Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 12
Like Tree5Likes

Thread: Should I even bother???

  1. #1
    hinacay is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 73, Level: 1
    Level completed: 46%, Points required for next Level: 27
    Overall activity: 16.7%
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    11
    Points
    73
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    7

    Default Should I even bother???

    So im hitting up this HB9 and she sends back messages frequently but nothing really of substance. Should i keep chasing or just give it up and move on?

    M:
    I may not be extraordinarily handsome but I am a master of sax and can serenade you like you have never been serenaded before haha ( FYI I play saxophone )
    HB:
    Try me
    M;
    Hey now I don't just hand out my serenades left and right like they're free condoms at a frat party. Once I think you're cool enough then I think I can probably serenade you into submission but until then how about we start off with names. Mines ***
    HB:
    I'm ***.. It's nice to meet you
    M:
    Haha like wise. So tell me summer what makes you different from all the other girls on the site, besides your name. And don't so anything about your looks because as beautiful as you are beauty is only skin deep
    HB:
    I feel like what's on the outside doesn't matter at all. It's the personality that's what matters the most.
    M:
    Exactly! No one likes a d1ck
    HB:
    Exactly!
    M:
    So what makes you so sure you aren't one? Oh miss holier than thou haha
    HB:
    I don't know :$

    Thoughts?

  2. #2
    marvilo's Avatar
    marvilo is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,939, Level: 54
    Level completed: 95%, Points required for next Level: 11
    Overall activity: 40.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Apr 2013
    Posts
    877
    Points
    6,939
    Level
    54
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts
    Rep Power
    325

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    She's giving you things to talk about... I think you should keep going after her until she starts becoming boring and not actually conversating... also make her validate herself to you, let her chase too.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

  3. #3
    artandale's Avatar
    artandale is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 4,719, Level: 43
    Level completed: 85%, Points required for next Level: 31
    Overall activity: 53.0%
    Achievements:
    Social1000 Experience Points7 days registered
    Join Date
    May 2014
    Location
    Los Angeles, CA
    Posts
    820
    Points
    4,719
    Level
    43
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts
    Rep Power
    238

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    Start transitioning the conversation into more things to work with. Its ok to tease her playfully. You've sided with her and got her to agree about some subject. Dont make the conversation about online dating--you'll get stuck there. In the art of teasing its ok to tease her by assuming things. Make it come across as non threatening and light hearted. Nicknames are a pretty good start and she'll start to remember you a bit more. Remember to be interesting, fun and make her think more. Try to avoid yes or no answers unless you can transition it to add to the attraction element by teasing / flirting with her a bit
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

  4. #4
    T-Mal's Avatar
    T-Mal is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 31,222, Level: 100
    Level completed: 0%, Points required for next Level: 0
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social25000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Awards:
    Posting Award
    Join Date
    Apr 2012
    Location
    Southern Michigan USA
    Posts
    2,558
    Points
    31,222
    Level
    100
    Thanks
    3
    Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts
    Rep Power
    1391

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    You're bordering on "validation seeking" at the moment by bragging about sex & serenading.

    It's one thing to be playful & establish that you're interested in her as "more than friends"... but be careful how you present yourself.

    Also, be careful not to come off as overly cocky.
    Some playful cocky attitude is fine, just don't overdo it.


    Need one on one private coaching? PM me for details.

  5. #5
    lenric's Avatar
    lenric is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 4,302, Level: 41
    Level completed: 76%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    597
    Points
    4,302
    Level
    41
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 11 Times in 11 Posts
    Rep Power
    208

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    Holier than thou, great music from Metallica.

    Anyway, your frame is a really good one. My favorite, by the way. However, it's the hardest frame to maintain. It's like swimming in a pool full of sharks and mud and getting out of it clean. So, as time goes by, try to decrease the cocky style and increase the funny side. Not the sweet funny side, but the teasing funny side.

    "I'm asking this, because you seem to be the dominatrix girl style..."
    Whatever she says, disagree. Playfully, however.

    "Oh, you're the dominatrix style. You naughty girl... I bet all of your past guys have some trademark on their body..." she'll answer something, whatever, you "I don't care, I can't risk it, because 2 days per week I dress as a drag queen to do some strip shows! " -> transitioning to something else besides sex.

  6. #6
    hinacay is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 73, Level: 1
    Level completed: 46%, Points required for next Level: 27
    Overall activity: 16.7%
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    11
    Points
    73
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    7

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    hmm so i think i may have messed things up. Its fine with me since i have other girls on the line but not sure if i should continue with her or not.

    M:
    tell me something i dont know lol

    HB:
    Cocky..... Lol

    M:
    haha cocky? me? I like to refer to it as confidence. If i was really cocky I would have already asked you out on a date and demand that you have sex with me but since Im not i think I'm just gonna ask for your number.

    HB:
    I don't just have sex.... You should know that now... I'm still a virgin and don't want to just fuck the next guy I see just because....

    M:
    hey hey didn't I just say I wasn't demanding sex? and besides what makes you think I'm that easy anyway?? You'd be lucky if I held your hand by the 5th date

    HB;
    Ok

  7. #7
    lenric's Avatar
    lenric is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 4,302, Level: 41
    Level completed: 76%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    597
    Points
    4,302
    Level
    41
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 11 Times in 11 Posts
    Rep Power
    208

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    Kind of a test, which you failed, since you defended yourself.

  8. #8
    hinacay is offline Aspiring PUA
    Points: 73, Level: 1
    Level completed: 46%, Points required for next Level: 27
    Overall activity: 16.7%
    Join Date
    Jun 2014
    Posts
    11
    Points
    73
    Level
    1
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    7

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    so should i just bail or keep going with her?

  9. #9
    lenric's Avatar
    lenric is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 4,302, Level: 41
    Level completed: 76%, Points required for next Level: 48
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    1000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Mar 2013
    Posts
    597
    Points
    4,302
    Level
    41
    Thanks
    1
    Thanked 11 Times in 11 Posts
    Rep Power
    208

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    Befriend her and get to know her friends. And then flirt with them. Preferably, with all of 'em. But drop the cocky act, you can't maintain it, so you'll come across as an insecure prick.

  10. #10
    Mystik is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 743, Level: 14
    Level completed: 44%, Points required for next Level: 57
    Overall activity: 62.0%
    Achievements:
    7 days registered500 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Nov 2012
    Posts
    382
    Points
    743
    Level
    14
    Thanks
    2
    Thanked 2 Times in 2 Posts
    Rep Power
    53

    Default Re: Should I even bother???

    cocky and funny should not be used all the time. Like a spice to add flavor to a dish it should be used sparingly. At some point you want to taper off a bit.

    I think it's best to move on. I'm not an expert on texting(in fact I suck at it myself)but I think that it's usually best to chalk it up as a learning experience. Look back on it and see what mistakes you made.

    Another thing is you never really want to insult her directly. It's more about implying stuff rather than calling her a d1ck or whatever. I'm not saying you crossed the line there but maybe you almost did. Also, you want to avoid insulting yourself like when you said you are "not extraordinarily handsome." In my opinion things like this should be avoided because it makes you sound insecure(not just with your looks but in general). You want to be as confident as possible. So what if you aren't that great looking. Most of us know by now that you don't have to be super handsome to get women(or even hot women). It is true though that you don't want to take yourself (or her for that matter)too seriously but at the same time you don't want to put yourself down in anyway either. Self deprecating humor can be used(very sparingly)but not until way later on in the relationship after she gets to know you. There is a difference between that and putting yourself down though.


Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. Should I even bother texting again or did I blow it...
    By ShoreGuy28 in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 19
    Last Thread: 08-24-2013, 06:56 PM
  2. Should I even bother?
    By ArnoldTheMan in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 3
    Last Thread: 05-16-2012, 12:55 PM
  3. Do I Bother with this girl I met?
    By FPierce in forum Online And Text Game
    Replies: 3
    Last Thread: 05-02-2012, 06:45 PM
  4. Do i bother with her
    By jumburr in forum How To Get Your Ex Back
    Replies: 3
    Last Thread: 04-04-2012, 09:26 AM
  5. Why do people bother to post here??
    By vtran31 in forum Approaching, Running Sets & Building Attraction
    Replies: 11
    Last Thread: 04-12-2011, 05:02 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com