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    Question Appropriate Place for a "Date"?

    OK, so I've been talking to this girl for a couple weeks now and it's time I set up the first "date" (or day we spend actually hanging out at least). I happen to be in Mixed Martial Arts and a few of my team mates will be fighting at an event in little over a week which I am going to see and support (as I would want them to do the same for me when I finally step in the cage). The idea came to me to invite the girl to come watch with me since I don't like to go on "traditional" dates with girls and want to do something different, so I did. Now I'm wondering if this was such a good idea, I mean it's a show about people getting their ass beat so theres little "romance" that could be brought into that besides normal flirting. Also, I feel as though some of you guys may think that other "alphas" may be there to try and compete for the girl (which I don't really fear since I know most of the guys my age that attend [not compete in] these events anyways, lets just say I've had a run in with most of them before growing up lol) so I would like some opinions on it.

    My other option for our first "date" is to go out by my home town (which is in the country by the city I live in) and go appreciate the out doors out there and enjoy some ganja and find romance in the whole thing (we've already talked about sex extensively and I can almost guarantee a lay) and maybe go look at the live stock on my families property (I have non-direct relatives who own like half the county so I wouldn't be in trouble for tresspassing).

    I don't know, she says shes a country girl and I just enjoy the outdoors. I also have a passion for martial arts and I want to do something that incorporates my interests and if I can hers, so I want opinions on both ideas as they may both come to pass.

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    Default Re: Appropriate Place for a "Date"?

    I usually go somewhere casual to talk. If you offer an adventure like going to see a sports event or travelling to your hometown your investing a lot and she has to aswell. Make it easier for her. The main thing with a date is to further build attraction, get Kino happening and solidify a solid connection. Most of that is having awesome conversation, making her feel comfortable and flirty and having opportunities for kino.

    If you go to a sports event, she may not dress up as elegantly and may feel like one of your 'buds'. She may not get much of a chance to talk about herself - it's really your thing and what you are interested in. Going out into the country is better as a date down the line when you're already past romance. Same with martial arts. Take her to see an event further down the line. First few dates should be more relaxed and engineered to stimulate you two being together.

    I usually go for a 'quick' drink, casual meal or coffee and see where the night leads. I don't really plan on any activity other than great fun conversation and possibly some nooky nooky.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Appropriate Place for a "Date"?

    My first dates are ALWAYS taking her for a drink some place that you can hear each other and the drinks are cheap. I have a GREAT closing rate on the first date.

    The second date is open season and it could be anything.

    How much Kino will you have if you are fighting and she's sitting in the stands watching? You're better off taking her elsewhere on the first date.

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    Default Re: Appropriate Place for a "Date"?

    Well something with drinks is out of the question. I'm still only 18 and so is she and though I have a connection at a local liquor store that will sell to me underage, I'm the only one with a car so I'd be picking her up and taking her home and all, plus she lives in a town out by my home town and thats what drew me to her more is that I miss being out in the country since I live in the city now (its a city in Iowa, so it's not much of a city). I'll easily Kino right away because I have the confidence to grab her hand and guide her into my car myself. She's also shy and I'm outgoing so I'll have that advantage. Once we are in the country side I plan on lighting up some ganja and her shotgunning me some of her hits (I'm going to use the I provided it AND had to roll it to flirtily turn those into a kiss). From here since I plan on being out on my families property I can almost guarantee a lay because every time I've gotten a 1 on 1 make out session on a first date I've scored. Also to note, shes going to be paying for most of my gas too.

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    Default Re: Appropriate Place for a "Date"?

    Both are good ideas, mainly because it's different and second, you are bringing her into YOUR world, YOUR reality which is great.

    Now the thing about not being able to talk seriously in a Martial Arts event, early in your relationship it is better to save the serious talk later and just focus on having fun.

    The important thing during dates is MOVING, don't take her to a sports event then just go home after. Take her some place quiet or more relaxed after so you can "get to know each other" better.

    Trust your instincts it's not that bad of an idea if nobody comes back from the future and punches you in the face.


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