Re: Le Sigh. Girl I've been talking to for over a year has gone cold on me.
I agree you have given her all the power over your feelings and this is a very bad tightrope to walk. Likely proceeding forward is strongly ill advised! I would say give it a couple months and hit her up again to see how she is doing and restart from scratch to kinda rekindle an old flame but from a fresh slate.
In the meantime meet other girls wherever you can and be more optimistic. I don't blame you for getting upset but you revealed far too much of your hand too keep her interest.
I got mad at my GF and tried to break up with her a couple weeks ago for making out with some guy then ignoring me all day and acting cold. I thought for sure she didn't deserve me. So I yelled at her for ignoring me but that's all I said. I didn't bring up the other guy I bit my tongue and the next day she got back together with me because I didn't give her too much power over my feelings. I told her it sucks her seeing me like that and she comforted me immensely which is why I took her back.
I still don't trust her so I started seeing other girls. I have a date next weekend and my hairstylist is digging on me so I might try to date her as well. The moral of the story mate is you got Oneitis and it killed you. I simply tried to move on and focus on other girls and now she is waiting around for me again.
The point is you need to see the big picture of making yourself as a desirable mate and one way to date that is seeing multiple women will boost your confidence reduce insecurities of losing someone and being able to let go more easily. It is as they say don't put all your eggs in one basket. Like we say don't get Oneitis and when I truly started believing that I began to realize there is a lot of women who like me and seem more drawn to me when I have other women in my life.
MM calls this Pre-Selection and because I tell then sometimes or sometimes not doesn't matter the fact is I have a lot of women with their eye on me and guys puts me in a very good spot to be in. I didn't think the hairstylist would be happy to hear I am dating someone but she said she likes to party and wants to see me again so likely it's still on. Get out there and be the guy with less Pre-Selection issues/Oneitis Mindset.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.