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    Default Feedback on my text game

    Hey guys, so I've been really trying to practice lately with my conversational skills when it comes to building up lately. I'm fairly good at the initial stage of building comfort and then number closing, but after that, I know I could use some practice keeping up the progression and instead of leveling off if that makes sense.

    So here's the deal; I'm in college and went rock-climbing with a friend the other day and we met these two newbie girls, so we decided to help them out/belay (act as an Anchor on the rope so they can't fall and can be let down when they're done) them pretty much the rest of the time we were there. I ended up splitting off with one of the two girls and teaching her some moves while sneaking in some Kino and finding things for her to climb. By the end, I found out she lives really close to me off campus and we made a decent connection so I said "I was going to ask for your number to so we could climb or get food sometime, but my phone's dead." It actually was dead haha and the food thing was because she asked me if I ate somewhere much and hinted that she wanted to go. She immediately took my number and even texted me the same night and apparently she was pretty impressed by my climbing skills because she joked about being able to do it herself, plus my friend told me her and her friend were talking about it while I was on the wall.

    Sorry that this is going to be somewhat long, but bare with me. I figured you guys would want a back story to give some context. I'm going to post the whole conversation so far and I'd like to get some feedback on things I'm doing right/wrong so far and what can be added to progress.

    Anyways, here it is:

    (Later that night after meeting and giving her my number)
    Her: Here's my number by the way maybe I'll see you guys next week if we go.
    Me: Hey! Ya just let me know if you guys are going and I'll see if we can make it.
    Me: You did pretty well for your first time by the way
    Her: Cool will do! And thank you haha I'll be climbing upside down like you in no time.
    Me: Haha I'm sure you'll do it

    (two days later)

    Me: Hey have you eaten yet?
    Her: I juust did, I have an exam in like 45 minutes :/
    Me: Oh dang. Well nevermind then. Good luck!
    Her:Thanks! I'll need it haha
    Me: Don't sound too confident there nerd XD. what class?
    Her: Program development & evaluation. Which doesn't sounds that hard but I zoned out all semester sooo
    Me: Haha do I even need to comment on the mistake there?
    Her: My b grammar police.
    Me: I meant the zoning out part but you should probably keep the grammar up to speed too
    Her: Hahaha sorry I called you grammar police... yeah zoning out has definitely not served me well
    Me: Call me whatever haha. I've done both before, and I'm sure I'll do em again
    Me: But that's cute that you thought you had to apologize
    Her: Wellll I felt a little salty so I had to
    Me: A little extra spice never hurt anyone Dont you have a test to take or did you zone out on that too!
    Her: Um nooo I definitely managed to remember my exam

    So that's it so far. I'm open to any and all criticism you've got. Just throw it at me. I'm waiting a bit now just to put some time in between texts while I think of what to say. pretty sure she didn't change to being serious with that last text so if you've got any suggestions with what to send back, let me know that too. The second chunk of messages are all from today so far. I think the style I'm using is working pretty well so far and this is how I naturally act with certain girls and it typically seems to go over well sooo, thanks for reading and I'm all ears now.

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    Default Re: Feedback on my text game

    Good job getting her number. You are investing a little more than her in the thread by having the average length of your responses longer than hers and you double texted once. Keep the ratio closer to 1:1 and continue to keep it light and playful and use texting as a means to set up a logistics for a date.
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    Default Re: Feedback on my text game

    great comeback with the spice comment. she's obviously into you, so I second WillEdward, you can ease off a bit. let her work a little more for you. after the exam, you can say "i bet you killed it today! how many more do exams do you have to go?" that'll give you a feel about how busy she'll be. if it's her last one or her next one isn't for a while, offer to join her to celebrate finishing the exam. "time to get some weight off of those shoulders, little ms. mountain climber ;-P"

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    Default Re: Feedback on my text game

    One thing you are doing well is giving her something to respond to. I see a lot of texts fail when you give a half-assed response like "That's cool" without following up with something and you do a good job at avoiding that trap. That one spot there were you sent two messages, I see it as though you spotted your mistake and self-corrected by giving her something more appealing to respond to. So in that case, you safetied up and chose the less damaging of the two options. Not bad. And again, I don't know how long was spent between messages. Maybe there was a lag there and you felt you had to give her something better, in which case it was maybe the only move you even had. Good on you for spotting it either way.

    Personally though, and this is just my personal thing. I don't banter (or do anything else) over text unless it's leading up to a date/meeting. I know a lot of PUA guys want you to become a master at texting on and on and on, but the reality in my experience is that it actually drives the girl away because your texts, while fun and flirty and solid, are really low-level as far as emotional spikes go. Honestly, the girl probably gets more of a spike from making eye contact with a cute guy in starbucks. This gets even more true as time wears on and she's gotten used to seeing you on her phone without having to invest in a meet up. So I definitely would have at least ended that conversation with a little bit of examining logistics, as was mentioned above. Basically, you're coming off as a texting buddy as opposed to date material when you don't at least push the logistics aspect a little bit.

    I'm not saying you should have pressed her for a date right before her test. The timing was bad there (not your fault, of course... you didn't know). But you should have felt out her calendar for the upcoming week or something like that.

    And along those lines, I probably would have looked for another rock climbing adventure or something, rather than coffee or drinks or somesuch. This way, you're doing something you enjoy and you can show her your expertise. Also, it further cements you as a fun special guy, rather than average. I mean, anybody can ask a girl out for coffee! Maybe you can test the waters and see how receptive she'd be to you finding a new place for her to climb and invite her along. She sees you as a rock climbing adventure type. I think setting up dinner or coffee would be a real let down for her and I doubt you'll get as good of a response as you would if you propose something a little more exciting and out there.

    Either way, you must always be clear that you are not looking for an emotional spike by texting, you are looking to meet up. Otherwise, you are competing with every single possible emotional spike surrounding her, every other guy, every ex, every victoria's secret email in her inbox. You become just another distraction from what she's REALLY looking for. Which is a real opportunity for a real connection with a real guy.
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    Default Re: Feedback on my text game

    Your texting seems just fine. It is a conversation in a relax mood. If you ask me, just continue like that. Be yourself.


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