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Thread: Complete sh1t show situation, just need to get it off my plate

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    Default Complete sh1t show situation, just need to get it off my plate

    Disclaimer: this post will mention cheating, in pretty awful ways. Oh and it's way too long.

    Where to start?

    I have a roommate, who also happens to be my best friend. I actually taught him the Game, and he does pretty good now. I have a girlfriend already, so usually I just play the Game by being a wingman for him.

    We're both part of a conversation group which is now up to 90% of our social life and friends (which is bad, but that's another topic). It's mostly exchange students, so we get new people regularly.

    My roommate met a girl there that he liked, so again, I started to wingman for him. She got a boyfriend, but is not really into him. I hung out with the girl, kept talking about how doing new stuff was awesome, how she should enjoy life, take advantage of her trip here to try new things, talking about sex, and so on. Since I got a girlfriend that most people know, I got huge deniability to do this kind of things.

    I spent an afternoon like this, teasing and all, and I delivered her to him, horny and adventurous. They hooked up, and it went well enough that since then they've been kind of dating.

    Then everything was fine, but recently while chatting with her and mentioning how cute they were together, she started telling me that she actually wanted out, but she didn't know how to. Since the roommate was out for the week (he travels a lot) I did again my wingman routine, trying to put her back with him, flirting with her for him, aaaaand... we farked.

    tl;dr I cheated on my GF with my best friend's FWB (who got a BF too).

    And we didn't do it just that one time. We did it again the next day, and the day after, and twice the day after that, and basically spent a whole week naked in bed, barely getting out. And it was not just sex, we started talking about how we liked each other, we started holding hands when nobody was watching, kissing in the streets, touching feet under the table, and so on. And seriously, it was awesome. Some of the best sex of my life, super romantic moments, smiling every time I got a text from her, incredibly happy time.

    By then, the roommate had heard about how she was telling a lot of people she wasn't happy with him, he confronted her, she finally said the truth, and they broke up. He went all asshole-y on her, saying he hated her, she was the worst person he had met, he never wanted to see her again, he forbid her to come to any of our parties, and so on.

    A couple of weird days followed, I saw her a bit but we didn't do anything until things got better, and then suddenly: no more contact. Texts left unanswered for 24h, which was highly unusual. And I got back home to find my roommate all happy and smiling, the girl behind him in his room, and telling me they're back together. All great, everyone is happy.

    Except I can't stop thinking about her.

    It's terrible, seriously. I check my phone every 5mn hoping she will text. Until now I managed not to send texts and texts and texts, because it's not my first oneitis, but I keep writing them in my head and having long imaginary conversations with her. Yes, it's that bad.

    And I know that they are lying together right behind my room's wall, and it's killing me. I see them holding hands in the street, kissing, always cuddling each other, and I can't say shit and it's killing me. I kinda agree that it's totally karma, and maybe I deserve it, but damn, it's seriously driving me crazy.

    The worse is how she switched from "I like you so much NT you are the best man I ever met" to straight ignore. That's the kind of shit I want to send dozens of texts about and post vague passive-agressive Facebook status about.

    Anyway, that's the end of my story - at least for now. No need for advice, I'm already pretty familiar with what to do now - freeze her out, switch to other girls, and so on. But I really needed to get it out, and for some obvious reasons I can't talk to anyone who knows my roommate, his girlfriend, or my girlfriend, which left me with nobody to vent to. Thanks for reading, if anyone did.

    tl;dr I got one-itis on my best friend's FWB I cheated on my own girlfriend with, and it sucks balls.

    Cheers,

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    Default Re: Complete sh1t show situation, just need to get it off my plate

    Sounds like you still need to work on your inner game. You say you're solid and know what to do but not to be counter intuitive but you broke your own principal as a wing ontop of everything else. Freezing Her Out so she talks to you is a messy way to go--not to mention you got layers upon layers of drama to come if you keep this up. Considering the fact that your girl and your buddy didnt find out you cheated on both of them you not only have guilt but a lack of remorse and understanding of where you stand as a functioning person who supposed to value and invest into his personal relationships around himself.

    Also you kind twisted your brain around this in a positive light by saying you delivered her to him time after time. A wing doesnt buy and gift wrap a present and say its from someone else. You should have left it to your buddy to EARN THE GIRL. You put yourself in the middle with escalating gestures to play with fire. Redefine your principals as a human being. Stop lying to yourself and embrace the painful truth and LEARN AND MOVE ON.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Complete sh1t show situation, just need to get it off my plate

    Basically by putting this girl in his lap is how you forced her to build attraction for you in the first place. Females are use to Guys always trying to get them into bed and relationships. You gave her something that she wasn't use to, a guy that doesn't want her. The sexual Tension built and you guys gave into the temptation. This girl liked you to began with. She was gonna break it off with him really because she thought you were gonna tell anyway. But you didn't and thats good cause you have a girlfriend. She knows that thats why she stayed with him in the end a cut you off. In the future if you are around her just act as if nothing ever happened. Sexual tension will build again because by just chilling out a quitting pursuit, you'll be doing the unexpected again. Live with the secret and never act on it. You cant have that get back to your girlfriend.
    On the bright side you can review the situation in your head and focus on how you built that sexual tension up in the first place. You have your own routine to practice. Its proven to work. Now you have the power to create sexual tension.
    This is huge, if we were cave men it'd be the equivalent of having a book of matches. Reverse engineer that situation in your mind and focus on what you did. It will make you a better wing and a better PUA. Share the technique or keep it to your self. I've reversed engineered my successful situations its made me awesome. I have my very own BASTARD style of pick up.
    *Also check out my old post I have a situation just like yours in there.*
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    Default Re: Complete sh1t show situation, just need to get it off my plate

    Thanks for the support, Dev!

    On the bright side you can review the situation in your head and focus on how you built that sexual Tension up in the first place. You have your own routine to practice. Its proven to work. Now you have the power to create sexual tension.
    Actually yeah, it's a method I applied successfully a couple times, and it blows my mind but it works. You become best buddy with a girl, listen to her speak about her relationship problems and sex life, like a friendzoned gay bff. But instead of trying to tell her that the guy in question sucks and she deserves better (AFC mistake), you keep telling her how nice of a guy he is, and he's a bit shy and so on (BF destroyer lines). Never stop physically escalating, and you'll end up magically laid.

    I call it "Friendzoned with benefits" I will explore it a bit more, and see how it goes.

    As for the moral implications of this kind of behavior... Yeah, I'm still struggling with that. I try to always leave a girl better than I found her, and for that girl I strongly believe it's true. It's true of my GF too - for now. If she founds out, I will have failed. I realize it is a very messed up way of seeing things, and that bothers me too. I've been going through a LOT of relationships, and maybe I'm losing it. Or maybe I'm just trying alternative ways of gaming.

    Oh and small update: a couple hours after sending the original post, she was in my bed again. Go figure
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