Re: Giving up on online dating
Hey, somebody just told me that my above advice to you is terrible. I wanted you to know that so that you can make an informed decision about what I said above. You should maybe consider the fact that an anonymous person, who can't even be bothered to give you any constructive advice, didn't like what I have to say.
But anyway, I'm going to give a little bit more advice anyway, if you want to take it, because obviously advice that is given, is better than that which isn't.
You asked whether all the girls are superficial. This is absolutely not the case. However, if you're not in the HG(Hot Guy)8-10 range, then trying to pull in 9's and 10's isn't going to be easy. Just imagine all the visual stimulation we get from something like Tinder, or OKC or POF. For a certain percentage of the female population, yes, it will all be about filtering out guys who aren't hot. Why? Because if they are good looking, they may figure that they can meet an awesome guy who's like a 9 or 10, so why bother with anybody less? And let's face it, guys work that way too.
However, there are ways to get around it. It's the usual online dating suggestions.. have pictures where you are with a group of attractive girls, have pics that show you doing interesting things, etc. You can look those tips up anywhere, so I don't need to really go through them with you.
So anyway, for the rest of us guys who don't have the Ferrari, don't the great looks that get a girl to automatically click on our pictures, etc., we have to depend on different tricks. The most important one is to be interesting and mysterious. Interesting first though. Mysterious second. Because it's pointless to be mysterious if she isn't interested, right?
But before you even get the chance to be interesting, you need to get her to respond. Let me just tell you... copy/paste is your friend here! However, do NOT go around copy/pasting the exact same message to EVERY girl. What you can do though, is copy/paste mostly the same message with at least a few authentic lines in it about why you liked her profile or what you thought when you saw her. You can have a half paragraph copy/paste. Tons of guys do that. But by starting out with something that's actually personal towards her, she'll recognize that you actually took the time to look and respond. It'll make the rest of your pasted message seem a little more personal. But with that said, given the low response rates that guys get on those sites, if you're spending more than about 1 minute on it per girl, you're wasting time. Also, if you're copy/paste is more than what you could reasonably type in say 3-4 minutes, it's going to come off as creepy/weird that you're spending that much time on someone you haven't even talked to yet. So that's the balancing act you need to walk right there.
Anyway, I'm giving you my experience as to what works and I hope it all helps. Also, The T-Mal thread that drgnsfire12 posted above is worth a read if you haven't already.
Hypnotist, NLP geek. I've done: Tao of Badass, Hacking Attraction, How To Date Multiple Women (Pellicer's stuff), Get the Girl, How to Talk to Hot Women, No Strings Attached (Mehow's stuff), and now I'm getting into RSD's stuff. I don't go out a lot, but I kill it when challenged