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    Default Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    In early August I met up with a girl I met on Tinder. She initiated contact and was the one to ask me out on a date. Everything went well and we went on several dates over three weeks. She ended up sleeping with me a few times over the course of the month too. She told me that she was interested in me a few times but I never brought up the idea of us dating because she had never had a boyfriend before and seemed apprehensive to it. She was also apprehensive partly because her roommates told her we wouldn't be able to see each other during the school year due to our busy schedules (She told me they were jealous of her due to the fact they're all single). Long story short about 4 weeks in to us seeing each other we planned a date out a week in advance. I took off work for two days to make it work. 30 minutes before I'm supposed to pick her up, she calls me and gives me a BS excuse as to why we can't get together that night. I was obviously pissed but tried to let it go. The next day she tells me we should stop pretending things will work due to our busy schedules and should go our separate ways. After this I was kind of rude in my response to her and cut off all contact (deleting from facebook etc.) so I'm not surprised she hasn't contacted me. I haven't talked to her in about a month and a half. Apparently she made a new Tinder account because I passed her profile yesterday. Would it be worth re-initiating contact with her to see where things went so wrong or should I just leave it alone? Thanks in advance for any suggestions/comments.

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    Default Re: Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    First of all, give the reader some room to breath. T'was a stressful reading but I want to help. Divide it into sections.

    Now, it's obvious that something is wrong here. I feel that you are used by that woman. You turned into a yes man, probably because you(re) fall/falling for her.

    I suggest reading some stuff about Mindset. There is a lot of ways but start here in the forum. Lots of good reads.

    If she made a new account, probably she is looking for another guy now. Leave. Learn. Move on.

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    Default Re: Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    You fucked up when you answered so badly to her flake. You should have said simply "ok". After that, could have smashed your car, or whatever, but "ok" was the right answer, because it was "kind of" a test.

    Now, move on.

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    Default Re: Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    I think you are really unsure of what you want out of a relationship with this girl. It seems that she considered being in a relationship with you but you didn't respond within her window of opportunity and she lost interest.
    Also, one of the biggest mistakes you made was getting mad and reactive when she said it won't work out. Take this as a lesson. Move on and go out and meet more women.

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    Default Re: Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    I think you did a rational move. It ended everything pretty fast. Personally i dont see it as wrong--having taken 2 days off from work is kind of a big deal. My suggestion on this is to not be so eager to please her so early. You've got to remember to value yourself more where she should be working towards you.

    As for what to do now--hit her up if you want to. Ignore the past and roll with the punches till she wants to address them. I think its important to acknowledge that she gave up on your relationship. You just finished the job by cutting everything off.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Breaking no contact. Any advice?

    I would ask yourself if you really want her back in a relationship or if you're just feeling down that you're single and haven't found anyone else (i.e. a form of buyers remorse).

    What Newone said, take some time and get into the right mind set of being a "man" vs an AFC. You're not on a time frame even though you may feel like you are - you already have a rapport with her and can tap into that at any time.

    Secondly, don't contact her on Tinder. If you want to get with her you need to separate yourself from your last relationship, and she probably created a new tinder for a good reason. Also, if you want her attention, dancing around it and "hoping" she swipes right on your profile is really kind of the beta/anti-manly shit that's not going to get her to begin with. You want to be in control, be a man, and make deliberate decisive moves to get what you want. That's being a man.

    What I would do is, after you work on yourself and getting in the right Mindset, send her a text message (or Facebook message - I know you unfriended her, but we all know you still know how to get to her profile) and say something totally innocuous like "Hey, just saw (something) and it made me think of you, hope you're doing well!" It's positive and noncommittal. Lets you test the waters a bit, see if she replies. And like I said before, it's what men do: Its deliberate - you thought of her, YOU wanted to talk to her, and you're OK with it if she doesn't reply.


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