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Thread: Did I mess up with this one text?

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    Default Did I mess up with this one text?

    I met this girl on POF about a week ago and went on a little spontaneous date with her yesterday. Here's a little background about her: she's 18, just started college, and works as a STNA (state tested nursing assistant) on the side. We were originally suppose to meet Thursday which is today but she's texted me late Tuesday night asking to hang out since she's bored. I hung out with her at Wal-Mart (only place open) for an hour since she has a curfew and lives with her parents but overall she had a good time. She was very very shy and awkward when we met but eventually started warming up to me a bit and kissed me on the cheek at the end of the night.

    When I got home, I get the text from her: "It was fun hanging out. Hope I wasnt too awkward and shy!"

    The next day, I don't text her at all until the evening:

    Me: Being sick + number crunching = hilarously gross. Hope you don't reek too much of old people!

    Her: You're sick? Haha. Oh I totally smell like a 90 year old women right now.

    Me: You better not be wearing any granny panties, I want to see the good stuff.

    After that no response. So far every text I've send she has responded back. It's been almost 2 days. Did that ^ one text come across as too creepy or sexual? I was trying to be escalate sexually in a subtle manner but she may have taken it the wrong way.

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    Default Re: Did I mess up with this one text?

    You waited too long to originally text back, but you recovered well with that first text.

    However; you got all creepy sexual with the "seeing the panties" text. You came off as waaaaay over-eager & needy.

    You would have done better keeping it lighter & still playful, rather than pushing the sexual intent too soon.

    "You smell like a 90 yr old woman? I hope you at least learned all their secret recipes... You could totally bake me some cookies then! "

    It takes practice... and learning from your mistakes.
    However; I give you mad props for having the balls to push the boundaries like that.

    Yeah, that was definitely too much too soon, but that's exactly how you learn & progress. So don't take this as a failure, take it as making a leap forward & then have a little more patience next time.


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    Default Re: Did I mess up with this one text?

    Yeah that's what I figured. I'll be honest, she was really boring in terms of her personality, not very driven, etc. and I didn't really see a future between the two of us. My intent was to go for an f-close. So I played it really risky. Any ideas of what I should send to recover from this? I was going to act like nothing happened at all and maybe say something like, "What are ya up to this weekend? Let me guess, learning Chinese to impress me. How sweet of you!

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    Default Re: Did I mess up with this one text?

    Just pretend that nothing happened... if you don't make a big deal out of it then she won't either. You got to make mistakes to get better so just use this mistake tp get better. Also calibrate, some girls it is easier to sexually escalate and some are a little harder and requires time and patience.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!


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