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    Default EMERGENCY!!

    My god, I dropped Kino's bomb on fb with my friend. She's one of my closest friend and I freaking drop it!I said, I want to know your happiness, I want to know what make u excited I want to know what makes you wet I want to know everything and then she didn't reply after that. That's my first approach to puaism. God.. Can I salvage our friendship? I didn't chat wit her after that.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    That's because Kino's bombshell wasn't intended for use online!! It requires more than just the words.. from memory it's a massive display of IOD and then you drop it when she is ioi'ing flat out. Body language and tonality play a major part in it!

    Also PUA isn't just a bunch of lines that will make every girl want to sleep with you

    If you post the conversation we might be able to help.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    So she's gone cold ? No response? No reaching out to you? No mutual friends on her side questioning you? If so there might not be much to salvage. You've more than likely jumped out of her intimate emotional circle now that she knows your intention. This can be good and bad.

    Brb on this topic. Gotta get back to work.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    I'm so depressed this morning since I got lot of problems. I don't know I just, blew it away. She asked how is my relationship with my gf. Told her I'm ok, then she asked, you sure? then I said I just broke up wit my girlfriend. Then she scold me, ask me if "is that what you mean ok?"

    She appears disinterested in my feelings and my current situation, and I switched the topic to my travel, in which I'll be able to have a stop over at Korea (Some girls really like k-pop) but Its not gonna happen anymore since theres no reason to go home. Then she said, woah? why not go home on my birthday?? then, really?!?!?! KOREA? AHHHH TAKE ME THERE!

    Then I blurted it out.

    She didn't replied after that.

    God, sometimes I'm really stupid. Ofcourse I know pick up is an art, that can be mastered through hard ships and determination, I'm just depressed thats why I said that. Maybe I'm also having sexual fantasy about her that time but I won't ever do that if I'm sane. Am I sane?? well, I will tell her if she asked me why did I said that, I'll just say, I'm experimenting. Whatever happens next I won't care anymore. Sometimes man, not going outside and staying at the computer can really impact how you understand socialization.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Still donr have enough time to answer properly but you are too flippy flooppy. Learn to speak about yourself confidently... Stop making excuses and decisions based on your feelings. Your feelings are for gauging a situation not how you should live your life... Learn about yourself before you start explaining anything to anyone.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Quote Originally Posted by Newone View Post
    I'm so depressed this morning since I got lot of problems. I don't know I just, blew it away. She asked how is my relationship with my gf. Told her I'm ok, then she asked, you sure? then I said I just broke up wit my girlfriend. Then she scold me, ask me if "is that what you mean ok?"

    She appears disinterested in my feelings and my current situation, and I switched the topic to my travel, in which I'll be able to have a stop over at Korea (Some girls really like k-pop) but Its not gonna happen anymore since theres no reason to go home. Then she said, woah? why not go home on my birthday?? then, really?!?!?! KOREA? AHHHH TAKE ME THERE!

    Then I blurted it out.

    She didn't replied after that.

    God, sometimes I'm really stupid. Ofcourse I know pick up is an art, that can be mastered through hard ships and determination, I'm just depressed thats why I said that. Maybe I'm also having sexual fantasy about her that time but I won't ever do that if I'm sane. Am I sane?? well, I will tell her if she asked me why did I said that, I'll just say, I'm experimenting. Whatever happens next I won't care anymore. Sometimes man, not going outside and staying at the computer can really impact how you understand socialization.
    If she still finds it in herself to talk to you, then this relationship might be salvageable, as a friendship. I would advise a little apologizing if she was creeped out. You would have to wait a very long while before you try to become more than friends. I advise you calm down, and take a breather.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    This whole socializing thing is wearing me out, but I need to since this is a fundamental part of my business. Anyway, I would not like to have a relationship with her since she lives in another country, and I don't want to waste my effort for that. I just want to save our friendship. This is what I feel even its fb and we can't see each other, what more if its face to face.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Hmm.... From what you're saying you sound very needy for no reason. Its doesnt seem like you really value her an individual so i dont know why you'd want to be her friend anyways...
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    I don't know man. I lost my sense of connection to another human being, its like I'm too focused inside that I don't care about anyone anymore. Like I don't need anyone else in my life. I can spend a month inside my room without doing anything. I want to regain my sense of connection, because I'm afraid I'll stay like this for the rest of ma life.

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    Default Re: EMERGENCY!!

    Im actual ok being single for the rest of my life. Solitude does not scare me nor define me. I get you but my point was in regards to the chick. My issue with you that im highlighting is in regards to want her in your life and at the same time not . Make up your mind and stick to it. Your flip floppy decisions are ruining your chances for a life with options. If you want her then address the awkwardness in a manner that defines your goals --not with your boner. Friends cant handle boners because they've built an emotional ring of support not a ring of sexuality.

    One thing about myself is that i love self sabotaging myself. Why? Because it helps mr learn. I tripple my failure rate so i can grow into a person who knows when to expect mistakes. Why bring this up? So you can learn from this mistake. Your chances with this girl has either doubled for or against you. The issue you have is that you cinducted the Kino bomb online without any preloading of attraction. You know this and we all know this. So how does saying this again help you? Well think about the scenario you've made. Your intentions are 100% clear but you cornered her. She's shut down and doesnt have to come out. She's likely to talk to mutual friends if the pressure is there. But since she's cornered you can lure her to an understanding beyond the bomb you've set off. An understanding right now is more important than salvaging a relationship or trying to push it to another level. With an understanding she's less likely to run away and can just friend zone you. An understanding can also be a proper way to close the conndction to a friendship. Also an understanding could potentially be a way to push it futher into an intimate relationship but you'll need to work on you attraction and social skills.

    How to attempt to build an understanding... You can either send a message in a bottle believing she will read it and never respond. Its closure meant for you if you do this. I'd also leave out anything about trying to see her or convince her of anything. Keep it simple And short to the point. Point out that you realized you were unfiltered and not deeply considering her feelings when you said this stuff and thought about what you wanted. Don't go back on your word--you're going to kill any chance of trust by doing this. Instead try qualifying yourself by pointing out that you meant what you said BUT its no where near how much you value your friendship. At this point i'd start to close the letter by saying as a friend whose pushed someone into a position they didnt want to be in feelin responsible for your feelings. Tell her she's right to ignore you and live a happy life without you incuded as a friend because you want her to be happy--and the important part about being happy is being able to trust the intent of those around you.

    This letter if sent too sound comes off as too needy and unwilling to give her room to breathe. Ive sent a letter like this to a room mate i almost got caught in the line of fire between another room mate. She later 6 months later thanking me for writing my letter. If you send this letter let it simmer in your head for a month saying exactly what only needs to be said. Point out she did nothing wrong. Point out that you are responsible for the mess and lastly point out your intent is to give space to her and that you will continue to even if she wants to patch it because your relationship is on the rocks with the issue of trust now.

    More than likely i'd imagine mosf people on this forum will tell you to not try and latch it and move on but i think sending something like this is important for you to see the damage you've caused and how fo take responsiblity for it.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.


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