1. How to get back a girl with whom there was mutual interest, but you put her aside for a while (for whatever reason) and now want to get her back.
2. When a girl qualifies her relationship status, i.e., "kinda wifed-up," she's probably not invested in her relationship, so you probably have an open door.
Background: About a week ago, I asked for text advice on this forum regarding a girl who I picked up a year ago ("HB9") and later moved to NYC (where I live) last fall. We hung out a couple times but no f-close because of roommate issues, and I was seeing other girls at the time, one of whom ended up becoming my girlfriend, so I stopped talking to HB9. HB9 would occasionally reach out to me, and I would respond but never make plans because I was in a relationship. Recently becoming single, when I noticed HB9's Instagram post of a picture of the party where we met a year ago, I commented, then she commented, so I texted her. We went back and forth for a couple days until she told me that was "kinda wife-up these days lol." That's when I asked for advice on this forum, and one fellow member responded, who thought that I should move on because she was just being nice about saying "I'm taken. go away." Although, as it turns out, I am very much in the game, I responded to her today (1-2 after not responding to her) by saying what the forum member advised me to say. Below is the text conversation:
Her: Sorry [for the delay] I was at work. I've been laying off the partying. I'm kinda wifed-up these days lol.
*No conversation in 1-2 weeks.*
Me: Hey, I gotta new phone after my exam so I'm still getting delayed texts. Just got your last text. Text me when ur single.
Her (immediately): It's like that? Lol
Me: Like what? Given our history and our connection, I don't think being "just friends" is in the cards for us.
Me: Besides, there's millions of ppl in NYC, and you haven't even been here a year. If ur already in a relationship, he must really be out of this world incredible. (My off-the-cuff, customized bf destroyer)
Her: He is pretty incredible.
Her: But not like you were pursuing anything with me
Me: I was. I never hid my interest. But I'm not gonna keep chasing when I don't get responses
Her: You fell off the face of the planet
Me: Aww hahah I've always been here . And it'd be great to spend time together, but not if you're in an official relationship
Her: It's official. But rocky
Me: Life's too short for rocky relationships. Let me know when you realize that
Her: Or you could let me know next time you're doing something fun.
Her: How did your exam go?
We'll see what happens from here.