There's this girl I met around May and whom I have been talking to occasionally. I kinda liked her, so I made a move on her. She came back to me with a lame message stating that she had started dating someone and she preferred to be honest with me. I lost interest at that point and moved on.
Fast forward to July, she contacts me out of the blue after 1 month of no communication, asking me how I was and if I wanted to meet for lunch (or for drinks if I couldn't make it). Seemed like she got dumped by that other guy and that I was her plan B.
Anyway, I decided to play along just for kicks. I couldn't meet her immediately but we eventually met for drinks. She insisted that I attend her bday party in October.
We both left on holidays in August. I decided not to go totally cold on her, so I texted her 1 message to ask about her vacation and also talk about mine. She seemed to appreciate it.
Once I came back, I decided to stay silent and see if she would write first. Well, she just did
"Hey xx, how are you? Back to reality after 1 month of holidays? I bet you have a schedule full of catching up lunches... anyway, I certainly do! But we can try the Japanese place soon (and not on a Wednesday). Maybe next week or the week after? For now, welcome back!! X"
1) We work in the same organisation (different buildings though), so everyone has access each other's outlook calendar. Did she peek into mine to see if I was busy during lunchtimes this week? Seems weird that she mentioned that... Unless she was speaking generally...
2) I find it funny how she tried to qualify herself by saying she is also busy during lunchtime
3) She mentions the Japanese place because she committed to take me there and invite me for lunch. Good thing she hasn't forgotten
To be honest, I don't care about this girl as a potential girlfriend, but I would bang her if I could. Even if I don't, she's good practice material.
I am really tempted to try different strategies with her but I don't where to begin:
For example, I could make fun of her attempt to qualify (ie: do you guys ever work in your directorate? When do you find the time for long lunch breaks? ;p)
Alternatively, I have read in some blogs that I should reward girls that attempt to qualify themselves (and punish them when they act bitchy). I am not so sure about that. That would be like putting her on a pedestal.
Otherwise, I completely ignore her attempt to qualify and talk about something else and try to dhv.
What do you guys think? Anything would probably work to be honest, but I want to trigger a reaction. This is part of my learning process to understand what type of behaviour girls respond the best.
Thanks in advance, mates!