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Thread: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

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    Default New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    I cold approached a girl at a pub, we spoke for 5 mins and she gave me her number very willingly, she typed her name and no herself in. Then they were checking me out with her friends for the rest of the night.

    Today I sent her a message

    "Hey X, what's up? I'm doing :that:, :there: at :time:, do you want to join?"

    She responded

    "I'm good, how are you? Aww I'd love to but I'm working till late, anyway have a good day"

    I responded

    "I'm good. OK, no probz, have a good day too"

    After an hour she texted me

    "Maybe another time though "

    I haven't responded yet and there are some questions I would like to make.

    -Should I respond or wait for her to take action again? If she does it probably means she really wants to get together.

    -Should I text her back? I'm thinking something like "Yeah, maybe "

    -How much time should I wait before texting back? i.e is there a difference between 1 and 3 hours? 1 and 5? Tommorow?

    Thanks in advance

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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    You talked for a few minutes, then tried asking her out in your first text to her?

    She's hesitant because you haven't done anything to build attraction yet. At least not from what I can tell in your post.


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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    Yeah you are probably right. My only excuse is that she wanted to hang out later that day we met, she wanted me to follow her group at another pub. I couldn't because a friend who had his birthday invited me there so it would be rude to leave. So I told her give me her number and we can hang out another time, and I went straight for it.

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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    Avoid using common words like "whats up?", "I'm good", etc. Read text guides and send her another text when you want to make plans. She may be genuinely busy that day.
    Don't keep her waiting for too long. In my experience if you get a girls number in short conversation and wait too long then the initial attraction dies down. If you already have established a decent connection then you can keep her waiting.

    From her text and your description it seems she is pretty keen to go on a date with you. Just ask her again little smoothly so she can't refuse.

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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    So from your experience this is getting even more difficult since I'm leaving town for xmas vacation, so attraction will fade more. Next time I'll try to establish a stronger connection before leaving with a number. Lesson learned

    For the record, I replied to her "Yeah, maybe sugar " after a couple of hours.

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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    "Hey X, what's up? I'm doing :that:, :there: at :time:, do you want to join?"

    ONCE AGAIN, I'VE SAID THIS OFTEN, DO NOT ASK .....TELL

    "Hey X, let's go grab a drink, steal a Ferrari, drive down to MEXICO and cause an international incident .... see you at 8:19 .... and don't be late or you're buying the first round

    it's fun and different and I bet NO guy has ever asked her out like that

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    Default Re: New to texting after cold approaching, need a little help

    I read advice on forums and after applying most of it I think it progressed well. Last conversation we had:

    Me: Sup working girl? How many hearts did you steal on New Year's?

    Her: Only a couple a dozen this yer, how about yourself? X

    Me: Heh, you are underperforming then I had my successes but now I'm over them. Are you ready to be taken to an awesome date?

    Her: Was batting them off though so they don't count haha. Glad to hear that. And where is this 'awesome date taking place?'

    Me: :There:, :at:, bring your smile..you will definately need it.

    Her: I'm working tonight so I hope you are not meaning in :x: minutes

    Me: Hah, that's why I asked when you are free so that I don't have to make unnecessary guesswork!

    Her: Aw sorry, haha! Well I'm free every night next week

    Me: Well that's good we'll work it out...for the foreseeable future I'm available on Saturday and Tuesday, take your pick

    Her: Hmmm well I'm working on Saturdays so Tuesday is probably best

    Me: OK, Tuesday it is, I'll text you the details on Monday

    Her: OK then sounds good to me

    ..
    Here we start asking each other about stuff like our jobs etc. to build comfort.
    ..


    Then she said something about a friend of hers and I took the opportunity to build some more attraction.

    Me: ..Is that your friend that you were checking me out together?

    Her: Haha checking you out? Don't flatter yourself, but not that was :friends name:

    Me: Hahah you would have fooled me if I hadn't seen you sweetie. Oh :friends name:, I think she approved when she took a peek at me

    Her: Hahaha you cocky mare!

    Me: Year, I can get like that sometimes. I would just love to see you blush!

    Her: Haha I don't blush, nothing that special about you to make me blush..

    Me: You know that means "Challenge accepted" to me hon, don't you?

    Her: Hahaha alright then, we will have to see

    Me: Gtg meet my friends now! I'll ping you on Monday..looking forward meeting you. Have a nice weekend

    Her: Have a good night and alright, I'll speak to you then!


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