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Thread: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

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    Default I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    First off, I typed my whole message thread and when I went to submit, It deleted everything. I'm not typing everything all over again, I'm getting right to the escalation part.

    This 19/yo HB 7 opened me first on a dating/meeting app called Badoo on my smartphone.

    Her: Hi….
    Me: (her name) there you are! I've been looking everywhere from you.

    We bantered the rest of that day; she sent some non sexual face pics.

    Today she opened again first, I tried escalating a little bit.

    Me: ….On a lighter topic, what are your hobbies, passions, dirty talents?
    Her: rock climbing.
    Her: You? passions, dirty talents?
    Bla bla bla I told her I play electric guitar and am planning on going snowboarding this year in a well know ski resort.

    Her: THATS COOL!


    **** This is where I tried escalating

    Me: Dirty talents? Hmmm… Practice makes perverts; I guess I have to practice some more!

    Her: Practice huh?
    Her: Hmmm… you might be allowed to practice on me

    I'm not really sure what to say from here? I don't want to screw up my chances, but I feel like I have to take a risk or I won't get laid at all….

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    ***UPDATE***

    Well, I didn't get any replies to help me out, so I kind of just went off the top of my head.

    ******************** ******************** ****
    Me: Ohhhh, I don't know if you can handle it
    Her: Pretty please, I'm really turned on!
    Her: If anything you probably can't handle it
    Me: (laughing emoji) What?! You don't know what your talking about... I can totally handle it.
    Her: Then come get me
    Her: You must be afraid

    ******************** ******************** ******************** ******************
    I'm not going to lie, I don't think I would get this far and I was trying to stall, just like a B!tch
    ******************** ******************** ******************** ******************


    Me: Alright, we'll have to meet sometime. I want to make sure your not going to lock me up in your basement or do something… too nasty (scared emoji face)

    Her: OMF!!!

    ******************** ******************** ******************** ******************** ****************
    Damn it! I thought I screwed up my chances and looked like a weenie! I decided to man the f up and take a risk
    ******************** ******************** ******************** ******************** ****************

    Me: Do you live in (city)?
    Her: I do , technically (suburb of city)
    Me: Tonight?
    Her: Do you wanna?
    Me: I don't think I'll be able to sleep tonight, you turned me on; practice makes perverts, right?
    Her: True that
    Her: Are you gonna come get me or are you a tease?

    ******************** ******************** ****
    Hell yeah! It is on. I jumped in the shower, flossed/brushed and put my nicest calvin klein, guess and express clothes on… I can't believe that I actually managed to get this far. This isn't really even a hookup app, more like a local date or friend app.
    ******************** ******************** ****

    Me: Yeah, where are you?
    Her: (address)
    Her: Just to warm you up, Im in my pjs.
    Me: You have to send me a pic…
    Her: Snap Chat?

    ******************** ******************** *************
    Sh1t! I don't have a snap chat. I'm definitely creating one now!
    ******************** ******************** *************

    Me: I wish I had a snap chat; whatever, I'll be there anyway.
    Her: Okay
    Her: Just text me when your here

    (PIC OF HER IN PJ'S; NOT TOO SEXUAL)

    ******************** ******************** ******************** *
    I'm hauling a$$ in my camaro to walmart at 10:30 pm to get some rubbers
    ******************** ******************** ******************** *

    Her: ???
    Me: I think I'm here...

    Not much more to messaging from here. It was kind of embarrassing, it was pitch black, no street lights or numbers on the houses. After a while she opened the door and stepped out. She told me that her landlord doesn't like guys hanging out with all the 18 and 19 YO girls in the house and she said if she could come with me. We got in my car and it was a 10 minute drive back to my place.

    At my place, she got on my bed and we talked for about 5 minutes. I couldn't chicken out now! I tried to create a sexual vibe and I looked deep into her eyes and she slowed down her talking. She said something like, "Ok, are you ready?"

    I leaned in and she grabbed me and we were kissing, which escalated into full on making out.

    I tried to remember a kissing thread by some dude on here; I cradled her face with my left hand and slowly kissed her bottom lip from her right side and moved left and slowly escalated from there, while I was sliding my right hand under her shirt, touching her bare waist.

    She eventually got on top of me and took off her shirt; there is a god! I haven't seen a nice pair of tits bouncing and pressed up against me in 2 years! I slid my hand in her pants and grabbed her a$$ and slowly starting inching my way to the money spot.

    She was literally dripping before I even touched down there. She took off all of her clothes and said she couldn't take any more teasing, but she wasn't on birth control. This is the reason I went to walmart! I told her to hold on, I have something. She told me to get ready quickly. I grabbed my rubber, slapped it on and was ready to go.

    Now, this was kind of embarrassing. I don't have much sexual experience, but I know I like having chicks on top. She got on top, but it kept sliding out or she was at a weird angle. She felt kind of embarrassed and said she hasn't done it too many times before and she's not that good, she got on her back and told me to go slow. I don't know if the rubber was too tight or I was nervous, but I kept going limp. I tried not to make it noticeable, so I went down on her and tried to pretend that I knew exactly what I was doing.

    I did a ton or roleplaying, which she seemed to really like. I finally got hard again and we went out it some more.

    I've wouldn't have ever imagined I was gonna get laid that night. I thought I was going to have to fork over $$$ for a couple of dates and try not to mess up on them. I feel so confident and smooth just after that. My vibe is totally difference, because at work I had two chicks flirting with me and I was teasing them with sexual innuendos and messing with them and they were eating it up!

    Whoever reads this, can you critique me on my messaging game and what I've could have done a little different. Also, I probably have some type of sexual anxiety because I never have a probably going limp by my self. Can you shoot me some tips and ideas to get over it?

    Peace out for now...

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    Well done good sir! You got the desired outcome you were looking for so what you decided to say worked! It's clear from your post that you don't have a lot of recent sexual experience and that is the source of many of your problems. Always be 100% mentally prepared that sex could happen at any time. When the opportunity presents itself, you won't get flustered and start speeding to Walmart to buy condoms. You should always be prepared for the occasion when sex comes calling. Always keep you're place clean as if a women is about to come over and for god sakes have condoms. Do yourself a favour and buy the Costco sized box.

    As for your text game, I highly recommend that you check out "The Ultimate Guide to Text and Phone Game" by Love Systems. It has millions of texting techniques and will help you properly sexualize the conversation. I convert about 90% of my phone numbers into dates since studying this product. I thought your texts were fairly decent, you stalled out a bit but you plowed through anyways. When a girl is willing to go sexual with you on the phone, push for the meet up right away whenever possible. Not the next day because you will have to re-create all that momentum and sexual energy you've created to get her to that point. Jump on that opportunity right away. Especially with datting apps now like Tinder, these conversations can escalate quickly so be prepared to take advantage.

    About your problem with your sexual hardware, it's likely just sexual anxiety. It's probably just a symptom from not having had sex in a while. The more you have sex, the better it will get. If you can turn this girl into a FWB, you can practice on her and your anxiety will go away. My friend who is a doctor says that there's been an on-going increase of young men trying to get treated for Erectile Dysfunction. The vast majority have nothing wrong with them, it's all mental. Next time you're getting it on, relax yourself and just focus on her body and all the bad things you want to do to it. Think about nothing else and you'll find that your anxiety issues will be negligible.

    Great field report man! Best of luck!

    -Dizzie

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    Thanks man, I appreciate it! It's cool having guys that are interested in PUA that you could talk to and get advice without being judged. When I didn't get any replies coming back, I thought my favorite PUA forum was dead...

    I think it might turn this into an FWB situation, which I'm cool with, because I need the practice lol. Her and I both agreed that we are both just looking for fun and nothing serious. The cool thing is that she actually asked for my phone # when I dropped her off.

    I'm borderline OCD, so my place is always immaculate and clean. That's the first thing she noticed when she came in my room, she's said me and my room smell soooo good.

    As far as the sexual anxiety, I seem to get it when I have sex the first time with a new girl. She actually didn't notice because I went down on her and did a lot of foreplay; that and I don't think she was that experienced either. She told me she's never been teased and warmed up that good before. She kept moaning for me not to stop and after a while I got hard again and just pushed on like nothing happened.

    The funny thing is that I went to bed at 2AM and had to wake up for work at 5AM, which was kind of the reason for stalling; it was worth it though

    This was a huge confidence boost. This is gonna sound weird, but I feel like my whole vibe and energy slightly changed. At work for example, the girls are always opening me, high fiving me and flirting with me. Girls and guys alike have been complimenting me on clothes. This PUA stuff is more than getting laid, it's an all around improvement to mens quality of life.

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    It's guys like you that bring life back into the forum. I just got out of an LTR that lasted the last 1.5 years and haven't been on the forums much recently. Definitely a lot less activity on here then there use to be a year ago.

    The best time to meet women is right after you've gotten laid. An abundance of women attracts an abundance of women. I swear they can smell it off of us sometimes. Make the hot streak start now, keep the approaches and numbers coming!

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    At work today I had this chick eating from the palm of my hands… She even moved work desk, so she could sit right in my cubicle. I was throwing in sexual innuendos and teasing her and she was playing back. She spilled water from her water bottle on her self and I commented that she's sloppy and dripping all over. She busted up and said, "that sounds sooo bad", while she was biting her lower lip. While I was working with clients over the phone, she would even sit there like a little puppy waiting for me to get done. We happened to have lunch at the same time that day and she followed me out and invited her self to come with me to lunch since we both had it at the same time.

    I'm sooo glad I got my convertible camaro fixed, because she commented on I how good I looked while the wind was blowing through our hair. Funny thing is that she's had the same boyfriend for 4 years since high school and she's 20! I feel like if I play my cards right, I can definitely have her in my bed, but she's good friends with 2 other chicks at work which I also flirt with; it might make things super awkward… I might try to get into their social circle and meet their other friends outside of work.

    As far as the original chick I slept with, lets call her, L; I've been texting her and teasing slightly.

    ******************** ******************** ***********
    ME: It's cold this morning, wish I had you here to warm me up
    Her: (Pic of her with a seductive smirk)
    ME: lol, is that your warm-me-up face?

    (the next day)
    Her: Sorry I got busy. Yes it was
    Me: It's all good. I've been swapping schedules at work too… We have to get together sometime and chill…
    Her: Totally lets do it

    (A couple of hours later)
    Her: ***pic of her holding a baby***

    ******************** ******************** ******************** ****************
    My heart dropped to stomach and I almost had a stroke. On a weird subconscious level, I felt like I knocked her up or she was thinking about having kids.
    ******************** ******************** ******************** ****************

    Her: My friend has a cute baby
    Me: ***scared emoji*** Whoa, you scared me! That isn't mine, right? lol
    Her: OMG I'm sorry!!!
    Her: It was cute…
    Her: We couldn't even make a baby that quick!!!
    Me: I know, I was just kidding. It is pretty cute
    Her: ha ha ha. Yes his name is Bla bla bla
    Me: cool, how old is he?
    Her: 3 weeks
    Her: her kids are practically my nephews
    Her: WTF I posted this on fb and ppl think it's mine
    Me: Lol, not ready for that…
    Her: OMG, I would die

    ******************** ******************** ******************** ***********

    The night I slept with her she said she is so scared of having kids and I just wanted to make sure we were on the same page. That photo scared the hell out of me!

    I'm going to try to keep this a FWB relationship. I have tomorrow off and was thinking of bringing her over tonight, but I'm not really sure how to word it? Should I try and ask her if she wants to watch a movie and "chill" and have her get the hint? Or flat out ask her to F***?

    I really appreciate the feedback guys!

    Have a good one and keep on sarging on...

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    As long as it's non needy and you're not being an a**hole, you don't have to send anything fancy. That's the beauty once you've already hooked up with a girl. A movie invite is an easy invite since you still don't know her that well and it won't make her feel like she's easy. If want to keep her as a FWB, just don't take her on dates like you would a normal girlfriend. Cheers!

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    I picked up a red box movie and she stayed overnight. I think I'm being too smooth though… She keeps acting like I'm perfect and I'm starting to feel a little uncomfortable. She throwing compliments left and right. She said like 20 times how me and my room smell so good, how she loves my fit body and how I dress, how I kiss, how I have sex… She keeps saying how better, at almost everything, I am than previous guys she's been with. She even was complimenting on the sexy boxers I was wearing! She's practically putting me on a pedestal. This isn't really what I wanted; I wanted like a casual non attached FWB thing with her, so I can practice having sex. I don't want her to start having deep feelings for me. She cuddled me all morning and kept kissing me and I eventually told her what time she works and said I have a couple of things to do, which was partially true. I took her back home.

    She's like an HB7, but she's has shorter hair and dresses kind of plain, which brings her more to an HB6.5 . I love long hair on woman and if I have a girlfriend that's going to be around friends and family, I want her to have long hair, dress sexy and be something I'm proud of. Yeah, it sounds vain, but I always take pride in how I dress, present myself, fit body, clean rooms, clean cars, etc… I want a girlfriend that's a reflection of that.

    I'm going to start getting hooked up with people at work and get into their social circles and trying hitting clubs and bars to get more variety and put myself out there some more. I feel like I have momentum and a vibe that other chicks are picking up on; I have to keep building that momentum and get the courage to start sarging HB8, 9 and 10's.

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    keep it up bro! Your text game isn't bad...besides...the more girls you text...the better you will get . Keep it up...as for your FWB situation. TALK about it...you'd be surprised at how many girls will be okay with the non pressure FWB. Just remember to not act like a boyfriend...make sure all meet ups end in sex...don't get too deep in with the feelings or sharing shit about yourselves. I mean you can...but if you feel that boyfriend and girlfriend territory..cut it out.

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    Default Re: I escalated message; now things heated up and don't know what to say?

    Why didn't you just say...

    "Okay. When and where?"


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