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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    I don't know man. I lost my sense of connection to another human being, its like I'm too focused inside that I don't care about anyone anymore. Like I don't need anyone else in my life. I can spend a month inside my room without doing anything. I want to regain my sense of connection, because I'm afraid I'll stay like this for the rest of ma life.
    Newone, what you describe are signs of an introvert. Feelings of indifference is a coping mechanism. Trust me, I've been there.

    I had the same problem too. As an Asian, raised by a strict mom who emphasized education over a social life, I got screwed all the way through college.

    Because networking is essential to my business, I WANTED to transform, so I took the steps since 2006, invested a lot in my self-development, spent money, got trained by some of the best coaches, and worked as an outsourced PUA lifestyle coach providing low cost instruction.

    Your problem here is your "cup is not full." There is a void. Therefore you think a girl is going to change that to make you feel oomplete, but it can't be further from the truth.

    Look for a woman as a complement, not for completion.

    Before you even learn anything about PUA, you need to focus on your self development. To get rid of this void, you need to "push out the edges" of your life - social, health, and financial. And from there build your inner game and your sense of self worth and value. If you don't perceived yourself as a high value man and feel good about yourself, you will not be able to convey that to any woman. And that is why you are failing. Your behaviors inform your actions.

    This will be harsh advice, but right now, don't chase a girl. Cut your losses. You are not ready. Take a step back and focus on yourself first.

    No external game technique, routines, lines will help. It's like building a house on faulty grounds. I don't care how nice the decor is.

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    ^^^ always solidly put. Also didnt know you were asian immortal. Lol. Looks like we've got more in common than just the art & pua stuff haha. K. Im done here
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    I will do that. She is one of the mature girls I know and I dont want to lose a friend like her. Theres no problem for me on taking full responsibilities cause i know my mistake. I disrespected our friendship and now its time to clean this mess up. thank you

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    Thats right man, I always knew I was an introvert. Not that severe though but its deeply affecting my social life. Im reading nicholas boothmans book, the 90 seconds. The richest man in babylon and some PD stuff, but too afraid to apply outside. I would like to dig your knowledge on how you get out of this state. Its pathetic and you know its lifeless.

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    For me, my willpower to transform overcame any fear or any form of anxiety approach. I made self-development a priority in my life and invested heavily. The first step is to identify the source of why you are "too afraid" by being honest with yourself. Fear of rejection? Insecure/low self esteem? Social anxiety? Inferiority complex?

    Human beings are insecure by nature. We are not born with confidence, it's earned and developed through life experiences. Everyone you know has their insecurities and are usually concerned with their own to be with yours. The idea is to acknowledge it and embrace it. Only then can you move past it. If you resist it, all you do is reinforce it.

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    Id agree with immortal again here.

    I'd also go back to just repeating myself in regards to self sabotaging myself because thats how i learn best. I embrace failure. As i fail like many people you are vulnerable but only through vulnerability can you grow if you're embracing the risk and the change that can come from it. The Mindset if possible should be positive through such events and approaches with not only women but people in general. Through positively influencing your actions with a mindset you can influence others subconciously by the mirror effect in which people do naturally to compliment each other.

    As Charles Bukowski once said "You never win if you don't gamble"
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Newone View Post
    My god, I dropped Kino's bomb on fb with my friend. She's one of my closest friend and I freaking drop it!I said, I want to know your happiness, I want to know what make u excited I want to know what makes you wet I want to know everything and then she didn't reply after that. That's my first approach to puaism. God.. Can I salvage our friendship? I didn't chat wit her after that.

    Ouch, that made me cringe. That was the wrong situation, one it was online, two you couldn't perceive any ioi's, and three you've already known her for some time.

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    Sorry for the late bump, just got home from vancouver with my 3 day trip.

    anyway, I'm feeling better now so let us give this thread a closing.

    I'm starting to write in my journal, which helps me fix some of my mistakes and failures. Also, sabotaging myself really gives me big mistakes to think about, and it also boost my confidence because you'll get the worst result, in which some cases not that severe. Thanks for that artan.

    Suave Kino, I know man, everytime I remember it I clench my teeth and forcefully close my eyes. Not a good thing to remember over and over again, but she still liked some of my status in facebook, which can be a sign that she's just embarrassed, or shocked, cause she is really a nice friend of mine. I'm planning to apologize about what I've just said, but won't give any excuses.

    Damn, Pua'ing is a great form of personal development. I'm lucky to find this kind of environment at such a young age.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Dont apologize for what you said. Apologize for how you said it. Mean the things you say. Just tell her you blurted it out online with no consideration of her feelings as a friend and that this was something you should have said in person under the right conditions. (Such as while escalating and she's giving you ioi's)
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    I can't reach her in person, our only means of connection is online. By the way I got a new gf, but I want it to settle the problems because I don't want such long term collateral damage, and I would like to hang out with her sometimes.


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