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    Vidar is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Help me with my PoF profile...

    http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=89762811

    I've had some moderate success on PoF over the past year and a half getting about 14 F-closes, but despite putting in more effort recently on both Pof and Okcupid my success seems to have completely dried up. I'm getting zero responses and I'm not sure why.

    Okay I know my pictures aren't great, but as a guy who actively avoids the wrong side of a camera it's all I've got (Though I'm looking into getting some semi professional pictures done). The profile has been written with advice I've taken from here and I've even tried following the message structures in some of the guides here. I'm probably way, way off on it though so please I could really use a fresh pair of eyes.


    Thanks,

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    Default Re: Help me with my PoF profile...

    Hello,

    1) your main photo needs to be an upclose pic with a great smile. Show off your pearly whites.

    2) your about me section, is kinda boring. Use humor and dont be so serious. Dont try to sell yourself to girls. Saying stuff like Im nice or laid back down to earth will never work. Be more risky.

    3) your messages follow same principle as #2

    4) you should include more photos of your social life, activities and pics with other girls

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    Default Re: Help me with my PoF profile...

    I stopped at your pictures. IMO, you need more than two, and they need to be much better. They are both face only. I think you need to show at least your upper half of your body, and the pics should convey 'something'... these are literally just pictures. I don't think a lot of women will get to reading your profile with the set of pics you have.

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    CesareBorgia is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: Help me with my PoF profile...

    Take pictures of you actively doing something that is interesting. If you are concerned about your looks, or worried about how you look to other people then it will not only help you to look more natural if you are captured doing something interesting, but also convey something interesting about yourself. For example, if I were to post a picture of myself, I keep huge salt water aquariums. I might take a picture of me feeding one of my sharks. I also have a crow, I might take a picture feeding my crow, or with him on my shoulder. For work, my business is recovering and refining precious metals. I might have a picture of me pouring molten silver or gold, at night, with the glowing red light and the flames from the burning oils in the mold as I am pouring.

    When I was bouncing, and I have only seen this one time. A guy handed me his ID one night, and as soon as I looked at his ID I couldn't help laughing. Literally. The picture was so goofy, and so unlike anything I have ever seen on an ID before that it just made me laugh in a way I couldn't control, at all! Even more funny was how he responded. He said "Laugh, I did that on purpose (which he only could have it was that goofy) but then he said "You cant believe how many tickets that picture has got me out of" Now that to me is amazing. He affected through that type of communication, the law enforcement officer to such a great degree, made them feel so good, that they didn't write him a ticket. Or more correctly, they couldn't write him a ticket because of how his picture made them feel.

    Take a really goofy picture, not just with your eyes wide, or your tongue out. Take a bunch of really goofy pictures where you are trying to look as funny, awkward, different as possible. If you can get a good laugh, that is a good start, always. Matter of fact, take the advice of someone above this post, take a picture showing off your pearly whites but not just a big smile. Make it a big, gigantic, totally outlandish smile. The way the brain works is like this. When we see someone smiling, our brains do not register it as them smiling unless we really think about it. Instead, our brains see it as if we are smiling. This is why we often cannot control smiling when someone smiles at us. The power of a smile is way underestimated. It's the same as a yawn, when someone yawns we tend to yawn also without even realizing it. Or if someone is laughing, we tend to laugh even when we do not know what they are laughing about. It's the brain thinking that it is doing the yawning or the laughing, and this is why we respond in the way we do. I know it sounds weird, but trust me, if you google this you will realize what I am saying is not only true, but has been studied and replicated over and over again to teach the concept at the college level.

    We only communicate about 7% or so through words, consider this:

    Dr. Albert Mehrabian, author of Silent Messages, conducted several studies on nonverbal communication. He found that 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% through certain vocal elements, and 55% through nonverbal elements (facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc).
    So knowing this, we should not rely so much on words in an online profile. Most people do, and it's a huge giant mistake when posting a dating profile. If you read the dating sites they will often encourage you to post a picture because profiles with pictures get a better response, and this is the reason why. Facial expressions, gestures, posture, are the majority of the way we communicate. So making your pictures about you, meaning your work, your hobbies, what you make for dinner, each with you in the picture actually doing these things will convey more than just a picture of your face and should be considered. Since 38% of what you convey is the inflection, timber (women for example talk about a man's deep voice) lilt, etc of your voice, try this. Post a youtube video of yourself where you are talking about something you are passionate about, really passionate about. Then post a link to your youtube video. If there is an option to do that on the dating site, take advantage of it. If there is also an option for just your voice, take that one as well and do something similar.

    Also realize that there are three types of attraction, mental, emotional and physical. In your voice post, your video post and your picture posts, as well as your profile, make sure you are expressing something that will affect the person you are communicating with emotionally, mentally AND physically. Like for example, make mention of something physical you do in your profile, something that makes you feel happy, good, positive, and something interesting and engaging. Do so with everything you post and you will have a profile that draws the person viewing it in, 100% instead of just 7%.

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