Re: How do I handle this?
There is nothing wrong with talking on the phone for hours. Especially cause it's long distance. I honestly think it's her.
The mistake that I feel you may have made is feeding into these frames she's setting up. I don't know for sure if you did or not, but it's possible you did.
Her saying things like "I feel you are different in person than on the phone" is just bs. All things are subject to interpretation. So if she sets up the reality like this and you feed into it you are helping it manifest to be truth. Basically you should've brushed it off. And if it went away on its own after you did this then you know she was just full of it.
Another guy? It's possible. But you gotta treat it the same way whether there's a guy or not. Which is to act as if he doesn't exist. If you think about him and try to "win her from him" you risk some serious AFC behavior. Just act like you're the only one.
If you want to try and be exclusive then it's best to go the classic way which is to say "So I just realized.....are we suppose to be seeing other people?" Gauge her response and go from there. But don't be too hard on yourself if you want more and she doesn't.
Just remember there is only so much you can do. We easily think that if we make the right moves that we can control women. This is false. We do, however, can have alot of influence on them. Which can seem like control, but don't ever kid yourself. Just do what you can and accept the results whether in your favor or not. Overall long distance is a bad idea anyways. I've dealt with a handful myself so I know.
"All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."