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    Default Writing A Few Openers

    So, I hope I'm not "polluting the waters" here with so many posts about openers and such. But, I'm excited to be in a community where I can get feedback from other guys on my approaches and help each other out. Here's an opener I came up with earlier. It's basically a canned opener that I rewrote to better suit me (and hopefully) improve it's delivery impact on the girl.

    "Hey, you! I just stumbled across your profile. I was about to move on, but something compelled me to message you. So, what's your deal? Yeah, you like dancing, the outdoors, movies, and the same shit everyone else likes (at least that means I don't have to worry about you never wanting to do anything fun), and yes, you are attractive. But, beauty is common - I want to know what about you is going to keep me intrigued?"

    This is a more specific opener that targets a weird Halloween pic of her:

    "Are you supposed to be a pixie? a pirate? a Stripper? what's the deal with that? It is kind of cute, though, and it did make me laugh. So, I'll give you some points there."

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    Default Re: Writing A Few Openers

    I would avoid using swear words and being so judgemental personally and I would also try make it shorter. 'I'm intrigued by your profile and would like to get to know you better'. You have to stand out from other guys but for online dating your profile already does most of the work. Part of an opener is also simply to gauge who is going to write back, available or legitimate so you don't neccessarily need to invest that much up front otherwise it can be risky.

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    Default Re: Writing A Few Openers

    I've used Tinder and other dating apps mostly because it's quicker and more fun. Here's what I like to message: "I'm amazing- you ?"
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    Default Re: Writing A Few Openers

    Qualifying from the door is a very rough thing to pull off. Especially online. Women are much more quick to dismiss you because it's online. All they'll think is "who does he think he is" and just delete the message. Maybe even block you. Cause it's not like at a bar where she is more likely to maintain composure in front of her friends. She's allowed to be as bitchy as she wants in this environment without recourse. But you definitely have the right idea.

    To qualify from the door you have to have tons of value from the gate. Such as a celebrity. Which most of your value is not apparent online. She only sees the one profile pic of you and may not even get to looking at the rest of your profile. Tough to portray all your value with one thumbnail. I find focusing on comfort building is better for online. Be fun without being judgmental until later during qualifying.

    You definitely have to get specific and point out things in her profile. That was the one change I made to my openers that saw immense improvements in my online game. They can smell a canned opener a mile away. So it's better to have a template where you can fit specifics about her into it.

    Keep it roughly short. She does have 100+ messages to get to. So make it easier on her. But not too short.

    If I recall correctly my template was:
    "Hey! Just looked at your profile. I like that you do *blank* and *blank*, but not sure/have no idea what *blank* is.

    P.S. *Insert light teasing specific joke about her profile*

    It's simple and effective. Don't believe me? Try it on just 10 women and tell me how many get back to you.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."


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