Tonight I was supposed to go on a date with one girl who I clicked with but family stuff came up and she had to cancel.
There was another girl who I was talking to and I tried to make plans with for tonight but she said she doesn't make plans but does things impromptu. I said I'd hit her up. She's 21. I wasn't expecting the first girl to bail but it got to 8:30 so I decided to hit up the second one.
I called her and said we should get a drink tonight. She says I dunno I maybe going out with friends. I'm like what do you mean? She says don't worry about it. I say are you talking about another guy from Tinder? She says yeah I'm not gonna lie.
I say you should come out with me we'll have fun. She says I'll think about it and let you know. It's getting late by this point and I'm thinking well is it yes or no lol.
It seems like she was weighing her options on who she'd rather have gone out with between me and the other guy but I didn't want her to have the frame control of being the selector. I told her well I'm just gonna make other plans then.
She says with who another Tinder girl? I say don't worry about it like she had said to me earlier. She says OK and we end the convo.
I feel like if I had played my cards right I may have been able to persuade her to come out with me but I couldn't be a chump and say OK let me know and just feel like an option on her back burner. Either you wanna see me or not. I tried to play it off like OK well I've got other options and if you don't want to see me I'll remove myself as one of your options.
How would you guys have handled this situation on the phone with her?