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    Default Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Went out with this nurse chick HB7/8 last weekend from OK CUPID, 1st date. Decent conversation and Kino. Topic came up of how many guys email her etc... Her phone was beeping non stop with alerts from dudes. She was ignoring but stated that's what it was.

    Anyway went back to her house for a drink. F closed! lousy, not that enjoyable, drunken sex, but f close nonetheless.

    Texted her a bit throughout the week. She would take long to respond and nothing of substance. Set up plans again for this past weekend. In fact, her responses were so nothing I thought it was gonna be a flake. Anyway. She came to my apartment. F closed again. Once again, drunken sex. Nothing great. Her phone-non stop once again with online dudes.

    Kinda like her for some reason though. I have online dates set up. Cute girls too...trying to avoid the oneitis.

    But anyway, I want to be this one's priority. She can date others. That's all good. But I want to be the one she's waiting to see if she can hang with first before she makes other dates

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    No offense, but... seriously? You're setting yourself up for disappointment.
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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Quote Originally Posted by Motorbreath View Post
    No offense, but... seriously? You're setting yourself up for disappointment.
    OK. I'm listening... Why?

    and What do you recommend I do?

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    First off, why do guys get drunk when they have a chance at a F close ??? I don't have to tell you the physiology of what excessive alcohol does to an erection do I ?!??!? Secondly, what are you doing to stand out from all the other guys who text her ?? What will separate you from those mopes so that you are the one we she wants to hang out with ???

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Quote Originally Posted by drgnsfire12 View Post
    First off, why do guys get drunk when they have a chance at a F close ??? I don't have to tell you the physiology of what excessive alcohol does to an erection do I ?!??!? Secondly, what are you doing to stand out from all the other guys who text her ?? What will separate you from those mopes so that you are the one we she wants to hang out with ???
    1. To answer your first of all. Yep. That's a problem. Lesson learned. Thus the not so great sex. That didn't help my cause.

    2. Exactly!!! That is question I had in mind when posting this. I'm good at getting one nights, but not so much beyond that. What am I gonna do to separate myself from those mopes?? This is where I need help. THANKS!

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Quote Originally Posted by kwyn View Post
    OK. I'm listening... Why?
    Well, from what you said she's not exactly in a one-guy phase. So if you develop ANY feelings for her, it's gonna be an uphill battle to get her away from all that. Not to mention that once you have feelings for a chick there's a tendency to get needy and clingy, which would make the situation even worse.

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    and What do you recommend I do?
    Move on. Plenty of hotties where that one came from.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Motorbreath View Post
    Well, from what you said she's not exactly in a one-guy phase. So if you develop ANY feelings for her, it's gonna be an uphill battle to get her away from all that. Not to mention that once you have feelings for a chick there's a tendency to get needy and clingy, which would make the situation even worse.
    Well, I may feel that way, but I can hide that.
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    Move on. Plenty of hotties where that one came from.
    True that, but why kill a cow that's still giving milk?

    Btw, nice signature. Dylan? Maggies farm?

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    You're becoming outcome dependent, which means that you're already clingy. Also, if she's taking a long time to respond, she has tons of guys constantly emailing her, and she spontaneously shows up at your place when you think she's going to flake, then that's an obvious sign that you're not the only guy she's sleeping around with.

    Now, how to you make it so that she is only focused on you?

    That's tough. I'd say the best way is to invite her on a date where sex is involved in now way, shape, or form, and really put out. Impress her, make her laugh, and BE SOBER. She has only seen intoxicated you, so show her how great sober you can be. If the date goes well, it might put you a step above the other guys she's talking to.
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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagman View Post
    You're becoming outcome dependent, which means that you're already clingy. Also, if she's taking a long time to respond, she has tons of guys constantly emailing her, and she spontaneously shows up at your place when you think she's going to flake, then that's an obvious sign that you're not the only guy she's sleeping around with.

    Now, how to you make it so that she is only focused on you?

    That's tough. I'd say the best way is to invite her on a date where sex is involved in now way, shape, or form, and really put out. Impress her, make her laugh, and BE SOBER. She has only seen intoxicated you, so show her how great sober you can be. If the date goes well, it might put you a step above the other guys she's talking to.
    She didn't spontaneously show up. We had a date. Just not much communication between setting the date and the actual date 3 days later. Just sensed a flake. Didn't happen. Good.

    But yeah, Im not fooling myself that there's no other guys. I have 2 other dates lined up myself. I just want to be her first option and if I'm busy, by all means, she should go out and do whatever.

    And yes. I definitely agree about the sober part. I'm a little hesitant to not be sexual at all though. Sounds like a one way trip to friend zone. I dunno. Just a thought.

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    Default Re: Online dating girls who are online dating lots of guys?

    Quote Originally Posted by kwyn View Post
    Maggies farm?
    Yep, you got it, Maggie's farm.
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