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    Unhappy Had to turn down girl I liked

    So long story short there was this girl I've been talking to for a while and I started to develop a thing for (which was consistently showed to be mutual). Shitty thing was once I started getting ready to take her on a date she told me about her past which included her sleeping with one of my enemies. Now that shit actually hit hard because something that will eat at me is the fact that someone can say that they fucked my girl, especially my enemies. So I told her that straight up, which hit her hard too. I'm kind of conflicted with emotions from it. I do want to be with her but I know that will eat at me. I kind of have the feeling that you get after a break up but divide it by 100. You could say I feel depressed. I want to continue it, but now I just feel like the attractions going to leave because I had to say that. Advice guys?

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    She wasn't with you at the time. It was her decision to sleep with that guy. You can't control who she sleeps with. You did an AFC move by reacting to what she said. Everybody have skeletons in their closet so don't let the past ruin what could be an awesome future. If you genuinely like this girl then who she slept with before shouldn't matter but I can see why you reacted that way. Your ego would be wounded to live with the fact someone you hate slept with the girl you like.

    Don't let your ego run the ship. You need to be in control all the time. Show no reaction and the next time may be diffuse the situation by saying something flirty funny like "Whoaa! Slow down! We barely know each other and you're already throwing your past at me "

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Yeah thats the way I'm trying to look at it, I feel childish for thinking that way but its kind of hard to get over. I'll try to patch things up and see where it goes, I can always break up with her if it leads to fights early on.

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    I think it all depends on the type of person you'd want to be and eminate that. Everyone has enemies and as well as pasts. I agree with grey2fox as to how to reframe yourself if you want to give her the chance. This isnt a scenario where you can or should be qualifying her because this is mostly based on your inner game.

    Something to think about is what if you were in her shoes? You slept with her enemy, how would you expect to be treated and how do you think you would want to be treated. I wouldnt suggest talking about all this unless you need to say something so she can help you get past the problem you are having.

    Best of luck.
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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Yeah at first I was like "damn I have to abort this mission" (which were my exact words to her) and then she was like trying to get me to change my mind and I got that depressed feeling. So I talked to her again and things seem to be going as they were before again all though now she says shes scared of telling me something that will make me not want to be with her to which I replied saying all I want is honesty and that I don't hold it against her and that everyone's not perfect so its wrong for me to end things that were going so good over something that she did before she even met me. I just hope I don't run into him while IO'm with her cause my pride probably couldn't take it and I'd break up with her for it.

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Heres the funny thing in life.. Right now she's with you. Believe in youself and see what you have. He's no longer with her. You are. You won what he's lost. In odds against him you ended with her and he missed out. Think about whats going on in his head. He must hate the feeling had lost her and whats worse is to someone he dosent like. Sure he might have been the one to dump her but you are with her. You won what he's missing out on. Also remember if you didn't have game and given yourself value you wouldn't feel now... And thats her effection in which he's less likely to get more of it because your with her. I would say this is something you can share with her. I'd even go as far as saying that weakness can be a strength and that you're only looking only make it stronger. Tell her that she should feel comfortable enough to share what she wants because she wants to not because it'll make you feel better but so your relationship can become stronger. Learning to grow with each other is a strength in a relationships.

    Look and frame this at this as a positive thing. It only helps you grow and makes your game stronger.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    no big deal dude- if anything look at it as you won her because she picks you over him
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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Yeah,

    Think of it this way. You're going to be hurting his pride and not vice versa.

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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Happened to me once, by accident. Gorgeous girl, we flirted, had le sexy time, and then I learned she had slept with my "enemy" (let's call him Bob). Didn't care.

    Bob did, though. He called her a slut, and told her she had to break up with me. She almost did, which seriously pissed me off. So I got the big guns. I used every AMOG line, every BF-destroyer line, until she didn't see him as a man anymore. I made it my mission in life to frak her harder, better, stronger than Bob had in the past.

    We dated three months, it was glorious and one of the best relationships I had in my life. We might actually end up together definitely in the future. And the cherry on top of the cake is she keeps telling everyone in our group or her friends how much better I am, and she calls him "baby Bob". Win.
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    Default Re: Had to turn down girl I liked

    Here is an idea.... Instead of obsessing over the fact that she was with him, how about concentrating on the fact that YOU have her now and you're one up on him?!?!?!?!?! I think that would be a healthier outlook on things..... By the way you should try and follow the Buddhist philosophy of life and have no enemies … having enemies is a big waste of time and energy


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