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    Default Help with texting an old girlfriend

    I get this text from a girl I used to date I was not really a gentlemen when we ended things she was needy and wanted to spend every minute with me it felt uncomfortable so when she pushed me for a commitment I told her I wasn't ready and we just kinda ended it there. She texted me 3 months later and I ignored her but I have been thinking about hitting her up again and out of the blue I get a text from her 3 days ago but I think blew my chance to see her here is the convo:

    Her: Ok its super weird when u r laying on a table half naked and the wax girl
    starts talking about some guy u dated! Lol

    Me:That is nuts - when I first started reading I thought you were talking about
    your Dining Room table lol - every time I see roast beef I smile how are you ?
    ( she had me over for dinner and made me roast beef I had sex with her in the
    middle of dinner on the table )

    Her: Lol! Lol! I take full credit for the rst beef but u have to take full
    credit for the "table"! She mentioned tonight that one of her male clients asked
    about me and i said , "Michael...he gets his back waxed?" & she said yes. Lol!
    I'm good - thank God! Thanks for asking. And you?


    Me:That waxtramp ! She waxes and talks :/. I'm great ! Let's go out for a drink
    and catch up. ( we go to the same wax person I get my back done - I had not been
    there since July and I only asked if she still was coming there but I made it
    sound like I was asking a lot about her when I wasn't )

    Her: Ok soon. Good Night!! Gotta watch walking dead on netflix. My kids got me
    addicted!

    Me: K - just finished watching last week - what season/episode you up to ?

    Her: Season 4 episode 4..I'm a late bloomer! Trying to catch up for sunday

    No contact since then I want to hook up with her what should I do ???

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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    Just text her and find out her availability to hang out for drinks or some other fun activity you both like to do and start gaming and escalating and then pull her from there. If you are worried she might be too clingy you have to Manage Expectations before sex and let her you that you like her and enjoy being her, but you are not looking for anything serious now.
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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    No it's almost a week I am 90% sure she has a boyfriend - just wanted to see if I was still into her maybe - I would like to see her again but I am not chomping on the bit too -

    Option 1 - I just let it go and see if she texts me in the future if she does cool.

    Option 2 - shoot her a text like this - "Be at the Dugout Thursday night to catch the Ranger game come by for a drink ?

    Thanks for you help Will

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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    The message is fine ..... just LOSE the question mark




    Quote Originally Posted by Zoomer View Post
    No it's almost a week I am 90% sure she has a boyfriend - just wanted to see if I was still into her maybe - I would like to see her again but I am not chomping on the bit too -

    Option 1 - I just let it go and see if she texts me in the future if she does cool.

    Option 2 - shoot her a text like this - "Be at the Dugout Thursday night to catch the Ranger game come by for a drink ?

    Thanks for you help Will

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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    I was thinking I will not contact her now like I said she has a guy and I'm seeing 5 other girls - maybe she'll hit me back in the future we'll see - what would you guys do ?

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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    Quote Originally Posted by Zoomer View Post
    No it's almost a week I am 90% sure she has a boyfriend - just wanted to see if I was still into her maybe - I would like to see her again but I am not chomping on the bit too
    You're over-assuming far too much here. You haven't really talked to her in a while, so you don't know what's going on with her life. If you start up a conversation with her and discover that she has another guy in her life now, then so what? You just said you had a bunch of other girls lined up. Worst case scenario is that you have to move on.

    Just do what drgnsfire says, and send the message. You gotta take that first step if you want this.
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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    You're over-assuming far too much here. You haven't really talked to her in a while, so you don't know what's going on with her life. If you start up a conversation with her and discover that she has another guy in her life now, then so what? You just said you had a bunch of other girls lined up. Worst case scenario is that you have to move on.

    Just do what drgnsfire says, and send the message. You gotta take that first step if you want this.
    Noted but if I specify one date and she can't make that date ( she has 3 young kids ) how would I ask her what her schedule is next week with out sounding needy or desperate and without having to ask more than once - thanks for any help

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    Default Re: Help with texting an old girlfriend

    I think you're over-thinking this way too much. On one hand you seemed iffy on even getting back into contact with her, now you're talking to her but don't know what to say. Like drgns said, use the message without the '?' mark, and in the worst case scenario like Swag said, you simply move on.

    If she says she can't make it then just mentally approach this that it's her loss because she would've had the best time with you. Next, you could say something playful, or maybe a simple, "Alright but you're missing out! Talk to you soon/Maybe some other time."

    This is just my idea off the top of my head, but next week, hit her up on a random night like a Wednesday, and say "Hey her name/playful nickname, what are you up to RIGHT now?" and if free, you can invite her out to wherever you'll be that night, so it won't sound pre-planned like you're courting her -- more like you thought of her as you were about to go out. Hope that helps.


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