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    Default I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Hey Gents,

    So lets get to it, I've been talking to this girl for two weeks. Things have been going well, i'm framed as the prize and she is definitely in to me. This past weekend our schedules didn't align and we didn't hangout. Sunday we made a plan to hangout on tuesday night, so all was good. But then today rolls around I shoot a text midday, and don't get a response (this is unusual). I give her a call about an hour before to see if we were still on, and no answer. She then text me letting me know she's swamped with work and wont be able to hangout until maybe this weekend.

    All of this is fine, but I chose to say something about her letting me know, just one hour before we were supposed to meet. Heres the convo, and I'm not sure if I like the way It ended. Fellas let me know what I should do after this. Check it out:

    Her: Yeoooo I am still at work! What's up?

    Me: Why you yelling??, you like the trailor?

    Her: Hahaha bc today sucked

    Her: I have three huge treatment plans due by Friday soo I honestly don't think I can hang but maybe on the weekend?

    Me: Don't trip, Completely understand, though next time gimme a heads up more than an hour in advance. Thanks

    Me:Sorry today sucked but it can be too bad with this guy around
    (Picture of cute puppy)

    Her: Yeah sorry about that. I got extremely busy at work and I am usually not around my phone at all, We just moved to a new facility so its just been really hectic . But that puppy is so cute!

    FAST FORWARD----->

    Her: Aiiiight well if I can get through this work week I will be one happy person and I will call you

    Me: Haha that was cute, get it done!

    Her: I promise I am not trying to ditch you. I am literally just swamped

    Me: I know! You got this

    Please let me know what you think, should I not text her for a while? let me know!

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Several several mistakes here. Not what you said however what you did was where you conveyed too much interest. Try my method of putting them on hold or setting a date and then text ditching them. I followed those simple rules with my GF and she texted me all day and didn't flake on our first date. She insisted three days before, the day before and then the day of but I literally didn't plan on contacting her. This is a nice "bait and switch" move I like to play get em to agree to a date and then ditch em! The first time I tried it worked but will try it on my next GF too. My GF ALWAYS texts me back. Usually no more than 1 day. Sometimes I send 1 very rarely do I get ignored.

    Because I was simply honest and open. I didn't smother her and never sent more than 3 texts in a row. But into you yeah you gave her way too much power and for sures she is not calling you this weekend. Now you have to win her back because she showed that you place too much value on her showing up this makes girls uneasy. When my girl ditched me for activity #1 I just said honey it's okay I know you are busy. That simple kind hearted reply got me one of the first compliments she ever gave me. She was like okay boo I just was doing some girls hair but couldn't come so how about tonight what are you doing tonight? So then of course we met up that night and I spent the night at her house.

    Your reaction was rather negative and she how mine differed? Granted you were kinda guilt tripping her and so she bullsh!ted you even more. Gotta be real dawg cuz when you play the control freak she is gonna lose interest fast and stop investing which she is obviously doing. To get her back simply tell her yesterday was not that important and you had other things to do but you are glad she is willing to meet up this weekend. You have to win her back after the fvck up cuz if you ignore it she will ignore you. So trust me suck it up and stop acting like that. Do what I do invite chicks on dates ditch them and then when they flake say "okay baby I know you are busy" and boom all those nerves she has about meeting up go away. By being cool calm and collected I have comfort with my girl and so that's why now she is pretty much always strait up. I trained her that way!
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Granted the situation with my girl is seriously fvckd up as many of the guys here will rant and rave to me about but I still give a crap about her. In other words...
    "I am not ditching you" means "I am ditching you."
    "I am just swamped" means "I am uncomfortable about meeting up"
    "I'll call you" means "I am not calling you cuz you came on too strong"

    Now like I said admit subtly to the fvck up and say "yeah sorry yesterday I was in a grumpy mood cuz of blah blah blah but I hope we can still meet up this weekend!" That would be a perfect Segway to PING and get a true feel for how things are gonna proceed but if you just play it off then this weekend you are gonna get a spice girl on your hands and not in a good way. I have noticed it's okay to show some self-doubt cuz that let's them put confidence and trust in you which builds comfort. But if you ignore all these issues her interest level will drop into the 40's which means she likely will try to get rid of you. So watch your step and don't be over-confident but not a spinless wimp either!! When you are in comfort you have less to worry about cuz you are both more real with each other.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    sarge,

    your the man. I sent that olive branch this morning and it seems like its all good. Now i'm gonna sit tight until the weekend. Thanks for the help boss.

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Hey sarge,

    It's been a few days and this HB8 has been cold, have'nt heard from her since I ran the damage control letting her know I was sorry about how I was acting the day before. I talked to her for two weeks prior to the mixup and things seemed pretty strong. Should I re-initiate a conversation this upcoming week or just forget about it? It's been about 4 days since I talked to her last.

    let me know what you think boss.

    Thanks!

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Not enough attraction. Kaboom

    Reinitiate the convo just for the sake of getting experience.

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Lenric,

    How should I go about it? I know how to reinitiate but should I continue trying to build attraction or push a meetup? Or am I up the creek without a paddle? It's all for the sake of learning from my mistakes at this point. We did a solid amount of texting and she gave alot of ioi's. let me know what you think.

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Oh, so sweet when the smell of oneitis is in the air
    My prescription for you would be flirts with a couple of girls and maybe, only maybe, trying to flirt again with the "oneitigirl".


    Bear in mind, however, that the return of the attraction is as unlikely as Bush being president again. (I know that you're giving a fuck about this, since you've got oneitis, but whatever, best of luck!)

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    Default Re: I Think I Farked Up, I Need Advice!!

    Haha Lenric, your so right, I knew that was my problem. Oh well on to the next!


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