to keep the communication up in the time between setting a date and the date itself. You've started losing attraction, She's had time to rethink, someone newer and shinier has come along.. all these things are plotting against you so set the date and keep talking.


    Quote Originally Posted by Ashton24 View Post
    I am not the type to let myself get devalued by a girl but I think that if I can reinitiate contact I will be able to get through to her. I think I made some mistakes in the way I phrased a couple of the later messages that I sent to her.
    What are you trying to get through to her? You should be the one in demand, not trying to convince her that she should go out with you.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ashton24 View Post
    Anyway, what I am asking is how can I contact her again and how long should I wait before attempting this? I don't want to lose control of the situation and I am only prepared to have one more attempt. How can I maximise my chance of her successfully responding so I can have one last good attempt?
    You have probably waited too long already, but as long as it's fun and not the same text she gets all the time you should be fine. Also don't go pushing for a date straight away. Get a fun conversation happening, get her involved and then suggest it.
    "I bet my weekend can beat up your weekend"
    "I just saw the cutest little xx and thought of you"
    Or my favourite at the moment:
    "How's my 3rd favourite little brat doing?" for more of an effect I'll normally replace brat with something different and specific about her.. they always come back with something like "Only 3rd!?" and most of the time you can get her to start qualifying herself to you to move herself further up the rank.

    I can't remember where I read these or know where they originated so I can't give proper credit but I hope that helps.

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    Default Re: How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

    Wow this is really helpful I actually had a similar situation but in this case she was dodging everything. I think some of these tips will definitely help me in future endeavors.

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    Default Re: How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

    KVN007 nailed it.

    Don't make yourself available on a Friday or a Saturday for a first date.

    Unless a girl makes plans 4 or 5 days in advance my Fridays and Saturdays are off limits if she tries to call me last minute. If you say yes, it shows her that she can call whenever she wants and like an AFC you will be available. Have the balls to say you're busy and you'll vault yourself towards Alpha status.

    It's my rule but on a first date I only do drinks. No dinner, no movie and NO LUNCH. Dude, you were going to have lunch with her and she was going to have to get back to her job. There is no room for escalation in that scenario.

    Remember the rule of salesmen and now copied by PUA artists...

    ABC = Always Be Closing

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    Default Re: How long should I wait to send a text to a girl that bailed on plans

    I like that saying "ABC" it's going to be stuck in my head now, thank you.


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