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Thread: Tinder/Facebook argh!

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    Default Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Hey people. First proper post here.

    So I have been out of the single game for about 3.5 years up until October when I broke up with a cheater.

    My game was pretty good before we got together but it gradually got AWFUL. Ha, I stopped flirting with ladies and thought I was off the market forever (tit).

    Fastforward to now, I am on Tinder and match with this really hot girl about 20 y/o (I'm 25).

    She has a little thing on her profile saying add her on facebook under XXXX name and we talk the last couple of days, things are going well and we are bonding over very similar music taste and interests. Then boom today I ask her what time she finishes work and to go for a drink at a local Jazz club tomorrow night and she hits me with:

    "I don't think I'm doing anything on saturday, I'm in work like but I finish at 4/5 I think! I only really got tinder for a laugh by the way, I wasn't on there to look for anybody in particular because I've just been seeing someone for awhile, just saw you and thought you had good taste in music!"

    ME"Cool I'm in till 7 I think. Oh yeah? Ah that is a shame I guess
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    "I had to delete the tinder app, I had proper douches adding me on facebook, it was stressing me out ha"



    Whats the custom here people? Carry on trying to score something with her?

    Its all an alien world to me after so long off the bench.

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    You built rapport... Not attraction.
    She's not interested.

    Whether she really is seeing someone or not, this one isn't taking the bait.


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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Move on, talk with other girls, keep swiping right

    It's hard to judge the talk that you had with her before you ask her on a date. As what T-Mal said. Besides having rapport, you got to incorporate some flirty and attraction to it, or else they will decline.

    Is all hope gone for this cute girl? Possibly not. I would just keep on chatting with her while building up attraction so that the next time, she says sure, I'm available.

    Seeing someone doesn't mean they are exclusive.

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Update:

    ME reckoning we go the castle [pub]some time soon yknow

    CHICK Yeah we'll have to, no harm in just going for a drink, it's not like we both don't have cool music taste anyway


    How to respond? I think she is warming to it and I don't know the dude shes 'seeing'.

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Quote Originally Posted by T-Mal View Post
    You built rapport... Not attraction.
    She's not interested.

    Whether she really is seeing someone or not, this one isn't taking the bait.


    Yes! Already I am remembering these phrases and the idea behind them ha. The mojo slowly returning. Thanks

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Quote Originally Posted by Recurring View Post
    Update:

    ME reckoning we go the castle [pub]some time soon yknow

    CHICK Yeah we'll have to, no harm in just going for a drink, it's not like we both don't have cool music taste anyway


    How to respond? I think she is warming to it and I don't know the dude shes 'seeing'.

    ME: Cool, yeah we might hit it off yknow. I'm free next week Monday and Tuesday evening.

    CHICK: I might be able to do Tuesday but I've got two presentations to do this week in uni so I've got so much work to do

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    I'd respond to that last one with something like, "Yeah, I'm pretty busy this week too. If we're going to meet up, it'd have to be just like a quick drink or something, so we could then get back to our busy lives with as little disruption as possible."

    Basically, get her thinking along the lines of "Oh this will be quick and painless, it won't be some long awkward date or anything like that." The less pressure you put on her, the easier it is for her to say yes.

    Maybe just ask her to grab lunch with you... hey, we've all got to eat, right?
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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    Update:

    So she messages me out of the blue asking if I am out this Friday as she is with a friend. I said yes, then took her number.

    She seemed a lot more forward in the messages so it looked good.

    Then I got drunk with my friend and forgot to check my phone/facebook. Turned out she had messaged me 2 hours earlier saying her phone was dying and that they were on their way to a certain bar. By that time it was too late

    I got a message off her Saturday saying she went home early (around the time I read my phone) because she was ill.

    So far theres just been a bit of texting going on but I've tried to sexualise it a little bit but not made any concrete plans to meet up.

    She says she's out this coming weekend. Going to arrange a drink and see if theres any spark IRL.

    ps. Got a text off her before asking where I lived in the city. She replied something like "blah blah ah we're basically neighbours mate".

    > Mate

    Sheeeiiiiit. Bad sign.

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    Default Re: Tinder/Facebook argh!

    "Mate"

    Don't read in to everything too much. She's agreed to meet face to face which is a big deal. Meet her, be fun, playful, and make sure you Kino when you do to build up that attraction and you probably have a decent shot.

    Also, don't worry about her seeing someone. You have no idea if that's real yet, or if its serious, could have just been a date or two, deal with that later but focus on building interest and rapport.

    Lastly, sounds like she's planning to be with a friend when you meet so you should have one or multiple out tpp, preferably including females for social proof when you meet her.
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