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    Default Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Hi all,

    I just read several texting threads and was wondering if you could help me out with possible recovery or just an overview on hindsight of what I did wrong.

    I just discovered pua stuff and am trying to read/learn but Id like to see if I can learn from my current mistakes first. I only discovered pua stuff when she started not replying so the entire convo is full of mistakes I know. only the last text(sent 2 days after first ignore) was after I read some PUA Text guides.

    So I met this girl by chance, she wanted to buy 1D tickets off me. We met and we talked a little about her getting them for her sister and she has no choice but to accompany her. Said goodbye by saying "have fun" to tease her as she hates it. she replied fuck off and laughed as I walked off. This was a very brief encounter probably less than 5 min, I would say there was 0 initial impression made. I went back and realised "hey, she looks fun to know" and started texting her. This is how the text went(entire whatsapp convo after meetup). last sentence was sort of an attempt to get a reply after reading some text convo openers etc from this forum and another pua forum (was trying to go for the bank robbery thing if she replied). Dint work. after the part she rejected the meet up, all messages sent to her were not read at all (no double tick)

    ME: Hey forgot to tell you. The standing pen queue has already started at 11am. So you prolly should go queue so that you can get to touch them haha
    HER: Ew. Sweaty. Thank you though
    ME: Hahahaha. You're awfully polite in text. Arent you supposed to be asking me to fuck off
    HER: I was about to. But my sister is next to me now. Cannot.
    Bad words you just said there. Haha
    ME: Oops pardon me. how old is your sister
    HER: 12 but she's escaped rudeness and swearing until now we're trying to keep it this way haha
    ME: Amazing feat. Where are you from
    HER: England, London
    ME: Ah. Here on holiday?
    HER: No here waiting to go off to uni until then just traveling
    ME: Ah how long more in sg till uni starts?

    HER: I'd have to apply first. I don't know when or where I want to go yet.

    ME: Typical dilemma it seems. How long have you been here?

    HER: Yeah seems like I'm not the only one. Met a lot of people who are just like me going around the world until we figure something out Been here on and off for four years really

    ME: Sounds like a great adventure though. Im marini123 by the way. Whats your name

    HER: Yeah It's nice get to see the world but it doesnt make me economically safe I guess..
    My name's HER

    ME: Yea you cant have your cake and eat it. Anyway HER, Ill talk to you later. But Ill leave these 2 pics to let you know the excitement that awaits you Ÿ˜„
    *sends her 2 pics of media news on 1 D concert
    HER: Fuck you.

    *next day*
    ME: So how did the night go with the hordes of prepubescent girls?
    HER: Somehow we got to make it fun. Maybe the vodka helped.
    ME: Haha looks like 1D has another fan. Were you taking a swig every 10 mins while singing ooo cos thats what makes you beautiful

    HER: No somehow I knew most the lyrics I mean my sister does blast their music all the time.
    Haha but it was actually fun once we got rid of the kids pushing us. And getting the anger out on some people made it 10 times better

    ME: Sounds deliciously violent. Tell me more over dinner tonight?Ÿ˜ƒ
    HER: Honestly I'd say yes if I didn't get home at 7am I need a good 24h nap haha

    ME: Arent I the smoothest. Tomorrow night enough nap time for you?
    ME: Hey sleeping beauty you want to be on tv?


    thanks for reading. would love any advice on salvaging if possible or hindsight you can provide. i know i shldnt be hung up on one girl but since its my first time trying this out, would be nice to see if recovery is possible

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    And here in lies the problem there was 0 initial impression made. If you meet a girl and you want to take her out you HAVE TO make an impression on her .... now,can you do that over texting ??? YES, but it takes time ..... If she doesnt respond go back at her in a day with the bank robbery routine "Hey lets steal a Ferrari, drive down to France, rob a bank and get drunk on cheap wine, you wanna drive or navigate ??" and when you text you have to be flirty and sexualy escalate .... by the way I though your exchange was pretty good and sending her 2 pics of media news on 1 D concert was golden ...... for the record I am in my forties and like 1D, I even took a girl to a 1D concert last summer, we had a great time and sang along to their songs all the way home. A few days later I sent her a bottle of 1D Perfume that she got a huge kick out. I had this inside joke with her that I was joining 1D but because I was older I didnt have to do the dance moves I would just sing ...... Had a lot of fun with it, so have a lot of fun texting this girl because that builds attraction
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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Thanks alot for your insights! Yes i usually try to make an impression but since i do this selling stuff alot i try to keep it professional.

    Have a question though, if i text her again in a day about the ferrari thing when she doesnt reply that would make 3 ignored texts in a row. wont that seem needy?

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Like in baseball, three strikes and you are out.... if she doesn't reply, let it go, you don't want to become that annoying/needy guy who doesn't understand no ....... sure it sucks, buy it happens and we move on
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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Yup i would move on after but was wondering if a 3rd robbery text would just make things worse opposed to perhaps a phone call(i personally think call is gona be worse but id like an opinion) or maybe fake break up routine?

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Quote Originally Posted by marini123 View Post

    ME: Arent I the smoothest. Tomorrow night enough nap time for you?
    ME: Hey sleeping beauty you want to be on tv?


    thanks for reading. would love any advice on salvaging if possible or hindsight you can provide. i know i shldnt be hung up on one girl but since its my first time trying this out, would be nice to see if recovery is possible
    Being hung up on one girl is what sticks most of us here in the first place, don't worry about it. The hardest part is realizing where you have to give up with that one girl. Despite her never asking you a question, she actually seemed to show some mild interest in you. I can't stand texting a girl and not getting any questions in return, I would have told her to fark off 8 texts ago, you're a better man than I am.

    However, this was actually a Sh1t Test: Honestly I'd say yes if I didn't get home at 7am I need a good 24h nap haha.

    She was turning you down for the moment, but she wasn't shutting you out. This was a make it or break it moment, and honestly if I wasn't reading it here, I would have failed it too. She was probably coming around to you, but she needed to see a little more in your personality, here is where it would have sailed home, and you could have turned the whole convo around.

    Her: Honestly I'd say yes if I didn't get home at 7am I need a good 24h nap haha
    You: Sounds like you got that back stage tour you were hoping for had me fooled the whole time hehe

    She shut you down, but you didn't take a hit. Your still standing and you don't need validation that she'd go out with another time. The idea is that it didn't phase you to get turned down. In the future, remember this. Continue a few more texts if she replies and then close out the conversation. You can reengage a few days later with something fun to do. You: Saw this awesome putt putt golf place on my way home from work today! How do you feel about getting your butt whooped at one of the funnest pastimes known to adults everywhere...

    As for now, my text game sucks, so I'd say you'd need to see her in person to get resparked. Maybe a random phone call in a few days will hit home if she picks up. I don't see text being your friend from here on out.
    You don't need her

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    Thanks for your advice! I honestly wouldnt have realised that was a shit test if you dont mention ithaha. So youre saying i should do a random phone call in a few days instead of sensing a 3rd text? What would be a good way to open if she somehow picks up?

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    You gotta be high energy, like your talking to your best friend that you haven't spoke to in a while. It's not like the old days, where you could just be like "hey, I called you and it was hard, go out with?" You have to make her have a little fun. Luckily though, if she picks up, her investment with you just doubled. It may not have been much at the start, but it's definitely two fold now, you'd be much better off then if you didn't call her.

    Have your end game in mind. Think of something fun to do (steal the putt putt golf thing if need be). Have a date, have a time, and tell her you guys should go do it, don't ask her. "So I drove past this awesome museum I hadn't seen before, lets go check it out, tomorrow... say 6 o' clock after work."

    The phone call is never easy, texting has really eliminated the need for it, but it's effectiveness is uncomparable if they pick up and the convo goes well, it's a 7% communication feed texting, compared to a 38% communication feed over the phone. Have a few drinks if need be, I've done it before, don't be sh1tty, but be at a point where you don't give a crap, it might help.
    You don't need her

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    Default Re: Absolute newbie need help on texting

    hmm, so if I called in say 3 days and say " Hey I saw a little girl pushing her brother down for a toy and thought of you" as an opener followed by " (copy from some thread i read) so what mischief have you been up to" to get the convo going would that be appropriate? Im thinking asking her out within this call would be a bad idea right?

    If that opener is bad, what would be a good one?

    initially thought "hey I missed an episode of downtown abbey and thought I could get my british accent fix from you" but sounded kinda lame and perhaps offensive haha


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