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    Default What should I do

    Hey Guys, I need an advice

    I'm currently dating this girl I met 2 weeks ago in a club. We kissed and exchanged numbers and then, a week later we went on a date (kissing and holding hands).

    Since Friday however, we haven't gone out anymore (she had finals).
    We were supposed to see each other yesterday, but she told me she had a lot of homework so nothing happened. Today I asked her to go on a date tomorrow, but she told me she already bought theater tickets (she will go with some friends of her)...and before the show she has to see a friend (male) she hasn't seen for a while because he is studying abroad.

    The problem is that I will leave the city for 3 weeks tomorrow, but I'm insecure about what to do.
    Twice in a row she did non accept to go on a date with me, so I do not know if I should postpone my departure (telling her I needed to see a professor or stuff like that) in order to try to go on a date with her to be sure I will not lose her, or just leave taking the risk of losing her (since I will not see her for 3 weeks)

    So:
    -Postpone departure day and ask her out again (even if she did not accept my last 2 offers)
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    -Just leave and not see her for 3 weeks taking the risk of losing her

    What do you think? Her excuses were strong and plausible, and she is usually nice with me, so I do not think she is trying to avoid me

    P.S. I don't have to take a plane (just need to drive a car) so postponing would not be a problem
    P.S. I did not "ask" her to go on a date...I TOLD her we were going on a date (cocky funny way)...I just used the verb "ask" to make everything clearer for you
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    Default Re: What should I do

    I'm thinking about leaving and Freezing Her Out for a couple of days...what do you think?
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    Default Re: What should I do

    Don't postpone when you go away, you should never act solely for a woman, if there is any doubt about how she feels. You need to be acting for yourself & doing what's right for you.

    If she is the only reason why you would change your departure date, then she is no reason to do so, given the info above.

    If she knows that you are going away, then she can act if she really wants to. Otherwise, let her stew, don't even think about her & if she wants to see you, she'll come back to you, if not, at least you haven't wasted your time chasing something which will ultimately prove to be not as worthwhile as it might seem now.

    And if you want proof of that last sentence...think of all the times in the past where women blew you out. Hurt at the time, didn't it? But now, you're likely beyond caring & I believe the same to be true here.

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    Default Re: What should I do

    Even if you go on a date with her before you leave that doesn't mean she's 'secured'. . She's also her own person regardless of the effort you do and whatever you do with her then it means nothing as long as she can change her mind at any given time. Look through this forum and you'll see many examples of people who lose a woman even after they slept together.

    Look at it this way, you can't lose what you don't have. If it doesn't work out then cast away that 'fear of losing' her and focus on other things. In due time, you'll be immune to it.

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    Default Re: What should I do

    Twice in a row she did non accept to go on a date with me, so I do not know if I should postpone my departure (telling her I needed to see a professor or stuff like that) in order to try to go on a date with her to be sure I will not lose her, or just leave taking the risk of losing her (since I will not see her for 3 weeks)
    don't postpone you're departure for a girl who keeps flaking. have some self respect man.

    my rule is that if a girl flakes 3 times in a row I drop her. her reasoning may be legit, but I'm not immortal. if she really wants to see me, she will make time for me.

    I recommend you ask her out one more time before your departure, if she makes an excuse, don't even reply back, delete her from your contacts and delete her messages. there's no sense in chasing after a girl who's only partially interested in you.

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    Default Re: What should I do

    Ok I'm a fucking idiot

    I left and got back to my house (2 hours trip by car from Milan) but I forgot my keys so I will need to go back to Milan (where she lives and I study) on sunday.

    Should I freeze her out until sunday and then ask her out? (Taking the risk of she being busy)
    Should I tell her now I will be back in Milan on sunday so I'm sure she will not make plans?
    Should I go back to Milan without saying anything to her? (Freezing Her Out obviously)

    I would prefer to freeze her out
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    Default Re: What should I do

    Then freeze her out. Let her stew & come back to you, it's what you want to do & you'll feel weak if you give in..and then frustrated if contact isn't reciprocated in the way that you would like.

    She's been flaking, so now it's her that needs to make the effort, not you.

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    Default Re: What should I do

    Should I go back to Milan without saying anything to her?

    You have to go back for the keys NO ??? Go back, text her that you forgot your keys and you have to go back to Milan ..... BUT NO MORE THEN THAT EVEN IF SHE RESPONDS .... they idea is to get her thinking,why didnt he ask me out if he is back in town !?!?!?

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    Default Re: What should I do

    Like I said before, you were needy, she got it and now she's flaking.

    I'm sure meteora, dave-o, drgsfire12 and grey2fox said it all, but I want to give my 2 cents.

    The mistakes were yours, so you don't have any reason to freeze her out. Freeze outs work when the girl likes us and she has made a mistake. Neither one of those things happened in your relationship, so Freezing Her Out is pointless.

    Don't postpone your dreams and goals because of a girl, especially because of a girl who doesn't give a damn about you.

    Why would you want to text her now that you're coming back to Milan? You forgot your keys inside her vagina? Texting her is useless and utterly bad for you, because she doesn't care about you (as much as you do about her, at least).
    You want to text her "oh I'll be back to Milan, 'cause I forgot my keys". This translates to "I'm telling you this because I care about you and I want you to care about me, so please do care." This is needy behavior. Don't text her. Live your life, hook up with other girls in the town you're going to. That's the only way of not being needy. This is the only way of being a man, because no matter what you do, the best option is simply not to say shit.


    Unlike meteora, I allow only one flake, especially if she proposes an alternative day for the date. 2 flakes without telling "oh let's go for an ice cream tomorrow instead, I can't today" mean that you should let her go.

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    Default Re: What should I do

    "Sometimes silence is the best answer" - the Dalai Lama


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