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    Hightower4000 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Can this be saved?

    Hi everyone!

    I met this great girl trough work and have an amazing chance to date her, but I'm really starting to mess this up.

    SITUATION (working together each Wednesday)
    We see each other every Wednesday so I can coach her at work stuff. We work together all day in a coffee shop and have lunch too. We go for walks trough the park, have a little fun, talk about work stuff and stuff in our lives mostly.

    ME MESSING IT UP (rapport, no flirting)
    As I learned reading the forums today, I create a lot of rapport by making her feel comfortable, making a connection and helping her with stuff even though I don't have too. But I don't flirt at all. No teasing, no mysterious behavior, just a lot of empathy and kindness.

    Classic 'nice guys finish last', I know.! Today I asked if she wanted to have dinner next time and she just looked away a bit uncomfortable and said something like 'we will have to see if it fits my agenda sometimes'. Definitely not a yes and not eager too.

    QUESTION
    We will see each other next Wednesday and I'm sure she looks forward to it (for the wrong reasons). Can this be saved? I am a total rookie at flirting and I fear if I start now, it will seem very 'fake' and awkward. I have the feeling I am being more friend zoned every minute and if I don't act soon it will be too late. PUA's, help!

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    Default Re: Can this be saved?

    I wouldn't recommend gaming girls at work if you value your job. You've already framed it as a friendly / professional relationship with your behavior. Even her response when she said "agenda" is a professional tone. It's not worth beating yourself up over this girl. Focus on other girls. You can invite her out to a social gathering like happy hour and use her as pre-selection if you choose and it keeps it less pressure on her since you're already in that co-worker frame. Over time as she sees you gaming other girls, she may start to develop attraction towards you, but you would get more value using her as a Pivot or wingwoman.
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    Hightower4000 is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Can this be saved?

    Thanks! I wouldn't mind dating a girl from work if you treat her well, but because I'm so terrible at gaming right now this can't lead to anything good.

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    Default Re: Can this be saved?

    I think that s a NO she 's just being polite because you work together . I would say don't mention it again act normal. If she wants to go out with you ball is in her court


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