Background: I'm keeping this as concise as possible. Exactly a year ago at WMC (look it up if you don't know; it's amazing for parties and picking up chicks), I picked up an HB9 from Florida ("Florida girl") at a beach party. We kept in touch because she said that she was planning to move to NYC where I live. She moved here early last fall. We hung out once or twice during the day and made out each time. I could've slept with her, but at the time, I had a female friend temporarily staying in my apartment who was always around when I brought the girl over, so it didn't happen. Also, I never made her my priority because I was seeing another girl at the time who eventually became my girlfriend, at which point, I stopped reaching out to Florida girl. About once a month, though, Florida girl (not knowing that I had a girlfriend) would text me, and I would respond to keep the lines of communication open but never made plans to meet her because I was in a relationship.
Now: Now that I'm single again, I decided to reach out to her. About a week ago, she posted a picture on Instagram of her and her friends at the party where I met her, so I commented "good times ". She comment back that I was a stranger and she couldn't believe that we live in the same city and haven't hung out in forever. So I texted her something along the lines of (I deleted my text history with her so all I have is her last text): "Calling me a stranger on insta huh? haha How about this: i won't be a stranger if you text me back when i respond to your texts ya weirdo ;-P". From there, we texted back and forth for a couple days. My last text to her was something along the lines of "speaking of partying, where've you been going out lately?" Then that night or the next night, she said, "Sorry I was at work. I've been laying off the partying. I'm kinda wifed-up these days lol."
Later that Saturday morning, I had to take a standardized exam, which she knew about, so I was MIA. Afterward, I got a new iPhone so I could easily play off that I never got her last text, which is what I'm leaning toward doing because the generally strategy is to ignore the first mention of a boyfriend. She's definitely interested because: 1) she said "kinda wife-up lol," meaning she's not officially or doesn't want to tell me that she is official; 2) she's texting me now; and 3) she's been texting me monthly for the last six months. I feel like I'm that guy that keeps getting away, a challenge she wants to win.
So, my first question is, how do I respond? I was thinking of, "Hey, I got a new iPhone last weekend so I lost a bunch of texts. I'm sure you were worried that I was ignoring you, so I want to let you know that you shouldn't worry. I wasn't ;-P " What do you guys think? In case this helps, she's the type of girl who fronts like she's a good girl, but I know that she isn't because 1) I've heard stories, and 2) I've learned that a girl who claims to be a "good girl" is DEFINITELY NOT a good girl.
Second, in anticipation of her bringing up that guy again, should I run a boyfriend destroyer? Normally, I'd say, "I'm not asking you on a date, just inviting you to hang out," but because of our history, I'm sure she knows better. Then again, saying that it's not a date might allow her to justify/rationalize in her mind that she could go out with me. Thoughts?