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    Default Intractable? eHarmony missed connection


    I am calling on your collective creativity to help me think through an approach for a woman who reached out to me via eHarmony and then stopped communicating. I know this sounds like wasted effort already, but there is an intuition about this situation that will not go away (this is the one you take home to mom) - and the problem seems intractable. Have never used this website before, so I'm interested to see how this goes...

    Was on eHarmony for a bit and lost interest. Checked after a couple months of inactivity and this amazing woman with an amazing profile reached out 10 days previously. My excitement got the best of me and I reached out via email (bypassing the typical eHarmony process). Of course I saw that she read my email, but that was it - didn't hear back so what I wrote didn't pique her interest enough to return the email, or I turned her off, or a million other things in her life. I've had this happen once or twice before and I move on no prob... can't let go of this one.

    I'm a confident nice guy with education, a physique, and real world experience. I just need to have a conversation with her and I am very confident we will hit it off based on our backgrounds, personalities, values, etc. I just need the opportunity. This is where your creativity could help out...

    Of course I've pieced together her identify with a couple data points so I know where she works, work contact info, etc (yes throw me the stalker label) and I still have the ability to send her another message on eHarmony. I am pretty sure there is no future no matter what I write on eHarmony (feel free to state otherwise). I was thinking of putting together an elaborate internet scavenger hunt starting with some flowers sent to her work and initial instructions. Yes, I am reaching here. Interestingly, I have some connections into her grad school alum network and those people would vouch and possibly set up something she thinks is work related and I surprise her... so that may be in the works. Anyway, that is about as far as I have gotten.


    This isn't about picking up a random girl, I really want to date her with the possibility of a future (insert smallest violin in the world).

    Hope to hear back brothers and sisters,


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    Default Re: Intractable? eHarmony missed connection

    If you think backgrounds, personalities, values, etc... are going to make her interested in you, you're wrong.
    Don't try to have a conversation based on those topics... (or work/school/commonalities etc.)

    That's what EVERY lame guy does. It bores a girl to death & you lump yourself into that same category as them.

    Instead, be fun & flirty!
    Be bold!
    Be interesting.... NOT predictable & played out.

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