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Thread: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

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    Default Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Here's a little back ground about this girl.

    I always go to this Little Caesars Pizza place near me & I noticed this cute girl there. Never really paid her any mind. Now I always order the pizza's not cut, because I like to cut them myself. After a while of me going there & becoming a regular, she started talking to me about "Why I never get the pizza cut?" after explaining and making small talk... I leave. A couple other times I go there throughout the next month, I see her again & she asks the same question, but this time teasing me. Now usually the people making the pizza always give me the pizza, never the cashier (what she is), she casually acts like she needs to wipe the table & right as the guy is handing me the pizza, she takes in from him & hands it to me. So at that point I figured she's potentially interested in me. Especially if she went through all the trouble just to get a little interaction between us.

    The next time I walk in there I told myself if she's there I'm going to go for the number, and sure enough shes there. As I walk through the door I hear her tell the other cashier, "Don't worry Kayla, I've got this one." At that moment I knew it was in the bag. So just chatted a few & asked her to write her number down so I can see her sometime other than this place. Asked for her name & how old she was (20) & told her I'll get a hold of her later.

    The next day I take her around noon.

    The Text Conversation:

    Me: Hey, is this Rachael?
    Her: Yes
    Me: Cool My name is Desmond btw. Some people know me by Cody though, Or in your prospective "the guy that never cuts his pizza" Lol
    Her: Loll I'll probably call you Desmond
    Me: I'd prefer that Haha. So what do you do besides work? Go to school?
    Her: No I'm not in school right now, I will be in January. What do you do?
    Me: As you probably already know, right now I work in Walmart's automotive department, & I just graduated with my degree in automotive.
    Me: Currently I'm job searching and waiting for something to come along that I like.
    Her: Well that's good. Where do you wanna work?
    Me: As far as a specific place in mind... I don't know. Either at a diesel mechanic place or a performance division, like taking stock sports cars and building them into street race cars. I'm currently driving a sports car I built all by myself! So it'll be probably something along the lines of that.
    Her: Well that's good, I think you have a good plan
    Me: Well I hope so lol. What about you? Any hobbies you're into? Like, what do you do with most of your spare time?
    Her: I honestly don't do anything, I just work and if I'm not at work I'm at home watching netflix.

    "At this point I was so tired from work, I fell asleep for like 2 hours, woke up and text her back"
    Me: So yeah... Totally fell asleep and just woke up lol
    Her: Loll that's okay
    Me: Do you ever talk on the phone? Or are you one of those people who only text?
    Her: I hate texting loll
    Me: Haha are you free to talk now?
    Her: I'm with my dad
    Me: Gotcha, well I'm going to hop in the shower and get some things ready for tomorrow... I'll call you in like an hour
    Her: Okay well my phone is about to die and I'm out with him so idk if I'll be home.
    Me: Alright, thanks for the heads up, we will figure this out eventually lol

    About 2 hours later it's 11PM, I tried calling her & no answer. 10 minutes later I text her.

    Me: Tired calling you, just get a hold of me later

    Now that all took place Oct 2nd, 2014 around 7pm-11pm.

    I don't want to come off pushy or needy. So I never got back with her, was kinda patiently waiting for her to get a hold of me. I feel like maybe shes playing hard to get? Idk, through my experience I've known girls never to really take the first initiative unless they REALLY like you or they're your girlfriend. (Idk why even told her to get a hold me knowing this)

    How should I go about next contact? Or did I screw it all up?

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    You failed to spark any attraction, because you were too generic.Asking the same questions that every other guy would ask, no flirting, just rapport. Moreover, you pushed to call when there was no attraction and comfort. You were kinda needy.

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    You failed to spark any attraction, because you were too generic.Asking the same questions that every other guy would ask, no flirting, just rapport. Moreover, you pushed to call when there was no attraction and comfort. You were kinda needy.
    So I'm guessing no chance in recovery? Chalk up the loss & on to the next one?

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Befriend her. She must have loads of female friends for you to know. Way easier and better than turning this mess around

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    Befriend her. She must have loads of female friends for you to know. Way easier and better than turning this mess around
    Haha, she seems like maybe she needs a little fun in her life. I was actually looking to date! Not just FWB or hook up with once. I'm kind of transitioning over from being done with just hookin' up, I'm getting bored...

    now I feel like maybe this is a challenge.

    Plans were to actually hang out with her & possibly take her somewhere fun! Potential Girlfriend?

    So "LETS'" turn this mess around

    School Me Please.

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Your call mate. Go to "How to flirt with girls". Loads of good material

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Quote Originally Posted by lenric View Post
    Your call mate. Go to "How to flirt with girls". Loads of good material
    Just took a quick read... Definitely see your point where I was focusing too much on rapport rather than flirting... (Smacking self in head) I feel like a tard now lol

    So since I FUBAR'd by throwing the ball in her court by telling her "to get ahold of me"

    I think I'll go ahead and shoot her a witty text. I'll try to come off flirty & fun but not serious & make it seem like nothings wrong. Since I know that all she does is work or netflix, tomorrow it'll say something like...

    "So you're either curled up bedside watching reruns on Netflix, or breaking sweats selling circle cheesy things w/ pepperonis... Lol Care to tell me which craft you're perfecting today? :P"

    What do you think? High chances of a response?

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Some girls don't like texting first. It doesn't mean you did something wrong, just text her again with a new topic and don't worry about the past.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Quote Originally Posted by Wilson90 View Post
    Just took a quick read... Definitely see your point where I was focusing too much on rapport rather than flirting... (Smacking self in head) I feel like a tard now lol

    So since I FUBAR'd by throwing the ball in her court by telling her "to get ahold of me"

    I think I'll go ahead and shoot her a witty text. I'll try to come off flirty & fun but not serious & make it seem like nothings wrong. Since I know that all she does is work or netflix, tomorrow it'll say something like...

    "So you're either curled up bedside watching reruns on Netflix, or breaking sweats selling circle cheesy things w/ pepperonis... Lol Care to tell me which craft you're perfecting today? :P"

    What do you think? High chances of a response?
    It's cool mate, go ahead. About the response, well, the question shouldn't be if she does it, but rather how.
    Just wait and see.

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    Default Re: Told her to get ahold me... & nothing. Did I screw up? School Me.

    Yeap, so I shot her that text (in the morning) that I said I was going too... No response. Then I tried one last step & tried calling her about 12 hours later(Since she told me she hates texting), no answer, rung twice then went to voice mail. I left her a message just saying...

    "Hey Rachael, it's (My name), just seeing what you're up too, haven't heard from you in while, I forgot you don't like texting, if you can, call me a little later"

    Then after that, I was asking my sister something and she told me she knows the girl & she thinks she's talking to someone. & she basically kinda told me to not mess with her...

    So then I kinda figured, so that's who she was with when she said she was with her Dad at 11pm at night. (<---- I thought that was a little odd) Guessing that other guy...

    But fuck it... I'm done. I don't know why I get like this... It's like I know I fucked up, but I have to prove myself idk, it's weird. I'll just do what you guys call and Freeze Out for a while.


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