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Thread: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

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    Default Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    I have and HB8.5 tinder match that went on a coffee date with me. I'm inexperienced so I didn't get in much Kino just some slight arm touches and guiding her through doors as well as a hug at the end of the date.

    During the date she said she had to go home from college to watch her dogs while her parents are gone.

    I texted her and we had a convo the next day and I sense she wanted me to hang out again so I didn't talk to her for two days after we ended the convo and texted her this Imgur.com/a/plx8v

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Cant access the image. Stop thinking about her so much. You're gonna get yorself in a trap thinking about why she's not getting a hold of you. Stop thinking she's a catch and start believing that you are the catch. Hit her up when you're bored and want to do something fun. Only talk to her with purpose. Dont make everything a big deal. Get busy with a few other things in life so you dont have to think about her every moment of every day
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Basically after not texting her for a few days I sent a pic of margarita stuff and I said "margaritas tonight? " She then said yessss with the smiley face hearts. I told her haha cool. Let's do your place address? And she said lol she wishes and has to study. I said lol ur such a brat. It was going to be a study date. She said lol yeah right and I said yep.

    The thing is she's physically attracted to me and most likely sensed my inexperience on the first date but still wanted me to hang out with her by throwing hints.

    Should I just open up to her and say I know I'm pushy I'm just new to the dating thing. And maybe she'd forgive and let me go out on a second date and at least I could practice Kino, kissing and possibly sex because I literally have no experience

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Dude, you're shooting yourself in the foot. I think you need to go out and do some reading/research on how to pick up girls and escalation. I get the feeling you're just out looking for the quick answers and moves to get laid - which is totally wrong.

    A) You have her on such a high pedestal. Who cares if she's a HB 8? There's tons of HB's out there and tons of even better HB 9-10's! Even if your goal is to just date her, you're no where near where you want to be and haven't built any kind of rapport with her.
    B) Listen to your language: "Maybe she'll forgive me if we go on a second date". Wtf? Forgive you for what? If you feel like you OWE her anything or even need to grovel for her forgiveness because you feel like you're new to dating. F*ck what she things, be a man. She should want YOUR attention, not the other way around. Keep it up and she'll flake on you for someone who's actually an Alpha.
    C) Nothing texts- why would she wanna talk to you if you answer "yea" "yep" "kool" (whatever) just so you get the final word? Learn to have a conversation.
    D) You need a lot of work on like, everything. Go fix your inner game.

    And you went on 1 date with her... why are you asking her to come over to your house?! Of course she's gonna say no.

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Quote Originally Posted by SupremeSteve View Post
    Basically after not texting her for a few days I sent a pic of margarita stuff and I said "margaritas tonight? " She then said yessss with the smiley face hearts. I told her haha cool. Let's do your place address? And she said lol she wishes and has to study. I said lol ur such a brat. It was going to be a study date. She said lol yeah right and I said yep.
    You fucked up when you didn't say a thing to her after your meet. Something that could be related to it. Call back humor. It builds rapport and attraction at the same time, if built properly.
    Then you fucked up once again because of the uninteresting texts.

    Quote Originally Posted by SupremeSteve View Post
    The thing is she's physically attracted to me and most likely sensed my inexperience on the first date but still wanted me to hang out with her by throwing hints.
    No, she's not. If she was, she'd suggest another time for you two to hang out.

    Quote Originally Posted by SupremeSteve View Post
    Should I just open up to her and say I know I'm pushy I'm just new to the dating thing. And maybe she'd forgive and let me go out on a second date and at least I could practice Kino, kissing and possibly sex because I literally have no experience
    Do that. Very good idea. Because women have sex just for the sake of teaching. She'll forget that you are a wuss and she'll think "ok, I'm gonna have sex with him just because he's such a nice guy, even though he doesn't look like he as a penis."


    So, summarizing: she doesn't give a damn about you, because you were too much of a wuss. No problemo, you're young. So try to tease girls from now on with no agenda in your mind until it becomes natural.

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Well she brought up hiking during the first date asking if there are any good places to go. Someone suggested I text her later this week saying "I know a great place to go hiking. We can bring food and maybe a blanket to sit and watch the view." Or I could tell her when I'm in the area "hey I hope you're celebrating tonight after all that studying for your midterms. I'm in the area, we should hang out and have a few drinks"

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    She will reject you, because she's not attracted to you.

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    Default Re: Did I just blow it with an 8.5?

    Quote Originally Posted by SupremeSteve View Post
    Well she brought up hiking during the first date asking if there are any good places to go. Someone suggested I text her later this week saying "I know a great place to go hiking. We can bring food and maybe a blanket to sit and watch the view."
    A) Your first date is over, and girls always will suggest making plans about something they have no intent on following through on first dates. This is ESPECIALLY true if you've displayed no kind of alpha-take-charge personality --- because they don't think you're actually going to follow through with it. They can say it just to not be awkward and not hurt your feelings.

    Also, wtf is this sh!t with "I'll bring a blanket and we can cuddle under the view nonsense"?? That's like "We've been dating for a while and we know each other for like a year" kind of date. If you've been acting like a weak puss and she's not attracted to you, why would she want to do this? Because you saw it in a Nicolas Sparks movie? Dates should be fun, exciting, and unpredictable. You're being too serious for some chick you barely know.

    B) What's the difference between:

    Quote Originally Posted by SupremeSteve View Post
    "hey I hope you're celebrating tonight after all that studying for your midterms. I'm in the area, we should hang out and have a few drinks"
    and

    "I was just thinking about you and how relieved you must be after your midterms. I'm going to (name of a bar), come over and we'll celebrate."?

    The second displays dominance and confidence. You're not sitting there using passive language like "I hope you did xyz" like you have no control over anything. In my example, you are in control, you were thinking of her, and you decided to text her. And most importantly, you're telling her to come out. There's no room for debating or considering, proposing some idea that she will reject. Why? Because you're not in control. You care too much what she thinks and you don't want to offend her, and you want to be the nice guy.

    C) Like I said, you need a lot of work on inner game and how to actually pick up chicks. All you're doing is asking us for quick fixes to get you a girlfriend, which is a total waste of everyone's time.


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