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    Angel739739 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    First off I've been following this site for awhile now and I am thankful for all the amazing content on here, thanks. I am somewhat new to the game.

    Ok the Problem...

    The Short Version
    I want my sister's friend (F-close or Short Term Relationship, whatever I don't care). She put up the "No Sex" Wall because she's afraid if things go wrong she'll lose (me and) my sister. If things went sour, she can still be friends with my sis. I don't care. And to top it all off my buddy is going after her. Constantly making sexual advances on her on FB and real life.

    The Girl-
    She's a HB 7.5, 8 in personality But has a lot of issues and bad history (drugs and been around a lot). I pretty much just want a F-close or buddy. If thing don't work out I don't care that much.

    The Long Version-
    My sisters friend and I kinda have a thing for each other, but she had a boyfriend back then. I haven't seen her in a few years and she came back recently (and now single). My buddy(who wants her) brought her to his party and we hit it off pretty well. I was DQ'ing her, flirting abit, she was feeling my biceps then dropped the "No Sex" bomb. I was mentally blown away so I tried to joke it off and said "good caz I don't want a scrawny little girl like you" (looking back I should have prolly re-assured her it would be ok nothing would go wrong). We've hung out a few times after, I've been doing all the leading from texting to hanging out. I've been trying to escalate and lead it into the bedroom, but both times she said "I'm tired, I just want to sleep".
    Which could be legit lol.

    Sollution ?
    I think I should escalate thing with more Kino and re-assure her that nothing bad would happen. I am just gonna ignore what my buddy is doing and try to not let it bug me and go for the gold. If things don't work out, whatever.

    Thanks for any advice you can give.

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    Default Re: My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    Honestly when you are ever competing over a girl with another guy, always assume you've won it. Don't worry about what the other person does or say, just do you. Anyway if you want to f-close then you got to flirt and escalate sexually sometimes when you talk to her... Make sure you don't overdo the sexual escalation part, from my trials amd errors I've come to learn that too much will make you seem like those other mediocre guys instead of standing out. Always calibrate so you don't go overboard.
    Last edited by marvilo; 09-30-2014 at 10:44 PM. Reason: grammar error
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    Angel739739 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    Hey Marvilo, thanks for the advice. You're absolutely right, assume that I've already won it and either way I win. Also escalate things and calibrate, calibrate, calibrate .Thanks for helping my get a better perspective on things thanks man.

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    Default Re: My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    The no sex thing was a shit test. You didn't do very well either. You called her a scrawny little girl which is a no-no. You shouldn't EVER make a girl feel un-sexy. Making a girl feel sexy is the BEST thing you can do.

    I think what you did was better than reassuring her however. I would have gone with something like this "No sex?? Whoa! Slow down! I wasn't even THINKING about that! Now I know what YOU'RE thinking about". You basically frame it like it's all her idea.

    Stop caring about your friend. It doesn't matter. If you are getting her to hang out with you one on one she's into you on some level. Just continue to escalate. If you've made out with her already you're good to go! Read this and you will f-close http://www.puaforums.com/how-seduce-...rough-lmr.html. Cheers!

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    Default Re: My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    Every guy and his brother is trying to get my GF even my wingman! I like how her other date buddy posted a pic with her on his profile and she didn't like it when I posted a pic of me and her and she liked it. Plus every guy is lunging after her with arms wide open but I am just indifferent towards this entire situation and in fact don't care what happens. If you are outcome defendant you will lose the girl for sure. The thing I noticed about most these guys is they are very outcome dependent and get butthurt when she tells then no cuz she is hanging with me. Plus I am cooler and those AFC's get kicked out but I get invited back again! So all in all be Alpha not AFC. But the next time she invites an AFC to our date I am ditching her for the hairstylist. I am sick of hanging out with douchebags who talk crap behind my back cuz she is digging on me. So you could say I am lining up my next GF right now and my current GF has very little leeway, in fact I will go as far as if our next date is not a smash and she pulls one more stunt I will latch onto the hairstylist 100% to the next concert and tell her strait up I am sick of it. I hate these competitions but yeah may the best man win and play your A Game. She should reject those AFC's but I know she is doing it to make me jealous so she entertains them. So my advice find someone who doesn't invest in anyone but you it is just a fool's errand everytime I hang out with her and a nonstop competition but some girls don't do that.
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    Default Re: My buddy and I are after the same girl...

    In other words she should have blocked him but she entertains it is a significant sign of the things to come..go for it just tiring.
    When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
    Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.
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