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    Exclamation Rate the beta-ness of this text

    Good morning cutie! Did you sleep well? Or were you busy dreaming about us? (like I was? :-)

    This text was sent to a girl who flaked on a third date (a few days after).

    My guess is it was a really bad idea. What I really want to know is…

    How bad?

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    Make that a fourth date flake (not that that makes it better). The text got ignored. I'd like some thoughts, comments?

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    Good morning cutie! Did you sleep well? Or were you busy dreaming about us? (like I was? :-)
    texts like these are great!....... after you're in a committed relationship!!!!!


    in the early stages of dating, stuff like this is creepy as fark. (and too needy) but later on it can spice up a relationship.

    just remember, you're not in a committed relationship until after you've gone out together at least 5 times.

    save stuff like this for when you have committed relationships.

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    I guess it's best to just leave it alone (not asking rhetorically)? I was hoping it would have been taken lighter and not in a creepy context.

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    You got to remember when texting you can't see the expression of a person so use emoticons or "lol" if you're joking so you don't come off as creepy or misinterpreted.

    Also just text her another day. Be persistent but leave it if you don't think yout efforts are going anywhere... remember this rule, if you're having those problems there are others in the same shoes too, it doesn't mean it's the end of the world.
    You lose some you win some, learn from your mistakes and get better!

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    Exclamation Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    She responded hours later: "Hi. I'm sorry for the late reply. Today was busy day for me. I'm ok. How are you?"

    I haven't established Kino touching with her yet. We've been on three dates and that's the longest I've ever gone without at least a heavy make out session with a girl let alone no first kiss.

    I haven't been planning the best dates. The first was coffee on a Monday night, second date museum (not intimate), and lunch (even less intimate). I've been rather beta and AFC by letting her take the lead in planning the dates. The third one she flaked sick and that date I was setting up was a Wednesday night movie (what am I thinking? I know better than this!)

    The next time I see her, if I do, I'm gonna start acting how I feel about her. Her response to my text stumped me.

    Anybody have any fast ideas? I wanna ask her out again and I wanna do so with the highest probability she won't flake again.

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    Anybody have any fast ideas? I wanna ask her out again and I wanna do so with the highest probability she won't flake again.
    here's an idea to make any date more intimate without being creepy:

    add a walk to it!

    it sounds so simple, but it works well with any date and you can Kino easily while walking side by side. it also gives you an opportunity to lead her by simply not telling her exactly where you're going and taking the lead.

    here are some ideas of dates that can involve a romantic walk.

    dinner/meal: after you eat, walk her back to her place, or walk her to go do something else (like to a nearby movie theatre, or to an ice cream shop for desert, or even to your place to "watch a movie")

    picnic: go for a hike to get to a good location away from everything.

    theme park: walk around the place checking out as much stuff as possible make sure you're leading her.

    bar: after a couple drinks, take her for a walk to another location like a small diner or an ice cream shop or even for a walk around the city.

    on campus: take her on a tour with you as the tour guide!

    people watching: take her for a walk and make comments about the people you see. this can create a little world that only the two of you share.

    the possibilities are limitless, walks can improve any date.


    lastly, are you scared to kiss her or something??? you're not immortal, how long do you plan on dating her without any intimate activity??? (the more dates you go on without farking her, the less likely it will happen)

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    Lightbulb Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    The third date we met on a Friday to get something to eat at 3. After we left, we took a walk. I didn't realize she was leading until we ended up at the subway station to take her home. So what I did was, and this is uncharacteristic of me, I just looked into her eyes and waited for the kiss to happen, me waiting and saying "I had a really good time tonight." It resulted in her saying "I don't kiss on the second/third date." Before saying goodbye, I reached out and stroked her face which made her smile. I don't make excuses, but if I have to explain, my explanations are: we were very out in the open in public at the end of the date (which I read is not the best place for a first kiss to happen) and I didn't plan what were gonna do after eating (even if we were going home, if I drove her home, most likely the privacy of a car would have helped a kiss). I was a little distracted and stressed from a work deadline too. I'm leaving for Florida on Wednesday so I'm gonna ask her out on an intimate date when I get back in early January and I'm talking to other girls in the interim

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    Exclamation Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    EASY TO READ VERSION:

    The third date we met on a Friday to get something to eat at 3.

    After we left, we took a walk. I didn't realize she was leading until we ended up at the subway station to take her home.

    So what I did was, and this is uncharacteristic of me, I just looked into her eyes and waited for the kiss to happen, me waiting and saying "I had a really good time tonight."

    It resulted in her saying "I don't kiss on the second/third date." Before saying goodbye, I reached out and stroked her face which made her smile.

    I don't make excuses, but if I have to explain, my explanations are: we were very out in the open in public at the end of the date (which I read is not the best place for a first kiss to happen) and I didn't plan what were gonna do after eating (even if we were going home, if I drove her home, most likely the privacy of a car would have helped a kiss).

    I was a little distracted and stressed from a work deadline too. I'm leaving for Florida on Wednesday so I'm gonna ask her out on an intimate date when I get back in early January and I'm talking to other girls in the interim

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    Default Re: Rate the beta-ness of this text

    Dude, seeing how things are going, her youngest friend will be in the second trimester of her third son by the time you decide to kiss her.

    Stop with the excuses, stop with the bullshit of trying to build rapport and waiting for the right time to kiss, or waiting for the planets to align or whatever the crap you say to excuse possible failure. It's just a kiss, not a marriage proposal. Just kiss her. If it goes well then I'll be glad for you, otherwise you'll learn that it doesn't require so much time to kiss.


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