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    Default What to do on dates

    Where do you go on dates? No clubs or bars. Looking for interesting ideas that don't cost alot. I want the girl to be happy cause she is with me, not cause I'm throwing money at her. I'm dating a girl right now and all she wants is to be constantly entertained. Feel like she is trying to use me.

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    I'm dating a girl right now and all she wants is to be constantly entertained. Feel like she is trying to use me.
    you've already fallen into the trap of being the "entertainer" while it is good to joke around with her, make sure she is telling just as many jokes and stories as you are.

    all that non-sexual rapport isn't doing you any good.

    for your next date, have her over to your house to "watch a movie" have some wine with her, and make your move.

    if she doesn't let you kiss her then she's been using you for your entertainment value.

    if she lets you kiss her, but won't make out, then she's playing hard to get and you are also wasting your time.

    if she makes out with you and lets you fondle her, but won't have sex, then stop everything for a few minutes and then go back to making out and undressing her.

    you should always have sex with the girl by the second or third date. (as a rule of thumb, the more sexless "dates" you go on with the girl, the less likely sex will happen) always go after sex on every date. if three dates go by and you don't have sex with her, then you don't need her and she's wasting your time that you could be spending with other girls.

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    No no, that's not what I meant. She is all over me sexually. We had sex on our first and second date. Our first date was dinner and then we went back to her place to watch a movie... let's just say neither of us had our eyes on the movie. Lol the second date was similar, however, now she is giving me subtle signs that she wants to do things and go expensive places of entertainment every date.

    Honestly our third date was the worst one of my life. Granted she was going through a hard time personally. We had planned on spending the day together. Well she was bitchy the whole time, whining and complaining her head hurt, she felt nauseous, the air was too cold, she doesn't make enough money etc. We were set to go to the movies, when I picked her up she said her attention span is short, she will just fall asleep and she just finds going to the movies incredibly boring. She then wanted to go to an amusement park and ride roller coasters at a place 150 miles away... by this time it was 6:00 on a sunday. I'm like are you fawking kidding I have work in the morning... I didn't say it like that though. So we ended up driving downtown to walk around, she wanted to go to the aquarium but they were closed. Then it started raining and we couldn't do anything downtown. We agreed to just go see the movie then. I drive all the way out to the mall and get to the movie theatre. Her mom calls and says she needs to come over and watch the niece. So we skip the movie, grab dinner and I drove her all the way back home.

    She wants to go to the aquarium this Friday "because it would be so romantic and nobody's ever done that for her". Well she is broke and if we go I will be footing the 26 bucks per person, plus gas, plus dinner.
    How do I get her under control? She just wants to be a child and go to amusement parks, resorts, ridiculous vacations etc.

    I was really annoyed from our third date how she acted. It was out of her chatacter. We are in an exclusive relationahip btw. Later she did apologize and said next time she will be well rested and eat before the date.

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    Quote Originally Posted by acepace View Post
    No no, that's not what I meant. She is all over me sexually. We had sex on our first and second date. Our first date was dinner and then we went back to her place to watch a movie... let's just say neither of us had our eyes on the movie. Lol the second date was similar, however, now she is giving me subtle signs that she wants to do things and go expensive places of entertainment every date.

    Honestly our third date was the worst one of my life. Granted she was going through a hard time personally. We had planned on spending the day together. Well she was bitchy the whole time, whining and complaining her head hurt, she felt nauseous, the air was too cold, she doesn't make enough money etc. We were set to go to the movies, when I picked her up she said her attention span is short, she will just fall asleep and she just finds going to the movies incredibly boring. She then wanted to go to an amusement park and ride roller coasters at a place 150 miles away... by this time it was 6:00 on a sunday. I'm like are you fawking kidding I have work in the morning... I didn't say it like that though. So we ended up driving downtown to walk around, she wanted to go to the aquarium but they were closed. Then it started raining and we couldn't do anything downtown. We agreed to just go see the movie then. I drive all the way out to the mall and get to the movie theatre. Her mom calls and says she needs to come over and watch the niece. So we skip the movie, grab dinner and I drove her all the way back home.

    She wants to go to the aquarium this Friday "because it would be so romantic and nobody's ever done that for her". Well she is broke and if we go I will be footing the 26 bucks per person, plus gas, plus dinner.
    How do I get her under control? She just wants to be a child and go to amusement parks, resorts, ridiculous vacations etc.

    I was really annoyed from our third date how she acted. It was out of her chatacter. We are in an exclusive relationahip btw. Later she did apologize and said next time she will be well rested and eat before the date.
    Hard part about this is.. once you getting sex regularly you do have some minimal obligations to provide for entertainment on occasion. The idea is not to let her milk you dry. She comes across as high maintenance.

    If I were in your position, I would try to bring up that you have some kind of 90 day probationary period for all new relationships and start shit testing her for various behaviors. Settle relationship is a big deal to me. If she seems like a spendthrift who will run you dry, you'll need some strong game to keep her in check.

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    I dunno sounds like things are getting pretty boring. And she seems pretty high maintenance like making you want to get more and more creative. Well for me dating is a metaphorical roller coaster because I am so enthralled by this chick but not a "Oneitis" feeling cuz I really dislike her and have no intention of sleeping with her cuz I only want to bang 10's I know you guys can kill me now ^_^

    But anyway our first date was a dive bar, then spent the night at her house. The next day we went to a beer festival (free) her friends brought the beer. The following weekend we went to another beer festival but I got mad at her for making out with the other dude she is dating in front of me. So I tried to break up with her but she said I can't and won't stop texting me. She doesn't make me buy her dinner but does like me to share sometimes. I have spent hardly any money on her but last weekend I did buy her concert ticket and again more flirting with other dudes but by this point I am fed up with her and just waiting for her to go away.

    Anyway our next date is dinner. I don't know what after that but it's fun cuz finally not a group date! Also I planned on buying her another concert ticket but I am thinking about buying it for the hairstylist instead. Also she wants me to go to Vegas but I am like hell no cuz she is bringing a million people so I already know the protection shield won't let me bang her plus what if she ditches me in Vegas! So she wants me to go that but again I am over her and debating who to take to the next concert likely the hairstylist since I know it will be an Isolation date and my GF will probably make it another group date!!

    But yeah I trying to ignore her doesn't work. She just likes every single thing I put on FB and then she texts me how this went or that went. Even if I ignore her over text she will text me at some point. So right now I am pretty much ignoring her for the next two weeks until I "get bored/lonely" and ask her out to dinner before her Vegas trip. After that I don't know what my plan is because I will be seeing the hairstylist after our dinner date so I hope it goes well with me picking her up! But it helps me to invite them to fun activities first and then dinner dates work for continuation dating. For you...

    I would say get out of going broke over this chick. My chick barely ever makes me spend a lot of money on her. But as far as dates go for ideas in general here are some ones I am going to be trying out eventually.

    Yoga and Coffee
    Swimming
    Mini-golfing
    Paintball
    Holiday Events (perfect cuz usually free!)
    But concerts are a smash and usually always get me a date!
    Dinner Dates
    Dive Bars are great too (bar and grill spots) cuz you can still sit down and have a convo over dinner then get drunk
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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    Quote Originally Posted by JackSarge View Post
    I dunno sounds like things are getting pretty boring. And she seems pretty high maintenance like making you want to get more and more creative. Well for me dating is a metaphorical roller coaster because I am so enthralled by this chick but not a "Oneitis" feeling cuz I really dislike her and have no intention of sleeping with her cuz I only want to bang 10's I know you guys can kill me now ^_^

    But anyway our first date was a dive bar, then spent the night at her house. The next day we went to a beer festival (free) her friends brought the beer. The following weekend we went to another beer festival but I got mad at her for making out with the other dude she is dating in front of me. So I tried to break up with her but she said I can't and won't stop texting me. She doesn't make me buy her dinner but does like me to share sometimes. I have spent hardly any money on her but last weekend I did buy her concert ticket and again more flirting with other dudes but by this point I am fed up with her and just waiting for her to go away.

    Anyway our next date is dinner. I don't know what after that but it's fun cuz finally not a group date! Also I planned on buying her another concert ticket but I am thinking about buying it for the hairstylist instead. Also she wants me to go to Vegas but I am like hell no cuz she is bringing a million people so I already know the protection shield won't let me bang her plus what if she ditches me in Vegas! So she wants me to go that but again I am over her and debating who to take to the next concert likely the hairstylist since I know it will be an Isolation date and my GF will probably make it another group date!!

    But yeah I trying to ignore her doesn't work. She just likes every single thing I put on FB and then she texts me how this went or that went. Even if I ignore her over text she will text me at some point. So right now I am pretty much ignoring her for the next two weeks until I "get bored/lonely" and ask her out to dinner before her Vegas trip. After that I don't know what my plan is because I will be seeing the hairstylist after our dinner date so I hope it goes well with me picking her up! But it helps me to invite them to fun activities first and then dinner dates work for continuation dating. For you...

    I would say get out of going broke over this chick. My chick barely ever makes me spend a lot of money on her. But as far as dates go for ideas in general here are some ones I am going to be trying out eventually.

    Yoga and Coffee
    Swimming
    Mini-golfing
    Paintball
    Holiday Events (perfect cuz usually free!)
    But concerts are a smash and usually always get me a date!
    Dinner Dates
    Dive Bars are great too (bar and grill spots) cuz you can still sit down and have a convo over dinner then get drunk
    She makes out and flirts with other guys in front of you and you're still buying her things? You're still "with" her? I rest my case lol

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    In today's society, to categorize human relationships as ''relationships'', is a lack of esteem somehow, a lack of communication and a lack of understanding who we are, all mixed together! I will ask you something here : what's a COUPLE for you?

    Because it is is proven by scientific research ( if you read SpermWars, you'll know ) that most of the human beings in relationships cheat on their partners...

    Anyway, personally, I 've never been in a relationship and I never will be. Why ? Because I 'd rather be CONNECTED with humans around. I did have girls (so many) that I felt love and passion for, so did they for me. But, I prefer to be CONNECTED with people around me. And to categorize a girl as your girlfriend is just the names and labels we give to "test" the relationships you are experiencing. Actually, I don't have a girlfriend. I am connected with the most beautiful woman on this earth, which is I know my soulmate and angel. I call her my shooting star, not my girlfriend!

    The thing is that we understand that being a couple is not set in stone , and that relationships change because our DEGREE OF CONNECTION to other changes all the time, because relationships change all the time, due to various factors such as your values ​​(which also change constantly), your steps in your life compared to your dreams (which change for those who have dreams and grow to reach them ), etc.

    And THAT'S true: many people try to find their partner in order to only settle for a ''relationship'' before even learning to grow and evolve towards THEIR dreams. And it never works or we understand nothing of that kind of relationship, because we get lost ... Well , I'll tell you one thing ...

    On our way towards our goals, this is where we meet the key people in our lives. Finding a life partner happens by itself, because according to our desires and dreams, life brings us the right people, and we know and feel it when this occurs.

    Why are people lost in relationships these days? Well ... it's easy ...

    We are disconnected from ourselves , our dreams , our ambitions ...

    We think it's the next person you meet that will bring us happiness or otherwise.

    The truth is that happiness is the path itself to our dreams , the adventure and discovery of ourselves. And the relations we have with people around us, and especially that one special person we want to share our life with, are constantly IN RELATIONSHIP, not just categorized as actual ''relationships ' or being ''single" : those are the people with whom we SHARE our desires and emotions ...

    So, a girlfriend or a boyfriend is someone who allows you to develop you, who listens to you, that really is CONNECTED to your dreams and desires as much as you are for him or her, and that makes you move towards your dreams, encouraging you ... This is not someone with whom you're "in a relationship" or "not" ... You shouldn't categorize this!

    I think that this is time for society, our generation, to reconnect with our goals and our mission in life! This is how we realize ourselves and create the world around us, including you know, so called "relationships" ...

    And that, my friend, is valid for both men and women, no matter the age, the physical appearance, the maturity, life experience, etc.

    So, here's my advise to you : if you feel like that girl is the one that can develop you and elevate you, you'll want to naturally be with her and life circumstances are going to change around you so both of you get to connect even more with each other. My advise is this : ask yourself what do you really want out of life, and from there, the right people are going to come in to your life, I promise...

    So, my point is : no matter what you do, if you find your true meaning for what drives you, you won't ask yourself "What to do on dates" because you will enjoy every single second, every little moment, with the girl of your dreams!

    Does that make sense to you?
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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    She wants to go to the aquarium this Friday "because it would be so romantic and nobody's ever done that for her". Well she is broke and if we go I will be footing the 26 bucks per person, plus gas, plus dinner.
    How do I get her under control? She just wants to be a child and go to amusement parks, resorts, ridiculous vacations etc.

    I was really annoyed from our third date how she acted. It was out of her chatacter. We are in an exclusive relationahip btw. Later she did apologize and said next time she will be well rested and eat before the date.
    that right there is a bad sign, she's testing you to see how mutch of a financial commitment you're willing to make for her. don't fall into the trap of paying for everything!

    tell her "I believe in equal rights, and that includes splitting the bill"

    you don't want to be the guy who takes her places and pays for her to be entertained. that's no different than hiring a prostitute. only that the prostitute doesn't cost near as much time and effort.

    her sex isn't worth so much that you should have to pay for dinners and expensive dates. the thing you should be trading for her sex is your sex. not dinner for sex or drive her places for sex or take her to an amusement park for sex.

    have some self respect, and let her know that you value an independent woman who can pay for her own way. this will save you tons of money.

    there are lots of farked up women out there who will gladly use you for your money. you have to protect you financial and emotional well being by putting your foot down and saying enough is enough. don't let her drag you around like you're her new purse that she takes money out of to pay for things.

    with high maintenance chicks you have to be able to say "no" to them a lot. the word "no" is probably the most powerful word in your vocabulary. it grants you the ability to deny her every demand. she will love you for it. the only men who have ever told her "no" in her life were probably also some of the most confident men she's met. thus saying "no" to her demands actually makes you more attractive to her.

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    Default Re: What to do on dates

    Don't be a "sugar daddy".
    BUT... if you've been together for a while & are actually "in a relationship," then the money thing shouldn't be too big an issue.

    However; it should also work BOTH ways... meaning: she should be contributing & paying for entertainment too.

    It doesn't have to be totally equal... but you shouldn't be the one who ALWAYS shells out the money to do stuff.

    It should be a partnership.


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