So this girl who I work with texted me after 4 days of no contact. I never really initiate texts with her. She has been the one to do it like 7 out of 9 times. It's kind of me playing hard to get, but at the same time, I don't really like texting. I'd rather call and talk but she never wants to yet because we've only been out together 3 times and, since I act pretty shy, she probably is afraid of the awkward silence on the phone. It could happen, but I'd still rather talk on the phone. Plus, it's hard to build a real connection over text when that's all we do. Not to mention, I generally take a long time to respond (like hours) which isn't good, but anyway.....our most recent text conversation went like this:
Her: "Hey "
Me: "Hey you "
Her: "What's up?"
Me: "Going to class. You?"
Her: "Walking around downtown with my friend lol. Have fun at class."
Me: "Oh okay. Have fun downtown. I'll shoot you a text later."
Her: "Okay "
Okay, so I didn't say anything fun or flirty, but I wasn't really trying to. I mean, I thought about saying "You're going to have to think of something more creative than that " in response to her "Hey", but I don't see the point in text flirting all the time and never talking on the phone. I know I'm probably over-thinking this, but anyway, I waited 2 days to text her later like I said I would. I just sent her "Hey (name), I've been super busy lately, but I haven't forgotten about you. Whatcha been up to? Text me back when you get the chance." Now she hasn't responded in like 4 days lol. I know she's probably not into me because the situation between us involves a lot more than just this, but did I text something wrong? Should literally every text with a girl be fun and flirty (for me, it might be strange because I'm different over text than I am in person because I have more time to think about what to say)? Also, if a girl doesn't text you back in 4 days, is that a sure sign that's she's not attracted to you? Oh, ONE MORE important question. Should I wait for her to text me (if she ever does at all) or should I text her again (what to text then)?
Right now I'm getting the idea from her that she maybe even just feels bad about cutting me out of her life, so that's why she keeps initiating texts with me or something. We do work together sometimes. So...I don't know. I'm just thinking about being really honest with her and telling her, on the phone, that I like her and want to take her out again. The thing is, I've made a few mistakes. For example, I should've kissed her when we cuddled at a drive-in on the second date. Then, I shouldn't have tried kissing her in her car outside of work when she wasn't ready for it. LOL so maybe I was going to tell her that timing isn't my thing, but I like her and want to give things a shot still.